Jean Jacket
NOPE
This is like the third " how do I deal with a break up thread" in a span of a few weeks
Valentines is the great equalizer.
How You Deal With a Breakup?
- Thread starter Tommy Lee Jones
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Valentines is the great equalizer.
Pedro Negro
Reefer & Sneakers
Take time for yourself.
I went through a breakup last year after a 7+ year relationship and jumped back in the dating game much too quickly. I'm now right back in a relationship with this chick I'm already thinking of ending it with and it's only been about 4 months. I rushed right back in and it was not a wise move, so I say that to say it again....
Take time for yourself.
I went through a breakup last year after a 7+ year relationship and jumped back in the dating game much too quickly. I'm now right back in a relationship with this chick I'm already thinking of ending it with and it's only been about 4 months. I rushed right back in and it was not a wise move, so I say that to say it again....
Take time for yourself.
This. It's a time equation. We can't solve for x. Only you can...in time.
Passion for hobbies uve neglected. Get back into physical fitness because the more testosterone you have the happier you will feel. Go outside and get some sunlight because the lack of sunlight is linked to depression because of vitamin D deficiency. Call someone that doesn't mind hearing you vent and run your mouth until you purge those demons
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Tommy Lee Jones
All Star
every relationship you're in you prepare for it to end? its funny to me how women can check out months before and then tell you when it's too late. that's why I'm not even trying to get back with her.
Tommy Lee Jones
All Star
I jumped back on the apps like a week later and meeting up with this chick on Friday. Im just waiting for her to ask me bout my last relationship lol. just gonna say it ended in November or something.
7 years is a long time but why you think you rushed into it? we really need time to comprehend this shyt or what? When my last relationship of two years ended I think I only waited a few months but it took like a year to find the girl I just broke up with.
Tommy Lee Jones
All Star
I been doing all of this so looks like I'm on right track. I always work out but signed up for boxing like 3 weeks ago punching those pads great stress reliever.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
I don’t “check out”
I said prepare myself so it’s not a shock when it does end. You know like prepare for the worst, hope for the best? There’s a difference between losing feelings for someone and preparing to leave them for months before following through with it and emotionally preparing yourself for the end (whether it’s you leaving or them leaving/cheating/dying etc) but still being invested in the relationship/making it work.If you’re unhappy then leave but I’m speaking from the place of a happy person that’s just aware that things can end but hoping it doesn’t.
Yeah usually things feel a lot better after the first 72 hours. Try not to send any emotional text to bait responses. Stay consistent and busy with constructive activities and when you're ready start being social and meet some slump busters
Do your best to cut all communication , permanently.
Boxing will help alot. You may feel very sentimental after a good workout but resist the urge to communicate.
If she starts talking about she left something at your house, mail that shyt to her or leave it outside.
These are facts…If your pipe game was on point then she’ll come looking to give up the draws soon. Knock it down but don’t get back with her
Pedro Negro
Reefer & Sneakers
I hate to say lie, but lie about when your last relationship ended, because you will definitely turn some chicks off being fresh out a breakup.
Me personally, I jumped on apps after a few weeks. Hit up old flames and fukk buddies. Honestly breh, I have no idea how I ended back up in a relationship so quickly. We met on an app, it was super casual and then shyt just happened/feelings got caught.
I really do think everyone needs time after a breakup to "date themselves" as corny as it sounds.
Not sure how old you are, kids ,etc. but just make sure you dedicate the time needed to find balance and your own happiness before sharing your energy with the next chick in a serious relationship.
MoveForward
Veteran
Can you expound on this?
Some good stuff hereit probably is breh
anyways
follow my guide
Years ago I wrote my Ten Commandments to getting over an EX, follow these steps and in no time you will be happy again.
1. Say Nothing or be very concise.
A) If you are dumped through text message say nothing – silence is a form of tacit communication
B) If it’s over the phone just say okay and I gotta go
C)if its face to face stay calm, don’t disagree and slowly make your exit.
Why? Keep your emotions in check, the less you say the less of anything you say or do that you will regret later will happen.
Keeping your dignity is one of the biggest and best things you can do. Crying, screaming, begging, getting angry, asking why etc. will get you nowhere except looking pathetic.
2. Don’t contact them ever again
Everyone knows of the no contact rule and trust me it works, by totally cutting all forms of communication, No fishing on facebook, twitter, instagram, snapchat, tiktok for information. No calling or texting and slowly but surely they will get smaller and smaller in your mind.
3. Never be friends with the ex
Exes only want to be friends to relieve their guilt, keep you as a backup in case the new person doesn’t work out and/or string you along to mess with your emotions. If your workplace demoted you from a paid employee to a volunteer would you still show up to work? just dead it and cut the cord go your separate ways.
4. Go hardcore and disappear
Exes no longer should have any sort of privy to your life, block them so even if they search they will not be able to contact you, change your phone number or email address if you have to. This is the quickest and best way, to kill the sickening disease known as hope that may linger in your belly.
5. Remove any pictures and any gifts
Yep remove all pictures of you two you may have hanging around, nothing is worse than seeing a picture of you and your ex smiling by your bedside etc., lingering on Facebook in your photo album with a bunch of likes and comments. Any gifts given its up to you, if it’s a constant reminder then in the trash can it goes. Remember all of this is to heal cut the cord now.
6. Let your emotions out.
Sometimes people keep their emotions buried deep inside, but trust me nothing is better than just venting whether it’s writing on a piece of paper how you feel, talking to someone who has your back, even going to therapy. Let all that hate, angry, sadness, pain out. Make sure never to your ex though, NEVER LET YOUR EX KNOW YOUR EMOTIONS.
7. Travel / Go Out
Staying hosed up at home crying in your pillow gets you nowhere, your ex is more than likely at a club, bar, hanging out not thinking of you at all so why are you wasting valuable time in your life, get out there and enjoy your new found freedom.
A few days away can do wonders, or if you can even a week. Realize that there is a big world out there with billions of individuals plus the freedom and release you feel from just relaxing and enjoying life is great.
8. Realize your ex isn’t all that
It’s amazing how your ex could be straight horrible, a cheater, abuser, liar, alcoholic, did all these horrible things to you and throughout the relationship you were stressed out and wished many times you could just go your separate ways. But once you are broken up your mind plays tricks on you and suddenly they are a perfect 10/10 with no faults. Realize your ex is not that special more than likely they were just a starter relationship in your life, but the mind is a powerful tool that is playing tricks on you.
9. Hit up relationship forums and read stories!!
Yup, you think you got it bad because your ex dumped you, or you found out your ex cheated, or you dumped them and your struggling why did I do that? Just hit up any relationship forum and read stories of 20 year marriages broken up, or 7 year relationships ended. Realize hey there are others going through this, my situation is not that special, I will get over this. And at least I wasn’t married with 2 kids and now paying alimony and child support.
10. Learn from your Mistakes
Learning from your mistakes is key, maybe you didn’t follow your gut. I remember in past relationships in my life, I had this feeling of I should get the heck out of here and ran into red flags early on, but they were hot. I did not want to hurt their feelings so I said screw it, and the emotional bond got more stronger and then ended up getting burnt in the end.This taught me for the future when I see red flags, or get a feeling to EJECT and get out of there. Remember in all your past relationships the common denominator is YOU!!!
Summing it up…….
It’s up to you, how long you want to live and battle with the pain. The more time you waste dwelling on past people in your life the longer it will take to find that next special person. Remember there is someone on their hands and knees praying for someone like you right now!
Jean Jacket
NOPE
Can't be in more than 1 place at a time.
Gotta choose. Same with Christmas... people are cheap and break up so they don't have to spend.
When you break up with a chick and she's like...If your pipe game was on point then she’ll come looking to give up the draws soon. Knock it down but don’t get back with her
"We can still fukk right!?!?"
