hw do you deal with rejection ?

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I grab a bottle of chilled Nuvo out the deep freeze, pack an overnight bag and go mewling to a chick I know would be down to get stoned, let me press my face against her hip and just push that shyt out my mind, especially if I'm approaching a drought and on the verge of having them fukked up ass adult nocturnal emissions dudes be getting fukkin' around on that No fap whilst gettin' no cheeks shyt, when they body need to start rejecting that shyt since you ain't in the position to throw it out ya self. (pause)

I feel sorry for cats who don't got atleast one broad they can just roll over, kick it with and bounce with nary a problem.
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How to deal with rejection in 3 easy steps

1. Accept: there is no rejection.

This is concept 1 you need to accept.

It sounds ridiculous 'but she/he did reject me. I made my move, I shot my shot.. and they said no'.

There is mismatch.
There is 'not right for each other'.
There is 'people change and no longer feel the same way'.

But there is no rejection.

Wrap your head around this and your life will become WAY easier.

2. Manage expectations and learn about accepting

Accept that just as you have preferences (McDonalds vs BK, LeBron vs Durant, spicy food vs non-spicy) other people have them to, about everything. Including about WHO they date, love, leave.

'But it's not fair' and 'how dare someone reject me' are both thoughts that are results of childhood lies. Your mom/dad told you the lie that you are the most special person and most beautiful person in the world and you bought it. A result of this is the word: ENTITLEMENT. Now you subconsciously believe you are entitled to only yes and to get whatever you want. You'll say 'I know I can't always get what I want' but when it comes to love: you can't handle 'no'.

Nobody owes you that they would want you; not even your wife or husband - they too at one point have the right to choose to leave.

The issue is people think in reverse: 'I want this, so that person should want me'. They do everything based on THEIR wants. How about making your want 'I want to understand what this person wants, and then figuring out if that actually rhymes with who I genuinely am'? Now if people did that, you know.. act like adults, weddings would drop by a 50% rate. Because in large part people get married because 'they want to get married' as opposed to 'being the person someone wants to marry'. Let that sink in. Those are 2 hugely, hugely different things.


3. Have some perspective

Realize what hurts you now in 1-2 years this won't mean a fukking thing to you like how what mattered to you 1-2 years ago doesn't. You move on. The hurt is more about you than about the other person. Of course heartbreak is real. 'No' or 'No more' sucks. But it comes down to this picture that you should not be hearing no and that it should've all been a smooth ride that went your way. Luckily life doesn't work like this, and situations that are not optimal for us get ended, by others or us or mutually. This gets us to the #1 requirement for being happy with someone: to be single.

Relativity and perspective are everything in getting that.
 

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How to deal with rejection in 3 easy steps

1. Accept: there is no rejection.

This is concept 1 you need to accept.

It sounds ridiculous 'but she/he did reject me. I made my move, I shot my shot.. and they said no'.

There is mismatch.
There is 'not right for each other'.
There is 'people change and no longer feel the same way'.

But there is no rejection.

Wrap your head around this and your life will become WAY easier.

2. Manage expectations and learn about accepting

Accept that just as you have preferences (McDonalds vs BK, LeBron vs Durant, spicy food vs non-spicy) other people have them to, about everything. Including about WHO they date, love, leave.

'But it's not fair' and 'how dare someone reject me' are both thoughts that are results of childhood lies. Your mom/dad told you the lie that you are the most special person and most beautiful person in the world and you bought it. A result of this is the word: ENTITLEMENT. Now you subconsciously believe you are entitled to only yes and to get whatever you want. You'll say 'I know I can't always get what I want' but when it comes to love: you can't handle 'no'.

Nobody owes you that they would want you; not even your wife or husband - they too at one point have the right to choose to leave.

The issue is people think in reverse: 'I want this, so that person should want me'. They do everything based on THEIR wants. How about making your want 'I want to understand what this person wants, and then figuring out if that actually rhymes with who I genuinely am'? Now if people did that, you know.. act like adults, weddings would drop by a 50% rate. Because in large part people get married because 'they want to get married' as opposed to 'being the person someone wants to marry'. Let that sink in. Those are 2 hugely, hugely different things.


3. Have some perspective

Realize what hurts you now in 1-2 years this won't mean a fukking thing to you like how what mattered to you 1-2 years ago doesn't. You move on. The hurt is more about you than about the other person. Of course heartbreak is real. 'No' or 'No more' sucks. But it comes down to this picture that you should not be hearing no and that it should've all been a smooth ride that went your way. Luckily life doesn't work like this, and situations that are not optimal for us get ended, by others or us or mutually. This gets us to the #1 requirement for being happy with someone: to be single.

Relativity and perspective are everything in getting that.

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Its crazy how we think about only the people who didn't like us instead of the people that liked us for us. Kinda a big fukk you to them.
Great point.

People are entitled af, it's a natural result of their parents making them believe they are the center of the world and the general mindset in the West.

Nobody sends flowers to their best friends, everybody whines about heartbreak..
 

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Well when I was single I’d just keep it moving:coffee:

Funny thing is soon as I got in a relationship all the females who rejected me or brushed me off was hitting me up :skip:

Talking bout girls I haven’t seen or heard from in 2-3 years
 

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I understand that I can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. Also it’s not always about attractiveness, but compatibility (real or perceived).
 

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Women fake it for their bfs everyday, b. Secretions do not equal orgasms.

In my heyday, I was able to go ghost without a trace on a girl for 3 months and come back to still hit. Their current situations didn’t matter.

If you were piping her to her satisfaction, she’d still been fukking you while she was “single.”
What happen to women only need emotions while fukking.....
:jbhmm:
 

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Women fake it for their bfs everyday, b. Secretions do not equal orgasms.

In my heyday, I was able to go ghost without a trace on a girl for 3 months and come back to still hit. Their current situations didn’t matter.

If you were piping her to her satisfaction, she’d still been fukking you while she was “single.”
What happen to women only need emotions while fukking.....
:jbhmm:
 

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I play this over and over :mjcry:

















































:mjlol: but honestly though I approach around 5 - 7 chicks a month on average and I usually get rejected by them even after they do give me their number. Sometimes I'll get to kiss one or two but get bushed before I fukk :mjcry:. It gets frustrating in times of a big drought but its part of them game, ima kinda used to it now.
 
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