Hypothetical: Your S/O Is Becoming Signficantly Washed Up

[Dwight Howard]

How do you break it to them that they need to lose weight or whatever...

Is it better to be blunt on some zero-tolerance shyt or is it better to throw out subliminal lifestyle recommendations? I'm not one to hurt feelings but I don't know what connects more.

 

[killacal]

If you can't speak your mind with her about anything you need to Bush her

This time you've wasted pondering this shyt, can be used more productively.

And if you keep it G from the jump you can tell her she needs to lose weight and she wouldn't think anything of it because she knows your intent isn't to harm.


If you're getting mad at the truth you gotta check ur ego

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

Everybody gets washed at some point. It just depends. If youre not living a healthy lifestyle then what are you worried for?

 

[SNG]

How do you break it to them that they need to lose weight or whatever...

Is it better to be blunt on some zero-tolerance shyt or is it better to throw out subliminal lifestyle recommendations? I'm not one to hurt feelings but I don't know what connects more.

Lead by example you can't expect your s/o to lose weight if your not a door prize yourself. Ask her to roll to the gym with you. If your married then you might have to be real. Y'all are together until death do us part so you might as well says whats on your mind.

 

[Dwight Howard]

Everybody gets washed at some point. It just depends. If youre not living a healthy lifestyle then what are you worried for?

Let's just say she isn't even 30 yet...

 

[SATAN]

I like em soft and jiggly, send her my way



I'm always blunt and up-front with everyone, even loved ones. I tell them the truth because I love them.


She's not taking care of herself because she's not into you.

 

[JackRoss]

Tell her to kill herself and find yourself a new woman. It's that easy. Don't overcomplicate the situation

 

[fckyoupayme]

Don’t do sublimate. Be direct but kind. Also, before you say anything, have a conversation with yourself. Is she actually “washed up” or are there legitimate reasons why she has changed. Are you the person you were when she met you? Sometimes we have expectations for others that we ourselves do not live up to. Something to think about.

 

[JackRoss]

Let's just say she isn't even 30 yet...

She before 30? Yikes. Do you workout and eat right yourself? If so, try to get her into it with you.

If she refuses, she my previous comment

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Should get a chick that takes pride in her appearance and tries to keep her looks up to par. A woman shouldn't need a man to check them on looking like trash.

I've just straight up said that I like the way a woman looks and don't want them to get lazy and change for the worst. I make it clear I'm not one of these "personality is what really matters" lames they can become lazy with.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Change your own diet and start working out consistently. If she doesn't catch the hint and join you, you invite her tag along. If that doesn't work then you just have to be straight up and voice your concerns. But you as the man need to be an example. You can't expect her to do so something that you're not willing to do yourself.

 

[SNG]

I like em soft and jiggly, send her my way



I'm always blunt and up-front with everyone, even loved ones. I tell them the truth because I love them.


She's not taking care of herself because she's not into you.

I wouldn't say that it all depends on the mindset of the women. If a women doesn't value herself physically and won't do it for herself then no amount of persuasion will work.

 

[Heafcliffe]

IN

 

[Vandelay]

Change your own diet and start working out consistently. If she doesn't catch the hint and join you, you invite her tag along. If that doesn't work then you just have to be straight up and voice your concerns. But you as the man need to be an example. You can't expect her to do so something that you're not willing to do yourself.

This. I can't ask my lady something I'm not doing myself.

And if you're living by it, she'll probably just pick up on your example indirectly.

 

[MaxPain]

Tell her to lose it

Or she’ll lose me