I am 26 and not ready to settle down, am I behind in life?

[Solo ✧✦✧]

There's no such thing as settling down too early or too late. Every body doesn't have the same priorities and desires. I don't care about having a player phase and having sex with as many women as possible so I'm fine with being committed.

 

[StickStickly]

Most marriages end in divorce too
Frequency of sex also plummets when people get married
Let me ignore that and get married because everyone else does it though

This "everyone else" does it reasoning is compelling

But how often are you having sex now ?

 

[Art Barr]

Just live. Damn

This.

There are no people really ready for commitment in this new media technology based age, in general.
As people in general, in this time and era.
Are, simply not about the human connection.
You must establish a human connection and when everyone in general.
talks like they all are cheater swag individuals and operate as one.
You have to establish the human connection and if it never materializes and you never know what that is.
Then, you will never have that type of connection to warrant a possible idea of a committal.
So, work on creating human connected dynamics first.
Then, once you do that,...then you can start adding in other variables like paying attention to virtue, intelligence, compassion, selflessness, emotion, etc.

Until, you find someone to be connected to as a human being.
You will never find a person worth even bring around or even later committing to and creating a relationship with.



Art Barr

 

[Art Barr]

But how often are you having sex now ?

How often you are having sex is a variable.
Yet, you can create a sexual relationship.
where there is no compassion and neglect the human connection.
So, it is about mating first, don't forget that key.
Yet, you also have to be mating with a woman.
who you have a deep human and emotional connection with.
That illustrates them as being a worthwhile long term mate.
Who actually cares about your interest and is selflessly in tune to talking and dually acting in the physical/mental.
Then also instrumental on the front lines to creating a great life dually with you.
With choices and life based interaction and activities you both compromise on.
Depending on the issue being handled predominately.
by the party male or female party best equipped to handle that issue publically, and in good faith.
It is tons of variables from social.
to even small like the ability to know how to purchase large ticket items, together by compromise.
So, take these in consideration and remember if there is no human connection.
Then, you know that is a non-committal off top.
Plus, where and how little.
to value that interaction with that mate, on a short/long term basis.



Art Barr

 

[Ashley Banks]

@Juicy is our resident young chick. Maybe you should ask her.

Do an experiment. Randomly ask 100 women ages 20-25 how old their husbands or boyfriends are and I bet upwards of 90% will say they are with 2-5 years age difference.

Early 30s is good for a man. It's important they are professionally established and personally developed.

My husband is 4 years older than me. The only young female I know with a guy that's more than 5 years older than her is my sister. 2 of my friends are with guys that are a few months younger than them, the rest are 2-4 years younger than their bfs/husbands.

 

[Coli Bot]

No right or wrong answer here. As a man you'll never be happy whether single or in a relationship. Life yall.... pick your poison.

 

[ChiefQueen]

sometimes i wonder how much experience thecoli has with women

Not much!

 

[miranda]

If you want kids and want a 2 parent home then heed this:

And like I said, as you age women gain more baggage. Sperm also gets weaker, too. You will never be ready and there will never be a right time so if you want it, you need to lay the foundation now.

Are you okay? Is some there holding you hostage, making you type these sensible things

 

[Jone2three45]

What's more important? Building with someone through the years and naturally letting things flow like i.e. friendship>relationship>marriage>children? Or waiting later in life and rushing into marriage and children with someone you barely know because of time?

In your 20's you should find someone who is receptive to you and vice versa. Have common interests, goals, morals and values that you share and most importantly build with them. Just like someone posted earlier, you should be looking for a relationship with someone to grow and build with first, then think about marriage and kids much later on.

Never rush into marriage and having kids.
That's a process, a time management thing...not a rush hour.

 

[ChiefQueen]

My husband is 4 years older than me. The only young female I know with a guy that's more than 5 years older than her is my sister. 2 of my friends are with guys that are a few months younger than them, the rest are 2-4 years younger than their bfs/husbands.

Girl, you married now? Since when?

 

[1thouwow]

Flabby wife happy life I don't depend or need another person to "complete me" which is the theme of many ppls reasons to marry another person
the sample size of married couples I've directly observed is small but everyone around my age give or take 5 years is and stagnant in every facet of life
My friend earns vacation time only to end up in Disneyland year after year with his kids and overweight wife
Meanwhile I was in Paris and Barcelona last fall

I'm happy right now

You lost this battle a while ago

 

[Poitier]

Are you okay? Is some there holding you hostage, making you type these sensible things

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Nah, that standard of tryin to find a wife in your twenties was back when nikkas could find respectable jobs just off the strength of being able bodied

This.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Get your money right first.

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

When you know you'll know.
Love is where you find it, not where you look for it.