I am 26 and not ready to settle down, am I behind in life?

[EndDomination]

As long as you're not 26, still struggling to graduate from college, in your parent's basement playing video games all day, only eating junk food, with no career, you're not behind. But if you're any of those things + flabby and sick, you are and you need to get it together.
Marriage should happen when both parties are ready to be married and when there is a clear benefit for both.
Don't listen to most of these Coli brehs, half of these nikkas are deadbeat fathers and porn addicts, who spend all day at their $15/hr IT job before going home to drink shytty liquor while watching wrestling.
Never stop moving forward in life, and actually spend your time with women who would be worth dating and marrying.

 

[StickStickly]

How often you are having sex is a variable.
Yet, you can create a sexual relationship.
where there is no compassion and neglect the human connection.
So, it is about mating first, don't forget that key.
Yet, you also have to be mating with a woman.
who you have a deep human and emotional connection with.
That illustrates them as being a worthwhile long term mate.
Who actually cares about your interest and is selflessly in tune to talking and dually acting in the physical/mental.
Then also instrumental on the front lines to creating a great life dually with you.
With choices and life based interaction and activities you both compromise on.
Depending on the issue being handled predominately.
by the party male or female party best equipped to handle that issue publically, and in good faith.
It is tons of variables from social.
to even small like the ability to know how to purchase large ticket items, together by compromise.
So, take these in consideration and remember if there is no human connection.
Then, you know that is a non-committal off top.
Plus, where and how little.
to value that interaction with that mate, on a short/long term basis.



Art Barr

Yeah sure, but i was asking the guy because he implies that coupled people have less sex, when in fact even if they have it twice a week, they're probably having more sex than single men or women

 

[MalikReloaded]

My husband is 4 years older than me. The only young female I know with a guy that's more than 5 years older than her is my sister. 2 of my friends are with guys that are a few months younger than them, the rest are 2-4 years younger than their bfs/husbands.

I like women that are 3-4 years younger than me My brother's girl was 6 years younger than him. It happens.

 

[Auger]

Whose to say it would pan out regardless of what path you take?

That doesn't disprove what I said

 

[Mr swag]

shyt I'm 30, single, and not even talking to no one

 

[:-)]

Hun I'm 30 and nowhere near ready for children or marriage. Live your life and build what you're working on. Don't get so focused on finding a wife that everything you're working on or have worked hard for, suffers. You will know when you find her and when the time is right. Please don't rush anything!

 

[VFib]

You will know when you are ready. Until then, just enjoy life.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I like women that are 3-4 years younger than me My brother's girl was 6 years younger than him. It happens.

Cool

 

[Serious]

My man is 30, (31 in Feb) and Im 23. I ain't shyt but he says I have "potential"

He did it right.....

Half your age + 7

 

[Jahmal]

Find one by 30. The quality drops off severely afterwards.

Thats only if you try to date women your own age. I'm 34 and only smash women that are 21-28. Women my age are

 

[1thouwow]

Yea. I look at my married friends with bags under their eyes, kids with giant heads, buying used minivans and no longer living life for themselves but for some little mutant or having shared bank accounts with their bird wife.
Both parties fat or sloppy as shyt. Vacations catered around activities for kids.
And I think

"How can I trade all of my freedom, the ability to spend all my money on whatever i want, vacations abroad, coming and going as I please, using all of my energy to progress as a man academically, professionally, physically, lyrically, hypothetically, realistically.. for a life like theirs "

i dream of coming home to a shytload of toys scattered across my floor with a wife that gave up trying to look good for me years ago

Black George Clooney of this shyt

 

[Kenyan West]

You're twenty six. You're young. Live your life on your own terms and stop comparing yourself to others who in reality are probably in piss poor relationships. Society shouldn't ever dictate what you should do or when you should do it.

Someone in this topic said that as men, we don't have all the time in the world. For the average man, that's true. Alot of yall rock the flat top before thirty.

However, if you stay on point, we men got mad time. Don't think about the dating life with a quarter life expiration date like women and lames.

Be better than average and you'll have options well into your older years.

I'm thirty. I have zero kids and is in good health. Marriage is not even on my mind right now, but I know it's inevitable because I want children.

When that time comes, it comes.

Focus on building an attractive lifestyle so you attract quality naturally. Men who get in their feelings, talkin bout "is it too late?!! " instead of knowing that they're the shyt are doing themselves a huge disservice.

 

[Kenyan West]

I'm a 28 year old woman, and I'm not in the position (personally, where I want to be pre-wife/children) to be married and a mother right now. I'm definitely relationship oriented and highly nurturing, but as far as my personal plan for my life, I'm not there yet. I embrace that. It's better to know yourself and what you're capable of handling/doing, than to try and meet someone else's expectations for you...

Your whole post was brilliantly written and extremely candid. Wow. I agree with you wholeheartedly about what a relationship should be like and what it would take for me to enter one.

Dating as a 28 year old woman with the biological clock ticking increasing in volume as you age must be hard as fukk to deal with emotionally.

Hang in there.

 

[Lithe]

Your whole post was brilliantly written and extremely candid. Wow. I agree with you wholeheartedly about what a relationship should be like and what it would take for me to enter one.

Dating as a 28 year old woman with the biological clock ticking increasing in volume as you age must be hard as fukk to deal with emotionally.

Hang in there.

Thank you. As I said, it's something I feel very passionately about. I had just been discussing it, so I was still a bit in my feelings since it's new.

I don't think my biological clock has started ticking, honestly. Or if it has, I can't hear it over the real life pressures and challenges I'm busy facing that I know (for me) are something I need to work through before I go dedicating my life to a husband and kids. I don't think you can really love or know someone be until you love and know yourself. My father instilled that in me from day 1, and I heard it for the 27 years I had with him on this Earth. I still live by the lessons he taught me. He also taught me that I am worthy of honest love and respect.

Had I married the guy who swore he was in love with me at 22, I would've entered into a very unhealthy marriage because it was based around a fetish on his behalf. An African American, virgin (truly, not the "everything but" kind) female with a good attitude and nice body (as I've been told) who is cool and sociable, but also low key tends to stick out in a town full of mostly wild, party going, white people. I wasn't with it. Straight up told him I'm not his contest or conquest, and he could run and tell it to anyone else who wanted to try it. My high school was clique central and I gravitated between them all since military brings so many people together, had a lot of dudes come at me sideways, and I was not falling for some sweet nothing, wasting my time and energy. No thanks! You're cool, but that's all.

I know I will be an excellent wife and mother if I'm blessed with the opportunities someday, as it's in my nature to nurture, but I have to take care of me first so I can be who they deserve. The type of love I want to experience and foundation I wish to build upon will only survive when I'm at my best and making the best choices for me. I have plenty of friends with children, young cousins, and kids I keep to quell any baby fever I might experience! That's a gift in its own way, too, and I appreciate it.

I'm still going strong! Thank you!

 

[the artist known az]

Find one by 30. The quality drops off severely afterwards.

That ain't true, you just get one in her early to mid 20s