I am now single man, its been a minute, how's the dating scene

[Ohene]

Depends on age breh. Young girls will waste your time and money or maybe they just wasn't feeling you like that. An older woman late 20s and up will not be doing that in fact she'll be rushing you.

iunno breh. i've been single for 9 months now and in a city like Toronto it isnt much of a difference.

the truth is that if these women are 28+ there is a reason they are single usually. it often comes down to them

a) not knowing what they want
b) not being mature
c) not knowing how to cultivate and nurture a relationship

they may not be as deliberate as young women in wasting your time, but when you uncover how fickle they are, how poor they are at communicating, how poor their conflict resolution skills are, all the dumb rules they have, what baggage they have etc. they end up being just as bad. a lot of single women are grown children seeking validation and attn. they dont change that much as they age imo

just my experience

 

[Peter Popoff]

Naw, I am a legit six cert brehs and over six feet too. She makes over six figure herself. Money isn't the issue. I am just an extremely care free dude. I will marry and have kids but I'm not the type to go 100 mile per hour for any woman.

As a matter fact she complains a lot because I'm always so focused on career goals and now investments. She says I'm way too money driven when really I just want financial freedom. She says I have trust issues when it comes to money which I do but not with her since she makes her own.

Money is one of the leading causes for most divorces. If there's no agreement in the middle on how to invest and save money, you're pretty much doomed.

That's the reality of it and choosing a s/o is like choosing a business partner. Even if she's making 6 figures, if she's not smart with her money, that's a red flag.

 

[CrushedGroove]

Sounds like she compliments you. Where you are carefree and will let life pass you by, she is driven. And where she is stubborn, you offer alternatives to consider.

But your values and what you want are the same. This is what you can hang your hat on. Timelines and how to reach the goal can differ, but if you ultimately want the same thing, then that's a foundation you can build upon.

Read up on effective communication together and always keep y'all love for one another and your goals in the forefront.

Go back to your woman breh.

 

[Phitz]

I think the dating scene is similar to your relationship.

She's ok for a while, and you have a peaceful relationship, then after 6 months or 2 years she wants to create a reason or drama for you to break up.

Pretty much set and in stone now and it all comes to down to my GF thinking I am wasting her time . Her biggest issue is that she feels like I don't set personal goals. Marriage, kids and home buying. To her things have to be perfect on her time.

We almost broke in January because we had a rough past six month, from moving to shyt that were said because she thought I cheated ( I have never cheated and have had p*ssy handed to me on a silver platter and I have said no. The moment we patch shyt up through couples therapy she started pressing marriage 100 mile per hour.

I do want to get married and have kids but I don't like pressure. I was going to do it this year for sure after our rough patch. Despite our differences, she is not a bad woman. There are qualities I look for in a woman such is this woman the type that will be by your side when health issues come up. Kid raising but sometimes she just worries too much about life while I am a carefree guy.

I don't subscribe to GMB lifestyle, we are getting old...lol dont have much time nor do I plan on dating any woman under 30,

 

[Loose]

How long y'all been together? Anything over two years a female is going to feel like you wasting her time if you don't have future goals

 

[jmegamar]

Imo you need to figure out within yourself what the issues are. Yall did couples therapy so that’s a start but def do some individual therapy. After my divorce I was a resentful savage and that’s honestly how you have to move in this dating game now. Eventually you will either see that she isn’t as bad as these other women out here or you will find someone who suits what you need. Good luck out there. You will need it.

 

[Scaaar]

Lol fair enough thats actually her exact stand. The wierd part she says I'm the best man she ever dated and feel like the next woman will get a very good man. She is even leaving the door open for our relationship.

That's exactly why she's hanging on to you. She's afraid that another woman will get the best version of you so FOMO is keeping her around even though she's frustrated. But to be honest breh she just might not be your woman. Something in your deeper self has you dragging your feet in regards to her. Trust that and let her go. The woman that can draw out the committed side that makes you start making plans is the woman that's for you.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Again, I hear you. What I'm basically saying is

We are not all looking for the same things. Some people want actual fufilling relationships and do things that make sense, while others wants ideals, outside validation and ego boosts.

Most people don't know the difference which is why vast majority of relationships fail.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

I'm trying to figure out what ur actual issue is. It seems like ur just over the relationship. I haven't really heard any glaring issues, yall both got yall own bread. U moved there for her and it seems like marriage is the next logical step. If u were already planning to propose this year how can u feel pressured? It doesn't make sense to me. I honestly feel like ur over the situation and in denial about it.

Biggest thing really is location. Also our relationship is a lot of work because of we are very different. We reached a medium on everything but pushed for a proposal now it feels very much forced and not natural. I was going to do it this year for sure.

That's exactly why she's hanging on to you. She's afraid that another woman will get the best version of you so FOMO is keeping her around even though she's frustrated. But to be honest breh she just might not be your woman. Something in your deeper self has you dragging your feet in regards to her. Trust that and let her go. The woman that can draw out the committed side that makes you start making plans is the woman that's for you.

She is not incorrect because honestly living with a woman for year has made me close a lot of blind spots that the next woman won't deal with. I know for a fact I'd be able to run through a bunch of women if I go out there.

She is who I consider the one but it won't be a smooth process. I can see kids becoming a huge hurdle u til we reach a middle ground

 

[Roid Jones]

Pretty much set and in stone now and it all comes to down to my GF thinking I am wasting her time . Her biggest issue is that she feels like I don't set personal goals. Marriage, kids and home buying. To her things have to be perfect on her time.

We almost broke in January because we had a rough past six month, from moving to shyt that were said because she thought I cheated ( I have never cheated and have had p*ssy handed to me on a silver platter and I have said no. The moment we patch shyt up through couples therapy she started pressing marriage 100 mile per hour.

I do want to get married and have kids but I don't like pressure. I was going to do it this year for sure after our rough patch. Despite our differences, she is not a bad woman. There are qualities I look for in a woman such is this woman the type that will be by your side when health issues come up. Kid raising but sometimes she just worries too much about life while I am a carefree guy.

I don't subscribe to GMB lifestyle, we are getting old...lol dont have much time nor do I plan on dating any woman under 30,

So you're a wasteman

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

man, go get your girl back. she's gonna run you ragged though, or she might be less combative/pushy after marriage. who knows.

 

[Scaaar]

We are not all looking for the same things. Some people want actual fufilling relationships and do things that make sense, while others wants ideals, outside validation and ego boosts.

Most people don't know the difference which is why vast majority of relationships fail.

Exactly! Someone in here said it already. But when you look at a chick you're thinking about taking serious ask yourself does she want a wedding or the marriage. A lot of chics get married for the outside validation and it becomes the core of your relationship. If she's doing that in the dating phase the marriage is going to be 10x worse

 

[Json]

If y’all ain’t running at the same speed on such major issues now, then it’s best you left it alone. Cause it only gets harder once your finances are permanently tied together.

Dating is as good or trash as it’s ever been.

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

Pretty much set and in stone now and it all comes to down to my GF thinking I am wasting her time . Her biggest issue is that she feels like I don't set personal goals. Marriage, kids and home buying. To her things have to be perfect on her time.

We almost broke in January because we had a rough past six month, from moving to shyt that were said because she thought I cheated ( I have never cheated and have had p*ssy handed to me on a silver platter and I have said no. The moment we patch shyt up through couples therapy she started pressing marriage 100 mile per hour.

I do want to get married and have kids but I don't like pressure. I was going to do it this year for sure after our rough patch. Despite our differences, she is not a bad woman. There are qualities I look for in a woman such is this woman the type that will be by your side when health issues come up. Kid raising but sometimes she just worries too much about life while I am a carefree guy.

I don't subscribe to GMB lifestyle, we are getting old...lol dont have much time nor do I plan on dating any woman under 30,

Dating abroad is amazing!!!

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Just get your passport and trick overseas. Maybe you’ll find someone there eventually