Amare's Right Hook
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Get back out there you son of a ?#$^, we believe in you.
I am now single man, its been a minute, how's the dating scene
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MisterMajesty
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Sheit, this ish got me wondering bout a situation i came out of not too long ago.Because basically, to you, she’s the woman that you’re like “hey…yea whenever we get there (marriage), if we get there, we’ll get there”. <— carefree
There’s going to be some woman you encounter where you say “Aw yea, nah. Lemme lock this down”.
She has realized that she isn’t that woman who inspires that thought, motivation, or desire in your mind or your heart. So it’s best she cuts her losses.
Like you said, she’s a good woman and she’s demonstrated that she was down for you during health issues. But that still isn’t enough for you to think about marrying her WHILE YOU CONTINUE INVESTING AND BUILDING because deep down you aren’t thinking about a future with HER, you’re thinking about your own future and if she happens to still be around when you do accomplish what you want to accomplish, cool. If not,.
That’s the exact vibe you’re giving her.
And then when you come across another nice woman you’ll be like “aw damn she reminds me of _____. Yea lemme go head and lock this one down”. Lmao
And she’ll come across another guy who was “carefree” and lost his chick and that guy will say “aw man yea lemme get this one right”.
The story never changes. Just the people.*
*I say this as someone with more men than women in my family so I watched a bunch of nice, perfectly fine girls pass through my cousins’ hands when I was a kid until one by one they were like “aw damn. Yea lemme get married”. Lmao
Just to have a real moment— this story is pretty common, and when y’all encounter women who are “jaded”, etc it isn’t always because they were left a “babymomma”. Many times there are women who try to show and prove that they are down for a guy and this is the result of their time investment.
And then society will say “well, you let him waste your time, etc”. But she had to invest that time and care into a man to even get to the point of a serious relationship and considering marriage.
Even got some of the brehs in here saying she sounds like a keeper (of course only you know that for sure).
Y’all simply aren’t on the same timeline and she just figured that out.
You could’ve quelled her fears and had a serious conversation with her about where you see things going and the timeline- “later this year”, but instead you let her go.
This is why some chicks are strictly after the money or just say fukk it and date guys who are older who don’t have time to waste.
Most men don’t get it unless they have a sister, daughter, cousins, etc.
Sounds like a nice girl .Hope she didn’t waste too many years
You either know or don’t know if you want a woman to be your wife, zero gray area. The fact that you have reservations apart from the typical nervousness since it’s life changing; let’s me know you’re not ready. Stop wasting both of you alls time and move on.
Relationships go how we lead them and you haven’t been leading. Let her go and move on. Like another breh said, in a couple of years you’ll realize she was a good one that you let get away and hopefully you find another one. She’ll come across a man who will lock her down quick wondering why you wasted so much time.
Relationships go how we lead them and you haven’t been leading. Let her go and move on. Like another breh said, in a couple of years you’ll realize she was a good one that you let get away and hopefully you find another one. She’ll come across a man who will lock her down quick wondering why you wasted so much time.
How so?
Ezekiel 25:17
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Women who usually push for marriage and kids turn out to be ain't shyt. The man who marries her will be in for some hell
The good are the ones who don't care about a piece of paper or ceremony.
The good are the ones who don't care about a piece of paper or ceremony.
Ezekiel 25:17
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MisterMajesty
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I'll have to DM you on this. The peaks an valleys of it are fukking wild.
Ezekiel 25:17
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at 36 dating scene is trash.
Just get your nut off and enjoy single life. I can't do it, all these useless conversations.
Was together for 13 years, i'm not build for this bs. All these women using filters and angles and shyt. Most of them damaged with kids.
Time to brush the dust off those passports and take a flight to more vibrant dating scenes playas.
I was back in my old city last year, hopped on a dating app real quick and saw the same women I seen back in the mid 2010sexcept they older and fatter.....they just getting recycled, nobody locking them down.
Yet coli lnikkas always talk about how they can't take younger women serious. How's that life experience working out for the older women?
Fuk that. I'm getting me a 21 year old jawn fresh outta college.
I hear that.
However, she could just be a woman who wants to create her own family and birth children in wedlock with a man she loves. And while she doesn’t need to follow society’s exact timeline or post proof on IG, she does need to have some sort of timeline for her life because there is a window for these things. This is exactly how women end up a girlfriend for 10years and everyone calls them stupid LOL
They aren’t on the same timeline.
Unless the dude has serious paper and truly good character, it is a bad decision for a woman to remain a girlfriend 10+ years past the age of 30 if she wants marriage.
Who Not How
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Half your age + 7Yet coli lnikkas always talk about how they can't take younger women serious. How's that life experience working out for the older women?
Fuk that. I'm getting me a 21 year old jawn fresh outta college.
Ezekiel 25:17
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Nah.
21 - 25. Right outta college, but not ran through.Some of these dudes 40 talm bout they can't take a woman under 30 serious. Well good luck.
Who Not How
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How old are you playa?Nah.
Some of these dudes 40 talm bout they can't take a woman under 30 serious. Well good luck.
this is why there should be an age gap of at least 7 years..or the half your age +7 because guys want to sort things out before marriage
gen z wants 28 year olds making 6 figures ready to marry, math isn't mathing.
gen z wants 28 year olds making 6 figures ready to marry, math isn't mathing.
I've been on a lot of dates off Hinge and Match and it's rough out here. I've had a few 3rd dates, but never more than that. These girls will just ghost you or they are crazy. I'm 41 so my pickings are slim (I'm not dating any woman with kids, ever). I keep trying, but it is demoralizing. Maybe these dating apps aren't it at the moment. I need to meet girls organically, but it's very hard to do that, especially in the area where I live. Good luck, breh
OF COURSE!
What I'm saying is if you’re in it for some years and he still doesn’t seem like he has a true timeline, you’re supposed to sit there for more years or cut your losses? They’re on different timelines. So either a woman just continues to hold on for something that isn’t guaranteed (which is the loop that most women get trapped in) or cut her losses and date with intention after splitting up.