I Cannot Believe The Reactions To This, Man asks date to split the check with him

[Balla]

I always paid for the meal during my dating days
Worst case: she gets a free meal.....

Best case: she wakes up at my spot in the morning......

although it was my early 20s and late 90s early 00s ...diff. times
Glad I'm off the market

Definitely different back then, couldn’t imagine how it was back then.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

His first mistake was taking a girl he is not in a relationship with on a date


Could never be me. If she aint meeting me at the bar for a few rounds then she clearly aint interested in ME, just what she can GET out of me. Bushes

 

[JLova]

That's why you gotta spend some time feeling out a broad before asking her out. On top of that, if you're asking her out, go out for coffee/desert or lunch. I haven't dated in over 10 years....but the way things are today, folk should be going dutch but it should be agreed upon beforehand. Things just cost too much these days to be spending all that money on dates that lead to nowhere.

 

[The Up Right Man]

If you not doing coffee shop meetups or walks around the city, park, or mall you lost.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

When it comes to women, I'm of the mindset of "why complicate shyt." Brehs are wasting MAD time trying to convince the vast majority of women out here to split checks on dates. It's too ingrained in their brains at this point that men who introduce this idea are"unworthy" and "cheap."

Instead, I'd much rather circumvent the whole thing and do things/go places that won't have me whining if I have to pay for the whole thing.

This. As much as I'd like to be modern and say I split the bill, if a dude expects me to split the bill I judge him. I'll pay for another part of the date (drinks, tips etc) but something about you "have to" split it down the middle feels weird and cheap to me. I judge him. I shouldn't but I do. I'd much rather just do something free than have 2 separate checks.

I am so use to men treating me at this point I feel like why mess with someone who won't when there are those that will.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

"If the man asks her out he needs to pay"


Yeah because women are asking men out

If a woman is in to you, she’ll ask you out. I haven’t asked a woman since college, and I don’t intend to till the day I’m married.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Women want equality but want to cherry pick which parts of it they want.

 

[Contrefaire]

I wouldn't feel right asking a woman to split a check.

Plus, the woman pays for stuff, then she wants to wear the pants.

Good luck finding a woman who shares the cost for dates, but is also submissive.

Meh. There are a decent number of women now who are willing to be "submissive" for the right one, but would still prefer to go dutch or in some way split costs if they're not feeling a dude. Hell, even if they were feeling dude they like to split checks so he doesn't feel entitled to take liberties on first dates.

In general, sharing costs of first dates doesn't mean much more than a woman not wanting there to be any residual feeling of "obligation" - on either side. IME it has little to do with her wanting to wear the pants or whatever the fukk.

More and more women are realizing that they can and should foot their own bills on first dates so there's no hint of "quid pro quo" or any "misunderstandings".

 

[kwazzy100]

I'd say, if the date isn't going well, split the check. It ain't like she's also paying gas money

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

he already paid i'd tell him to send me an invoice and i'll think about reimbursing him

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

Y'all who say "whoever asks the other out should pay" should just say y'all still believe in men paying and setting a precedent because y'all know who's asking 95% of the time...

Edit: Forgot the Coli is full of the top 5% of men

Exactly, the whoever asks the other should pay line is stupid because like you said, girls also feel its a man who should step up and ask girls out in dates so if he does he is automatically paying.

Secondly even when a girl asks a guy out on a date on rare occasions how many of those girls are REALLY expecting to be the one to pay lets be honest here. Real talk they still not tryna pay.

 

[ItzRailT]

I see nothing wrong make these broke bytches pay their way, they want to go out until they gotta pay keep that same energy.

 

[MikelArteta]

When the waitor or waitress comes around just say seperate bills please..

 

[IrateMastermind]

Clearly staged

Get off my dikk

You probably believe shows like Maury and Jerry Springer are real too huh?

Nothing gets passed you

 

[2stainz]

Stop feeding these heauxs.