dat nygga posted wednesdayDude might be locked out like our other fallen Coli brothers.
I Don't Enjoy Being Married
- Thread starter Hathaway
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Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
VegetasHairline
Veteran
Who ghostwrote this for you?Bro… I need you to hear this with an open heart. You are not broken. You are becoming. What you’re feeling right now isn’t failure, it’s the sound of a man realizing his life has chapters he never planned for… and that’s not a bad thing. It’s transformation.
You think you’re choosing between freedom or family… but that’s not the real battle. What you’re truly starving for is alignment… the feeling that your inner world matches the life you wake up to. You spent years living as a man shaped by faith, doctrine, pressure and duty. That version of you served his purpose. He built discipline, loyalty, structure and love. Those weren’t wasted years… they were foundation.
But now you’re evolving faster than your life has adapted. That creates pain. That creates grief. And none of that means your marriage is doomed. It just means you’ve outgrown a role you never updated.
Here’s the truth most men never hear…
Your kids don’t need a father who stays at any cost. They need a father who lives… who is present, honest, growing, and not dying inside quietly.
Your wife doesn’t need a man who sacrifices himself in silence. She needs a man who tells the truth of what’s happening in his spirit… so she can actually meet the man he has become.
You don’t need to choose leaving or staying right now. You need to choose honesty… with yourself first, then with her. Freedom doesn’t always come from escape. Freedom comes from alignment.
Grieve the years you feel you lost… because grief is cleansing. Create space for the man you are now… because he deserves air.
Talk to your wife without blame or fear… because she deserves to know who you’ve become.
And drop the lie that responsibility requires self erasure… it doesn’t.
There isn’t just “stay and suffer” or “leave and break the home.” There is a third door… reshape the marriage. Redefine freedom. Rebuild partnership in a way that honors the man you are becoming.
You’re not stuck… you’re on the threshold of your next evolution.
And if you walk this path honestly, you won’t lose your family… you’ll finally gain your life.
might be some of the realest shyt spit on this siteBro… I need you to hear this with an open heart. You are not broken. You are becoming. What you’re feeling right now isn’t failure, it’s the sound of a man realizing his life has chapters he never planned for… and that’s not a bad thing. It’s transformation.
You think you’re choosing between freedom or family… but that’s not the real battle. What you’re truly starving for is alignment… the feeling that your inner world matches the life you wake up to. You spent years living as a man shaped by faith, doctrine, pressure and duty. That version of you served his purpose. He built discipline, loyalty, structure and love. Those weren’t wasted years… they were foundation.
But now you’re evolving faster than your life has adapted. That creates pain. That creates grief. And none of that means your marriage is doomed. It just means you’ve outgrown a role you never updated.
Here’s the truth most men never hear…
Your kids don’t need a father who stays at any cost. They need a father who lives… who is present, honest, growing, and not dying inside quietly.
Your wife doesn’t need a man who sacrifices himself in silence. She needs a man who tells the truth of what’s happening in his spirit… so she can actually meet the man he has become.
You don’t need to choose leaving or staying right now. You need to choose honesty… with yourself first, then with her. Freedom doesn’t always come from escape. Freedom comes from alignment.
Grieve the years you feel you lost… because grief is cleansing. Create space for the man you are now… because he deserves air.
Talk to your wife without blame or fear… because she deserves to know who you’ve become.
And drop the lie that responsibility requires self erasure… it doesn’t.
There isn’t just “stay and suffer” or “leave and break the home.” There is a third door… reshape the marriage. Redefine freedom. Rebuild partnership in a way that honors the man you are becoming.
You’re not stuck… you’re on the threshold of your next evolution.
And if you walk this path honestly, you won’t lose your family… you’ll finally gain your life.
Who ghostwrote this for you?
I kidnapped a couple nikkas from the OVO sweatshop
VegetasHairline
Veteran
All jokes aside that's some real ass shyt you wrote.I kidnapped a couple nikkas from the OVO sweatshop
Pegasus Jackson
Trump's Amerikkka
might be some of the realest shyt spit on this site
Soliciting advice from a nikka named Young Hot Rod has to be the textbook definition of rock bottom.
thenatural
Superstar
I doubt he's ducking. Most likely forgot about making the thread and someone randomly upped it for no reason. nikka probably was in JBO dirtbagging it up, saw this, and laughed at nikkas taking him seriously.So he ducking this whole thread?
It's clearly ChatgptWho ghostwrote this for you?
Hathaway
Someday, We'll All Be Free
The context of my situation is too immense to explain. However, my marriage has been mended. Though my thoughts of freedom persist. I have found some semblance of acceptance that the dreams of my younger self are dead and gone. I have accepted that my wants and wishes no longer take precedent over my progeny and wife.
They need a strong and unyielding father/husband and that is what I have given them. I emotionally compartmentalize everything else in order to keep my sanity in proper order. Black Family over Everything
Good to see you are back in your right mind.
Give up on your marriage to follow your endless passions and you'll regret the structure you once developed and had.
Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
Good for your family Brother! My Wife went through the same thing. Previous to our babies, she was going to law school. Seven years later. She’s a stay at home mom wiping asses. Probably last year was when she finally accepted being a family woman.
Here’s the thing, she can study for the LSAT again and get into law schools. Is she about that journey still?
You and your family should be able to figure out how you can do two things at once. What would it take for you to follow your dream? Hopefully you aren’t trying to be a 40 something rapper or anything crazy like that. Maybe speak to your Wife, have a plan and tell her her I need 10 hours a week to focus on this. Thats one hour a day during the week and 5 hours during the weekend. We all know time is precious when raising children but you should find time for yourself.
A healthy lead (head) of the family benefits everybody.
One of my homeboys is an uber driver for his two boys right now. Both are in football, flag football, and track. That shyt is a money drain and doesn’t stop. Luckily one of his boys is about to enter high school. No more club stuff so once the younger brother gets there, they are finally free from the grind.
Parenthood is a motherfukker. Hopefully you are telling the next generation in your family about the decision of being the Man of his own family. shyt is not for the weak and you give yourself up for the greater good of your family. Not all men are built for it. Not all men realize what it takes. Not all men have the outside support. Not all men have the mental support outside of their spouse. Not all men have the proper mentors. You should have all of that to be truly successful and not just keeping it together.
I know the Coli is a trip but there are some good married brothers on here with sound advice. You can read through this thread and solicited if you choose. There’s nothing wrong with talk therapy as well. A third party can ask the proper questions and you may realize what the problem truly is. That could be dangerous too though, especially if you can’t do anything about it. I did therapy and stoped that shyt. shyt is spooky
The mature side of me commends you. That sounds like growth.
I’ll keep the immature comments to myself.
