I don't know if i was right in telling my gf this but we got in an argument and..
- Thread starter C-Styles
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there's no if, it's gonna happen, i tend to make things happen when i take over
If that was true you wouldn't have even had to have that conversation. Stop trying to manipulate your girl with empty threats breh. Either accept her or don't.
He's not a villain he just dumb. He chose to get in a romantic sexual relationship with a woman he didnt find sexually attractive. Then thinks he can force her to lose weight with the threat of him leaving or cheating. If she doesn't have the will or desire to lose the weight for her own health, she will never make a permanent change
His best case scenario is that she goes hard for a few months, loses the weight, and then leaves him for one of the men who will now be giving her constant attention because she looks better. A new man that hasn't told her that he finds her sexually unappealing and is daily plotting on cheating on her.
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C-Styles
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never said i wasn't attracted to her sexually, i just simply said that i wanted her to lose weight, because i checking out other women more than usual and i didn't like that. I want to stop something before it becomes too late. She did appreciate the honesty and tells me it was her fault that she hasn't done much about it, that she doesn't want to lose me. I told her, it's no one's fault, i just wanted to let you know this because this my current state of mind right now and i need help to clear this type of thinking by simply asking her to do something about it. Nothing "dumb" about talking about something that's bothering you with someone.
Reginald Noble
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This sounds like some everyday shyt. My girl isn't overweight but I tell her to prep all the fukkin time she won't listen to me. This is just Women period.
I wouldn't get with a pudgy chick on the hope that she lose weight though ever. Never trust a Woman to self-improve on her own. I would say we can be exclusive and I'll cuff you after the weight loss. I'd say on average if you can't get your dikk hard for a chick if she gains 20-30lb then don't cuff her. You need to leave margin for error because Women make excuses all the time about weight especially American Women.
It's easy to send the message though, stop having sex with her from today onwards and watch how fast she looses the weight. Break the shyt off entirely and see other Women. The pounds will fly off. It's do or die for her at this point. Men need to always have options. There's a chance though she may just settle for that :flabby:dude under your level. Her loss.
I wouldn't get with a pudgy chick on the hope that she lose weight though ever. Never trust a Woman to self-improve on her own. I would say we can be exclusive and I'll cuff you after the weight loss. I'd say on average if you can't get your dikk hard for a chick if she gains 20-30lb then don't cuff her. You need to leave margin for error because Women make excuses all the time about weight especially American Women.
It's easy to send the message though, stop having sex with her from today onwards and watch how fast she looses the weight. Break the shyt off entirely and see other Women. The pounds will fly off. It's do or die for her at this point. Men need to always have options. There's a chance though she may just settle for that :flabby:dude under your level. Her loss.
blockburna420
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I don't see anything wrong with what you said. Sometimes you gotta be brutally honest with your S/O, and if not it can turn into resentment from keeping it bottled up.Especially if its something she said she would do.
i already know females in here not gone understand it, but lets say you have a dude that makes you feel good and like you should. And you keep telling him empty promises, Eventually hes going to get tired of you bullshyting him.
i already know females in here not gone understand it, but lets say you have a dude that makes you feel good and like you should. And you keep telling him empty promises, Eventually hes going to get tired of you bullshyting him.
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Trajan
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you're cold.Btw when potentially hot chicks lose weight they start acting brand new
they're not used to the attention that dimes get.
Shiva
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Start taking dumps in her food when she's not looking. She'll start eating less, I guarantee it.
i want to address your post on different levels.
first, if your goal is for her to lose the weight, i think you went at it the wrong way. try positive reinforcement instead. like when she's eating write or working out, notice it and give her props. or if you notice she lost a little, give her props and the face. if your girl notices that you find her sexier, she will actively try to lose the weight and do the research herself because being sexier to you increases the power in the relationship. negative reinforcement will make her feel like she is incapable of doing it and in turn lowers her motivation. shyt might even make her eat more.
As far as getting with a chubby chick hoping she would lose weight, you played yourself. she's probably fat because she's lazy and a glutton. these are traits that are typically ingrained from an early age. that's like getting with a smoker and telling her "ok, i'll be with you but i want you to make efforts to stop smoking"
as far as the convo itself, it's funny how the women are saying OP is a jerk but yet overlook the fact that dude kept telling her he's ok and to just leave it alone but she kept nagging him to spit it out. was dude suppose to lie? would y'all want your men to lie to you when you keep nagging him to be honest? if you don't want the answer then don't ask the question. and before y'all say he could have been more tactful, this is one of those situations that the emotion and tone would have been a lie if he was more tactful. i think some of y'all like to get lied to.
one more thing to the OP, next time please paragraph your shyt breh.
first, if your goal is for her to lose the weight, i think you went at it the wrong way. try positive reinforcement instead. like when she's eating write or working out, notice it and give her props. or if you notice she lost a little, give her props and the
face. if your girl notices that you find her sexier, she will actively try to lose the weight and do the research herself because being sexier to you increases the power in the relationship. negative reinforcement will make her feel like she is incapable of doing it and in turn lowers her motivation. shyt might even make her eat more.As far as getting with a chubby chick hoping she would lose weight, you played yourself. she's probably fat because she's lazy and a glutton. these are traits that are typically ingrained from an early age. that's like getting with a smoker and telling her "ok, i'll be with you but i want you to make efforts to stop smoking"
as far as the convo itself, it's funny how the women are saying OP is a jerk but yet overlook the fact that dude kept telling her he's ok and to just leave it alone but she kept nagging him to spit it out. was dude suppose to lie? would y'all want your men to lie to you when you keep nagging him to be honest? if you don't want the answer then don't ask the question. and before y'all say he could have been more tactful, this is one of those situations that the emotion and tone would have been a lie if he was more tactful. i think some of y'all like to get lied to.
one more thing to the OP, next time please paragraph your shyt breh.
So you want her to lose weight so you won't be tempted to fukk other women?
Yeah that's a real motivator right there
I could understand if you got with her when she was smaller and then she gained weight in the relationship but you got with a chubby chick and basically decided to take shots at her self-esteem so she can lose weight to be what you want her to be, not what she wants to be (which is why she hasn't lost the weight). You're an a$$hole and she's too good for you.
Yeah that's a real motivator right there
I could understand if you got with her when she was smaller and then she gained weight in the relationship but you got with a chubby chick and basically decided to take shots at her self-esteem so she can lose weight to be what you want her to be, not what she wants to be (which is why she hasn't lost the weight). You're an a$$hole and she's too good for you.
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2 kids though breh? how old r u?
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keep her fat breh
once she becomes hot she'll leave you saying "thanks a lot"
once she becomes hot she'll leave you saying "thanks a lot"
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just read the single mother with 2 kids part
be strong breh
be strong breh
i want to address your post on different levels.
first, if your goal is for her to lose the weight, i think you went at it the wrong way. try positive reinforcement instead. like when she's eating write or working out, notice it and give her props. or if you notice she lost a little, give her props and the
As far as getting with a chubby chick hoping she would lose weight, you played yourself. she's probably fat because she's lazy and a glutton. these are traits that are typically ingrained from an early age. that's like getting with a smoker and telling her "ok, i'll be with you but i want you to make efforts to stop smoking"
as far as the convo itself, it's funny how the women are saying OP is a jerk but yet overlook the fact that dude kept telling her he's ok and to just leave it alone but she kept nagging him to spit it out. was dude suppose to lie? would y'all want your men to lie to you when you keep nagging him to be honest? if you don't want the answer then don't ask the question. and before y'all say he could have been more tactful, this is one of those situations that the emotion and tone would have been a lie if he was more tactful. i think some of y'all like to get lied to.
one more thing to the OP, next time please paragraph your shyt breh.
I was with you until the second to last paragraph. He is a jerk. The dude has a "problem" with some shyt that has always been there. Like how is that fair? If this shyt was the other way around and he had a few extra pounds and he kept asking what's wrong and she said "Well you said you would lose weight and b/c you haven't I was thinking about cheating on you." This would be a WHOLE different conversation.
You'd all probably tell him to leave b/c she can't be trusted. You don't threaten people with cheating. That shyt is hurtful, builds resentment and leaves a lasting impression. She may not have said anything but that shyt probably cut deep. I doubt she'll lose the weight and b/c of that the fact that he told her he wants to cheat will always be in the back of her mind. I agree that he played himself.
Dude said if you continue to look exactly the way you did when I met you I will cheat on you. But let a woman look at another man and half of ya'll would die a million deaths and question ya stroke game.
