Black Mamba
Superstar
Nope not for me 
“I don’t want to work after kids”
- Thread starter Braman
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Mordith
H.E.N.R.Y.
If you want an insight into what these women who are staying at home to raise kids look like in reality skim through r/marriage and read about all the stay at home moms complaining that their husband isn't helping them with the kids and house work on top of being the bread winner. Or husbands with stay out home wives who's wife hasn't fukked him in 2 years because she feels overwhelmed with her duties at home/the kids. 
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If you want an insight into what these women who are staying at home to raise kids looks like in reality skim through r/marriage and read about all the stay at home moms complaining that their husband isn't helping them with the kids and house work on top of being the bread winner. Or husbands with stay out home wives who's wife hasn't fukked him in 2 years because she feels overwhelmed with her duties at home/the kids.
Reddit is such an underutilized tool. Bc if we keeping it a buck, that’s one thing the whites do better than us
and that’s keep it real with strangers on the net 
have frank conversationsThere is no equivalent of Reddit for black folk. Everywhere you turn its mfers just trying to impress people. Mans said ‘a HVM makes sure his wife never works’
prime
Superstar
My woman would never let me pay 100 percent of the bills she always said she would feel like a bum not contributing to the bills I just make sure I do my part around the house cooking,cleaning,doing laundry and bathe my sons and wash their hair we do 50/50 and we love it
Quoting for emphasis. This is for for everyone who says ‘yOu gOtTa PayDaYcArE aNyWay’. Oh trust me, I did the math. Daycare at TOPS is 20-30k. And that’s the dmv. A more realistic avg is probably 10-15k
I can’t speak for yall but the demographic of women I talk to are not making minimum wage.
Also, they are college graduates and most have masters these days. So they are at LEAST flirting with 6 figures. So that’s not an even trade off and any woman who tries to use that angle is telling on yourself
NaijaProdigy Redux
Veteran
I make more than enough to support a stay at home wife and I still wouldn’t want that shyt.
I like and prefer career women. I love ambition.
I like and prefer career women. I love ambition.
Quoting for emphasis. This is for for everyone who says ‘yOu gOtTa PayDaYcArE aNyWay’. Oh trust me, I did the math. Daycare at TOPS is 20-30k. And that’s the dmv. A more realistic avg is probably 10-15k
I can’t speak for yall but the demographic of women I talk to are not making minimum wage.
Exactly. Most women ain't giving up careers for a 200k cat. They just aren't nor should they. It's not financially prudent. 500k is the new 100k and the marker of "WE don't worry about money any more."
That’s cool if it works for you. My house doesn’t operate that way. If I want to chill with my guys, I go. If she wants to go chill with her friends, she goes. Hell, my son is spending the week at his grandmas house hanging out with his friends in that neighborhood. We didnt lose out individuality when we had kids.
This is contradictory to your first point, bc at a certain level ALL women are ‘money hungry and money spending’. That’s why in the OP I mention she still wants and expects to tRaVeL and go out to eat, etc.
People are falsely equating a woman desiring to be a housewife with her being a more demour, virtuous woman
It really depends on the couple, how much household income they have, how many expenses they have, and how frugal they may or may not be. Women are spenders, but men can spend too and sometimes appreciate being able to buy the extras whether its cars, a nice vacation, gadgets, etc. Sometimes you may want to splurge on something you like and feel resentful if you can't buy it because your wife isn't working, and vice versa.
The biggest thing it always comes down to with marriage is trust and compromise. And compromise is something that's often easier said than done once you've been married for a while. Sometimes its little things like how much to spend on date night. Sometimes it major things like who can buy a newer car, who can go back to school, stay in the same house or buy a new one, which school to send the kids, and on and on. It's a lifetime of compromise. Money makes it easier in this economy, but it all comes down to the people involved.
The biggest thing it always comes down to with marriage is trust and compromise. And compromise is something that's often easier said than done once you've been married for a while. Sometimes its little things like how much to spend on date night. Sometimes it major things like who can buy a newer car, who can go back to school, stay in the same house or buy a new one, which school to send the kids, and on and on. It's a lifetime of compromise. Money makes it easier in this economy, but it all comes down to the people involved.
My mom has two masters degrees and worked till her retirement when my dad moved out of state for a new job. She did it all.
She set the standard for me on expectations.
Wife has one masters so I'm gonna need her to get the most from that and keep on keeping on.
Having a career is inconvenient at times but ultimately beneficial in the long run for everyone
She set the standard for me on expectations.
Wife has one masters so I'm gonna need her to get the most from that and keep on keeping on.
Having a career is inconvenient at times but ultimately beneficial in the long run for everyone
I would never have kids with a lazy woman.
I definitely am not equating a woman wanting to be a housewife, with her being a virtuous woman lol
I know a lot of no good bytches that's looking for a golden ticket to sit home and think she gonna live like a Kardashian.
But you're going to have to explain that first bolded sentence, brother.
And Why shouldn't she expect to travel and go out to eat tho?
lolWhat kinda operation u running here brother lol