“I don’t want to work after kids”

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Traveling and shopping aren't traditional parts of the deal. Ask the average 80 or 90+ yr old woman that stayed at home how much shopping she did or how many trips she went on.

If we keeping it a buck, men would be far more receptive to actual traditional roles as it is far more beneficial. When women speak on it they usually base it on the santized, rose colored, or frankly make believe version.

But my question is,

What are traditional roles? Because a working woman still cooks and cleans like a traditional woman.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Traveling and shopping aren't traditional parts of the deal. Ask the average 80 or 90+ yr old woman that stayed at home how much shopping she did or how many trips she went on.

If we keeping it a buck, men would be far more receptive to actual traditional roles as it is far more beneficial. When women speak on it they usually base it on the santized, rose colored, or frankly make believe version.

Shopping definitely was part of the deal, women were given money to do their hair and buy a few (or a lot of, depending on income) clothes. Only poor families had women making their own clothes and buying shyt second hand.

Traveling wasn’t a prevalent prior to the 90’s as airfare was still inaccessible to many, but taking the family on vacation a couple times a year is absolutely a family norm these days.

 

[FTBS]

But my question is,

What are traditional roles? Because a working woman still cooks and cleans like a traditional woman.

What are you getting at?

 

[FTBS]

Shopping definitely was part of the deal, women were given money to do their hair and buy a few (or a lot of, depending on income) clothes. Only poor families had women making their own clothes and buying shyt second hand.

Traveling wasn’t a prevalent prior to the 90’s as airfare was still inaccessible to many, but taking the family on vacation a couple times a year is absolutely a family norm these days.

And those poor families were still traditional and most families would fall into that category if they tried to live traditionally today. Those who have less have always and will always outnumber those that have more. If you apply actual tradtional standards a lot of dudes today could provide the basics, which is all those women were looking for. I'd venture to say fewer chicks today would sign up for limited to no entertainment options, eating out, traveling etc along with getting slapped around if they stepped out of line. Point is no woman who truly understands how it used to be would ever want to go back to that.

 

[Braman]

For the sake of the general topic, the two options are too black and white.

For the sake of this specific scenario, we are not compatible and we need to break it on up.

That’s kinda the premise of a deal breaker


I’ve encountered more than a few women who explicitly state they do not want to work.

 

[Richard Glidewell]

You doing yourself up by even entertaining that....... you starting out at zero value....... no educated woman I know had made that her goal...... if it happens it happens...... this being someone's goal let's me know they haven't worked on themselves at all......... you setting the table for the next one in this scenario...... you better test them kids.....

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

And those poor families were still traditional and most families would fall into that category if they tried to live traditionally today. Those who have less have always and will always outnumber those that have more. If you apply actual tradtional standards a lot of dudes today could provide the basics, which is all those women were looking for. I'd venture to say fewer chicks today would sign up for limited to no entertainment options, eating out, traveling etc along with getting slapped around if they stepped out of line. Point is no woman who truly understands how it used to be would ever want to go back to that.

Women weren’t looking for the basics, life was just simpler. And no, no woman will sign up to be abused but plenty would sign up for being a SAHM, but a lot of men who claim that this is the role women should want 100% don’t want to be the sole provider.

 

[NinoBrown]

Most of the Coli is making $200k+ a year. I don’t see why this should be an issue.

200k to 50k after alimony and child support would be a major issue lol...

Total submission, lockdown, complete obedience would be needed if this is to work....sex, laundry, childcare, meal prep, house cleaning, asap...

If total submission isn't guaranteed and they spend all day on IG trying to be Bravo Housewife...next...

I lived with an ex-gf who I supported through grad school, lived rent free, but she agreed help with chores, cook, grocery shop...

Maynne..I felt like I was in the 50s...totap submission works, just gotta assert yourself...

 

[Gloxina]

Then I ain’t a “HVM” Them newfangled ghetto definitions don’t mean shyt to me

 

[Higher Tech]

I don’t necessarily want a stay at home wife, but it’s better for the child in my opinion. As long as we have the same mindset of how we want the child raised, then I’m cool with it. I use my off days, so she can have time to do things without the child if she wants. Everybody can be happy if we work together. It just requires proper communication of expectations.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

My wife won’t be working after we have kids. She currently works full time. I handle all the house expenses, and her car insurance. She takes care of her credit cards, students loans, clothes, hair, nails, lashes, gym, and car note. We also have a joint savings account she regularly contributes to. We have separate checking accounts as well.

 

[Shadow King]

That’s kinda the premise of a deal breaker


I’ve encountered more than a few women who explicitly state they do not want to work.

Hardly anything is ever that black and white, least of all in a romantic relationship...

 

[jesc07]

A newborn in child care would be all of her money plus some so it's probably cheaper to have her stay at home.

 

[Turbulent]

Not my type. At the end of the day, she could be a stay at home mom, not even take care of the house, stay like that for a few years, divorce you and still ask for alimony.

 

[Braman]

She still wants to live a ‘plus’ lifestyle: travel, go out to eat, have you take her shopping, etc.

I’m not seeing enough people address this part. I think people see ‘stay at home mom’ and envision a docile boring content woman. That’s not what we talking about

She would be a stay at home mom… but still want all the travelgram lifestyle and fine dining and blank check type of spending and lifestyle social media has women obsessed with. In other words she wants to be a baller wife. And yall are DATING and she’s making this known. Yet yall are still signing up for this and saying it’s actually preferred