I get jealous of couples in public. How to turn off that feeling?

[Gunz&Butta]

You have to find your own tribe and stop looking for relationships elsewhere.

 

[drederick tatum]

Stop
fukking
Posting

 

[SunZoo]

Elaborate please

The neediness, self loathing and just overall repulsive energy that comes with your mindset.

You're not scum but you seem very dysregulated and brainwashed by a religion that encourages you to disavow the very thing that contains the solutions to your problems, the body. Body movement/somatic therapy, fascia release...shyt like that will do way more for you than pairing up with a woman who's resonates with your current state of mind.

And I'm not trying to be a smart ass or even offend you, I personally want to see you be well and win but real shyt, companionship and connection is very important, but none of these issues that plague your life are going to disappear just because you convince some girl, very likely a dysfunctional one that mirrors the challenges you're facing are going to be fixed by adding another person to the mix.

You need to get tf out of your head, grounded into the body, regulate your nervous system and THEN set the table for people to step into your life naturally. A man with the kind of thinking in the OP, even if physically harmless is not emotionally safe to be around, let alone when these frustrations and jealousy build up pressure and move into physical lashing out.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

You get jealous of those couples, but you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Theres a million men out there who would love to trade places with you because they got a toxic baby momma and child support killin em. Some of those women hold the kids hostage and the father has to fight tooth and nail to see them. There are some married men who haven't had sex in months




You say you jealous, but the Grass aint always greener on the other side.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I’m not the most good looking guy but I can get matches on tinder and get sex.

I just want a girlfriend not a girl to solely have sex with. Corny

So you get sex easy, but the woman doesn't want a relationship with you.


Why do you think that is?

 

[Rozay Oro]

The neediness, self loathing and just overall repulsive energy that comes with your mindset.

You're not scum but you seem very dysregulated and brainwashed by a religion that encourages you to disavow the very thing that contains the solutions to your problems, the body. Body movement/somatic therapy, fascia release...shyt like that will do way more for you than pairing up with a woman who's resonates with your current state of mind.

And I'm not trying to be a smart ass or even offend you, I personally want to see you be well and win but real shyt, companionship and connection is very important, but none of these issues that plague your life are going to disappear just because you convince some girl, very likely a dysfunctional one that mirrors the challenges you're facing are going to be fixed by adding another person to the mix.

You need to get tf out of your head, grounded into the body, regulate your nervous system and THEN set the table for people to step into your life naturally. A man with the kind of thinking in the OP, even if physically harmless is not emotionally safe to be around, let alone when these frustrations and jealousy build up pressure and move into physical lashing out.

I’m not Gnostic (ancient heresy that is actually against the body), so don’t see what my faith has to do with this?

I’ve tried therapy, this shyt ain’t really helping. I definitely don’t want a girl like me. That’d be horrible.

I’ll look into Body movement/somatic therapy, fascia release. Thanks

 

[Rozay Oro]

So you get sex easy, but the woman doesn't want a relationship with you.


Why do you think that is?

They only wanted sex or/and might not like my personality. Other times, me not being able to stimulate her through text

 

[SunZoo]

I’m not Gnostic (ancient heresy that is actually against the body), so don’t see what my faith has to do with this?

You bring your faith up in just about every one of these types of threads you make so it clearly has a huge role in creating the worldview that you have currently.

Externally seeking 'god', a woman or anything else pulls your attention from the body and away from your wisdom.

 

[Menna]

I know I have bytched on here a lot bout women on here when I get romantically rejected but I’m done. I’ve sobered up

As much as I love [Orthodox] Christianity.

Maybe I’m just meant to be scum. I’m sober but maybe I just need p*ssy to chill. I don’t know how to stop being jealous of loving couples in public. I get very sad, it’s so annoying. I wish I was a stone cold narcissist or psychopath.

Please don’t hate, I’m focusing on pursuing electrical engineering (not solely for money but something I can be proud of) and I go to therapy. I plan to see a psychologist soon to get a diagnosis on disorder(s) and etc. I tried antidepressants for 2 weeks but life without boners is gay.

Make fun of me but give solid input please. Trying to figure this out.

Bro, you look at two people you don’t know and get jealous lol…

You don’t know if they happy or what’s in their future.

It’s not about strangers that seem to be together you don’t like yourself.

Why not pick a goal and accomplish it…Save/invest 100k within 2 years. Get in better shape or learn the piano.

You aren’t proud of yourself that’s the problem. You think if you get into a relationship tomorrow it will be a healthy one? Nah