I hate hearing excuses for woman who return to abusive relationships

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

If the person who's abusing/manipulating has been the main source of affection and more importantly attention to said person, that's usually why they stick around

it's why being there for people

and allowing that emotionally vulnerability is important

and why it is pivotal that family has bonds and connections beyond "oh that's just my cousin, brother" etc.

cause if the only person they feel that has ever loved them, is the one knocking them upside the head, then it's gonna be a pain in a half unfournately to snap em out of it

So do I.

My point was just staying in that cycle and saying it is what it is fukk it instead of soul searching is gonna get you killed.

It’s just frustrating seeing people you care about not seem to care about themselves

 

[Draje]

I do know one.

and no i wouldn’t put it that exact way. There is a way to phrase things.

I just think the excuse to make it seem like it’s totally out of all women’s control is a bit much.

Like I said they do have an excuse and it’s usually low self esteem/childhood trauma as to why they stay but you have to be able to realize that you do have an out you just need professional help

And how much is “professional help”? Do they have the resources available for professional help?

 

[Commish]

Yeah that’s my only point you worded it better then me.

I have the utmost compassion and empathy for women who’ve been abused and also a lot of these same women were getting abused as a kid as to why that type of behavior seems normal so I get it.

But at some point in your life you have to take the reigns and as you said if an abusive women not at least trying to make steps to figure out why she’s doing it and how to one day get out then there s no helping her.

I have heard about some female relatives of mine getting hands put on them by their men, but end up staying with these men( pure speculation, no proof btw).

But, with my relatives, they don’t discuss their relationship business with me, so there is no reason for me to comment. So, I simply believe in minding my own business and let my relatives do them.

I figure that when they or any woman/man get tired of getting their ass whooped, dogged out and/or abused, that they will do something about it.

I got my own life to tend to…

This may sound cold hearted, but if any person I know is currently in an abusive relationship and doesn’t want to get out of it, then I hope they have some life/burial insurance! If they have kids, then should they get killed then at least the kids would have somewhat of a chance to live decently.

Lastly, I remember one of my half sisters commenting on me going to kick some dude she was messing with ass who wasn’t doing right by her (she didn’t mention any physical abuse). I didn’t comment on what she said, but in mind mind, I was thinking something different. She don’t know that I don’t on for nobody who ain’t my Mama!

Even my Mama have to tread very light when it comes to dealing with abusive men and getting me involved. I don’t believe in getting involved, catching fades, risking my freedom or life only for my Mama, sisters and other female relatives getting back with these dudes or flipping the script and putting on Wonder Woman capes for their abusive ass men because they ‘in love’ and all that BULLshyt!


Got this nikka ALL THE WAY fukkED UP!

It is what it is!

 

[Bushmaster69]

Listen man what is the point of victim blaming here? Is it annoying that they are going back to the abuser? Yes. Especially if you know the person. However, everyone is built differently.

You as a man should spend more time going after these dudes beating up on women than complaining in a forum about women going back to their abusers.

Offer real solutions to these women or shut up.