Ive been suffering from MS since I was 16 and Ive realised everytime I tell women I suffer from a chronic disease, I get get friendzoned. And even if I dont tell them, because I have major symptoms sucha s temporary paralysis once every few months, I eventually have to tell people. I know in the future things aint gonna be rosy since I have a degenerative disease so im trying to spend my youth as best as I can. And for me, that includes women. Should I stop trying have a relationship, since women are turned off by diseased men. I also suffer from depression as a result of this disease.
You have been given a difficult situation. What you must do is make the best of it. Cliche, I know.
Relationships are not meant to complete us but to be supportive.
Your main concern should be you. You have to come first. You have to be comfortable and content with yourself. Start a relationship with yourself and really get to know you. What are your likes/dislikes, passions, dreams, opinions, fears?
Relationships can be catalysts for self discovery. They show how you react to certain people and situations. You have to take time to dissect how and why you reacted in such a way and adjust so that you may improve yourself.
Relationships do not have to be romantic. Be careful not to become "co-dependent" meaning putting your worth in other people, whether it's in their opinions of you or how they treat you. Majority of the time when a person has an issue with you it's because of something they are dealing with in their lives.
In your case, it is difficult because you will need the help of others. I suggest joining a support group if you are not already in one.
As for depression, depression is usually caused by regreting/worrying about the past, anxiety about the future. You have to focus on the present, the here and now. What can you do today to solve your problems? What steps can you take to feel better?
Start small, focus on the little things. Break down big goals into smaller tasks. Baby steps will build confidence, motivation and momentum. When you feel yourself slipping into depression, remember the present, as long as you are still here, still alive you have the power and potential to make positive changes.
During the pain and paralysis, just focus on getting through it. Everything has rhythms and cycles, rain/sun, night/day, good/bad, winter/spring/summer/fall, even life/ death. You need the bad times, to appreciate the good, and the good times to get you through the bad.
i didnt tell him he should kill himself cuz he got ms, hell i dont even kno what that shyt is
