And I just want to say...
I'm in love brehs
Some of the greatest posters in TLR (
@DrX and Malcolm....imo among others) are accused of using this place as a "personal blog" ...so
I'm a lil tipsy and posting my feelings and shyt so
forgive me.....
I don't care if we gotta get
@YaThreadFloppedB! to come thru
I just wanted to let it out
(because yall seen the hurt/angry shyt I was on and .. .still how badly I really wanted to learn and improve...)
Regardless, I still get a lot of "who hurt you?" and "why you so bitter?" shyt on here and truth is ....I'm not so different than anyone else here
a lot of us been played. ...hurt....lied to...pushed aside...shyt on...etc. Ive accepted it sometimes comes with the territory of being introverted, smart, and caring and/or believing in "true love"
which I think ACTUALLY describes a lot of the posters here
I just want to let yall wonderful young men know....there is HOPE along this road called life
and to THANK the each Coli brehs for TEACHING ME SOME THINGS (and we've had our evil shyt talking ebeef run-ins in the past for sure...and on the other hand some of y'all took the time to drop me that real...knowledge)
Anyway, I love THIS man I'm with, he's everything I've ever wanted and more
but if it wasn't for this experience HERE ...reading what black men have to say about life....I wouldn't have figured out how to treat him and how to give him what he needs.
So instead of tellling yall what YOU need to be doing with women, ill tell yall what you taught me..... that helped:
1. Shut the fukk up
2. Do what I'm asked
3. Be dependable
4. Stop talking hoe-ish when deep down I'm not bout that life....
5. Be vulnerable
6. Let him know I need him
7. Let him know I understand how hard it is to be a black man out here without REMINDING him he's a black man out here (just that quiet support
)
8. Be myself
9. Trust him to do the best he can
10. Give and not take
I semi-regret this thread already but anyway thanks brehs...yall helped me grow
despite the man-hate and shyt and the woman hate that's rampant on here, despite the dry dikks and weird shyt.
I found a godlike needle in the haystack
and was able to lock it down due to the Coli teachings.
I don't agree with like 88% of what's said on here but I THANK YOU anyway.
I'm asking some of y'all hurting, jaded, #HOH brehs to just HOLD ON. Something is out there for each of us no matter how wack or fukked up were are. Or how fukked up the opposite sex appears. "A lid for every pot" is the saying and
the old heads didn't lie.
I support black love
and I've been changed and enlightened.
My question is...do I tell him how I feel?
I've just been letting him lead and playing my postion....but part of me wants to let him know....my love is real. Anyway, be blessed.
I receive it
you did. ...and I called you a damn lie
