I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

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I went home to visit my sick brother on August 24th and was gone through Sunday. This dude flew in from Chicago and gets here Friday afternoon and they have a ****fest in our bed until Sunday AM. Its pretty ****ing disgusting. I confronted her with the barebones and after grilling her she finally confessed to all of this. Swears it was only this one time. Swears she has never cheated before.
We've only been married for 11 months. Who the **** cheats while pregnant

Its mind blowing to me that someone would pay for a flight ticket to have sex with some other man's pregnant wife. And not even lightly pregnant. My wife was 7 months pregnant at the time.

Paternity Test.... probably a good idea. God, what does it say about my life that I'm talking about having to get a paternity test on my child? This is straight up madness.

The child was planned and we tried to conceive her. So I do think she is mine. But selfishly, oh my god what relief if she wasn't. The idea of having to parent a child with her for the next 18 years is scary. I want to just be done with her.

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Point is go ahead and find yourself a decent female and marry her , if you lay down the rules from day one and that also means doing your part too, remember you do dirt you get dirt, but if you act like man to her she will treat you with respect like a man. You act almost as feminine as her and she will treat you like a bytch.

lets be candidate about what marriage is. marriage is not the relationship you have with a person. marriage is not even really a relationship as much as its a binding legal contract that ties you to another person. you combine assets and liabilities. legally the two of you become one. its like a business partnership that you can't back out of without severe penalties.

why would a man as the likely bread winner would want to sign a binding legal contract that merges two people into one and causes him as a grown man to be responsible and liable for another adult human being and further more states that during the relationship all property acquired is community property and if the relationship fails a third party will step in and divide up everything as they see fit is beyond me.

you can have a relationship with someone for the rest of your life and never marry them. you can love a person and never marry them. what's with this obsession with putting the relationship down on paper with exit penalties? what's the point? to appease the other person? what do you really gain from it?

romantic love as the basis of marriage is like building a house on shyt foundation. marriage should be arranged for both necessity and convenience. something more binding than feelings that can change in an instant.
 

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I am not married to my bf...and yes anything is possible when you are not happy in a relationship/with yourself

:wow::huhldup: How can you even consider this? Why not just leave the person?

If you would cheat on someone, why not just en the relationship? I can't look people in the eye after doing them dirty.

Just being 100....as a man, if you wanna catch a nut, you can do that on your own if need be. :manny:

No offense to you personally: But to me, women describe cheating/these situations like some sh*t y'all saw in a movie where y'all imagine yourself as some character.
 

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notice one theme when they describe the man. They describe him as weak,lacking and all around soft.

Men have forgotten how to be men, and i don't mean slapping women around or nothing like that. Soon as you get with a women you have to let her know who is boss YOU, who runs shyt YOU, if she don't like it from day one send her packing.

The feminism movement, lack of father in homes and other factors have made men soft over the years. Women on the other hand have been embolden by this, shyt in the early days women would even dare dress a certain way outside the house for fear of what a man might say or think about her , now we are raised under this false flag of "liberty" disguised as nothing more than low level hoeing.
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I understand ur point breh, but let's be honest here dude.

Every man is not a natural dikk. Some of us are just nice people who just wanna chill and find a female. In the beginning we might play a role of being distant, or calous.....but ultimately, you can't sustain a serious relationship resulting in a 24/7 marital relationship by playing a character or not being the real you. At some point, you're gonna HAVE to let your guard down.

BUT here's the trick as I see it.

You gotta let your woman know that having your heart comes with a major price. If she gets outta line, instead of arguing a bunch of foolishness or backing down, hit her with the :birdman::hmm: instead of tucking ur tail between ur legs.

With your heart comes a price of her knowing that you could be sitting/hiding outside her job, gym, etc., if you feel there is any funny sh*t going on. And more importantly, her knowing that if there is any funny sh*t going down that it might have serious repercussions.

Basically your woman should know you love her enough you'd walk thru a fire to save her life, you'd take a bullet in the chest for her, lay down ur life for her......and at the same time, she should know to give any man who gets too close/flirts too close the :usure: face instead of obliging.

Apart from being in love w/ you, she should see your :hmm: face when any temptations arise. And everybody knows the exact moment when a conversation or moment goes too far, whether they admit it or not.

Just my opinion/thoughts based on what I feel my parents displayed.
 

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A white woman's honor is in question?

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Ronnie Lott to save the day!

No, all races do not cheat "just the same" fukk outta here with this nonsense. You have cold hard data staring you in the face that shows white women are involved in the highest divorce rates, and now you on some "Well cheating is cheating". Using logic, you should be able to extrapolate that maybe, just maybe a higher percentage of white women are cheating because of all the failed marriages they are involved in.

I wonder if he'd have his cape on if the stats proved black women cheat more :mjpls:
 

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you sound just like peter the disciple.
"naw jesus, im down wit you through thick and thin, mayne. i wont NEVER sell you out dawg. you aint never had a friend like me." and thats when jesus said :what: "man, come up out my face ol fraud azz nygga. you see that rooster over there? i guarandamntee you before that rooster crows you gon deny you ever even knew me. matter of fact, you gon deny it three times." now, if a disciple couldnt keep it real with the greatest man ever you already know malta is full of shyt.

Lmao this shi reminds me of the real nikka bible thread from AHH
 

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You getting women mixed up with whores. Whores will fukk the pool boy and that type shyt. Women are usually driven to cheat by their mans actions.

I can't Cosign this shyt at all breh, I've had enough experiences to know that broads will fukk another nikka just because he gotta tight mouth piece and a fresh ceasar :steviej:
 

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I can't Cosign this shyt at all breh, I've had enough experiences to know that broads will fukk another nikka just because he gotta tight mouth piece and a fresh ceasar :steviej:
That's a hoe:russ:


You can't seriously believe that the majority of women fukk nikkas because he has a nice haircut:birdman:
 
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