I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

[AITheAnswerAI]

I'll leave this here, I found this on best advice I ever got into the insights of women.

 

[newarkhiphop]

Pregnant wife cheated on me in our bed

Title says it all. I found out when I noticed her being all types of shady. Snooped in her email (bad I know but bite me). Found 6 months worth of chats and emails.

I went home to visit my sick brother on August 24th and was gone through Sunday. This dude flew in from Chicago and gets here Friday afternoon and they have a ****fest in our bed until Sunday AM. Its pretty ****ing disgusting. I confronted her with the barebones and after grilling her she finally confessed to all of this. Swears it was only this one time. Swears she has never cheated before.

We've only been married for 11 months. Who the **** cheats while pregnant and less than year of being married? I asked her why and she says she was lonely and he paid attention to her so she felt like she owed him. Apparently she never met him IRL until the ****fest.

 

[newarkhiphop]

Husband let a guy friend give him a hand job

I need some serious advice. I was a very independent woman when I met my husband at 30 (educated, financially stable). He was an officer in the military. I wanted to get married, and we met and hit it off! I found him attractive since he was fit and a nice personality, also good with money, and gave me lots of attention. My intuition raised a red flag while we were dating, that he seemed perhaps a little gay in his tendencies. I actually confronted him about it and asked if he ever felt that way, and he assured me he did not and had no interest in being with a man. We got along really well and I wanted to get married, the sex was good too but I had a short list of needs. Six months later we get married and he moves us off to a new base in a crappy location. I couldn't find work suitable for my background. I took a few jobs and his job changed so that he was frustrated with the stress level (for the next 4 years). Then his mother started pressuring me heavily to have babies, and my husband didn't do much about it. I started seeing that he didn't have as much backbone as I wanted regarding a lot of things - so I had to step up and wear the pants. We fought all the time until I backed off and learned how to communicate better. THEN he was working with a gay guy who we became friends with. The guy had a live-in boyfriend and we would go over there for dinner. Nice couple. My husband and this guy went on 3-4 business trips together where they had to drive 5 hours. The gay guy brought DVD's and wine which he shared with my husband in his hotel room (i can't believe I'm writing this - amazing what denial does). I warned my husband to have boundaries. One day he comes home and says 'I feel dirty, I feel violated'. I'm like 'what happened'. He says the guy made a pass at him - that's it. I scolded my husband for getting into that position, then I dropped it. Things stayed the same and we still hung out with the gay couple (I'm so frickin' forgiving, but they were also really cool). So we move again to a new base and I take a job where I'm starting to get tons of male attention (on the base). These guys are more alpha, not like my husband. I am floored by how much I'm feeling sexual attraction to these guys. I've always been shy and never put myself out there with the 'alpha' male type. One of my coworkers shows interest in me and so we discuss having an affair but he calls it off because my husband could get him fired. So nothing happened. I quit my job because the temptation was really starting to get to me and my husband can support me financially. So I mention to him one day about my 'almost' affair. He didn't like it one bit. Then he suddenly opens up to me about back several years ago with his gay friend, he let the guy give him a hand job!

 

[MikelArteta]

Pregnant wife cheated on me in our bed

in sickness and in health

 

[newarkhiphop]

in sickness and in health

breh wtf is a "emotional affair" i seen a bunch of dudes crying bout that , sounds like some shyt some ratchet ass women would make up

 

[newarkhiphop]

Wife cheated while deployed and got pregnant.. Is there still hope?

She was very suspicious when she came home. She was angry at me for wanting to work things out now that she was home, but i didnt support her when she needed it the most. She kept a lock on her phone and computer (which never happened pre-deployment). This bothered me and she told me that it was non of my business what she was texting other people. The first weekend after she came home, she was going to the Bar to get drunk with her unit. I was the babysitter for this night and wasnt allowed to go (suspicious eh?). I managed to catch her phone before it locked, and i installed a spyware called "spybubble" on her phone to see if she was cheating on me. That first night was the first rude awakening that she WAS indeed cheating on me. She was telling this guy how she wish she could disappear with him and how she would "do" him so hard and stuff like this. I was devastated... but being the honest man i was, i told her about it the next day. She told me that it was just dirty talk and there was nothing else to it... She also told me that she NEVER had sex with anyone while being home, or while deployed.

A few weeks later, she comes to me and tells me that she missed her period, which was to start just days after coming home. At this point, we had sex 3 times unprotected (this is my wife here ), but i never had made a mistake like this before. i was 99% sure that the baby wasnt mine... but she swore that she never cheated on me. A week later, while at her moms house, we got into a little fight about something, and she admitted so having sex with some black guy right before coming home... I was FURIOUS, and called her a liar among a few other names and stormed out the house.

We talked about it a couple hours later and she told me she felt bad for lying, and that she said i deserved to know because we were going to work things out again. She went and seen a doctor (this is about 2 weeks ago), to see how old the baby was... Come to find out, she conceived around the first week a February ( 3 weeks before coming home ).

 

[MikelArteta]

Husband let a guy friend give him a hand job

the messed up thing is these are only the stories when folks were on their a game, stumbled across their wife/hubby cell phone, guilt ridden cheater confessed, for many folks out there you have NO IDEA.

hell at work i see married women having lunch and breaks, leaving the office for lunch giggling and smiling with dudes who are clearly not their husband. my former supervisor was close as hell with this it guy going for long walks, going for two lunches and out of nowhere dude gets canned. esp at work dudes are seeing your damn wife more than you are without the kids, always dressed up.

get married brehs

 

[MikelArteta]

my wife of 25 years recently told me she had an affair with a co-worker about 20 years ago. the affair lasted on and off for three years. They would go to the park at lunch time and have sex in our car. She swears that she has been faithful since they broke it off and I beleive her. I'm still heartbroken. I've never cheated on her. We have 3 children together and I always thought she was a perfect wife. I don't know if I should forgive her or not.

 

[MikelArteta]

Wife cheated while deployed and got pregnant.. Is there still hope?

so many men out there are such simps, this is another reason if you have the concrete evidence your girl is cheating dont show her, dont let her know you know, they will deny deny deny,

 

[Kalik]

Black man + White woman = Highest divorce rate
Black woman + White man = Lowest divorce rate

Divorced or had been Divorced:
Whites
27 %
African-Americans
22 %

What is the common denominator with the higher divorce rates

money

Shieeeet I'm a statistic

 

[newarkhiphop]

so many men out there are such simps, this is another reason if you have the concrete evidence your girl is cheating dont show her, dont let her know you know, they will deny deny deny,

am browsing and i see so many

"she only fuked him once, and said sorry i forgive her"

"she said she only sucked his dikk but didnt want to , i forgive her"

"she said she "lost herself" and made out with him only once, i forgive her"

 

[newarkhiphop]

ok am done

Wife, wants the love of her life....WTF

I been married for about 10 years, we had ups and downs but I always been thinking we had a good marriage, wife had a 6 years relationship with someone else, I met her after their break up and two years later we got married. Through the years I could see that my wife was often depressed and would cry for no apparent reason, when I would ask her about it she should tell was cause she never really forgot her ex bf and how she still loved him, she was always open about it, we went to MC multiple times over this issue and every time I would think this time it will be ok... well apparently not!!!!! A few weeks ago I found out that she has been what I believe started as an EA and it may not be a PA, she does not deny it and tells me he is/was always the love of her life and that no matter what this time they not giving up on each other!!!! WTF!!!!!!!

Let me add this guy is bi polar, lives with his parents still and besides my wife has only had one gf all his life!!!!! I confronted him after find out and he had the nerve to tell me " she is mine and I'm fighting for her she is the love of my life" I just wanted to punch is romeo face, don't know how I controlled myself!!!!!

I'm enraged, hurt and still love my wife, I don't want to lose her to this POS!!!!

 

[MikelArteta]

breh wtf is a "emotional affair" i seen a bunch of dudes crying bout that , sounds like some shyt some ratchet ass women would make up

some view emotional affair as even worse than a physical affair, as a physical affair she may just have wanted some new dikk and that was it, emotional affair she is pouring out her heart to some next guy, talking about YOu (my husband is horrible, and pathetic i hate him, but i love you can't wait till you come over later).

EMotional affair there is no sex yet it hasn't reached that point, say your wife and a coworker at work, they go out for lunch, take breaks together, she talks about her marriage, how you gyus fight and its on the rocks, hes there for her, then the phone calls and text messages start etc, Physical affairs can be dismissed as momentary lust, a satisfying of vanity, a dangerous bit of fun; an emotional affair runs deeper, some view emotional affair as even worse than a physical affair, as a physical affair she may just have wanted some new dikk and that was it, emotional affair she is pouring out her heart to some next guy, talking about YOu (my husband is horrible, and pathetic i hate him, but i love you can't wait till you come over later).

 

[Ronnie Lott]

Husband let a guy friend give him a hand job

husband was gettin railed! ol girl was an idiot to believe just a handjob went down

 

[MikelArteta]

am browsing and i see so many

"she only fuked him once, and said sorry i forgive her"

"she said she only sucked his dikk but didnt want to , i forgive her"

"she said she "lost herself" and made out with him only once, i forgive her"

its what cheaters use, trust me i shared my story in that personal gem thread

digs it up

I remember when I got played and cheated on and found out through my keylogger. This chick lied to my face, there was a Convo with her abusive ex talking about how they smashed and her throat was still sore, this was before my wise reincar days and I confronted the strumpet with physical evidence and you know what she told me? That oh her friend was using her Facebook and her friend likes to role play sexual themes so they thought they would have fun on her ex

And oh yeah "you can contact my friend if you don't believe me" :byran:
Like girls don't cover for girls

But this dumb slut didn't know I had her email password also and she was sending naked pics to her ex, that's when the tears started flowing down her face and the sob stories.

Women will lie about anything right to your face as a man don't believe anything

and i was only with that chick for 3 months