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[Anothergirl]

I just don't put myself in the situation, there's this good looking chick at my gym that is always trying to talk to me, she constantly asks me if I want to hang out after I leave. She knows I have a girl, she doesn't care, and I just avoid her or act like I'm in a rush most of the time If we started hanging out, that's when things lead to places.

For me atleast I feel it's easy to avoid situations like that.

exactly you have to be vigilant when you're in a realtionship because other people who are single don't give a fukk about your realtionship...and to be honest the onus isn't on "them" to care .....it's ON YOU to keep your guard up. 99% of cheating that takes place could have been avoided if said person wasn't having inappropriate communications with someone of the opposite sex. "hi and bye" and move the fukk on....i live by that.

 

[Ice Cold]

Wow just wow

 

[opulence]

I just don't put myself in the situation, there's this good looking chick at my gym that is always trying to talk to me, she constantly asks me if I want to hang out after I leave. She knows I have a girl, she doesn't care, and I just avoid her or act like I'm in a rush most of the time If we started hanging out, that's when things lead to places.

For me atleast I feel it's easy to avoid situations like that.

I agree...avoid certain situations...but would if one day your girl just stops having sex with you? or she gains weight and lets herself go? or she just starts acting a damn fool for no reason? I bet slowly but surely that other chick my start looking more attractive...sometimes its not the situation you put yourself in unfortunately you may just up and find yourself in a situation one day and you have to try to find your way out and because you have never been in the situation you cannot say how you would handle it...its simple to say what you would or would not do in a situation until you find yourself in it...

 

[Malta]

I agree...avoid certain situations...but would if one day your girl just stops having sex with you? or she gains weight and lets herself go? or she just starts acting a damn fool for no reason? I bet slowly but surely that other chick my start looking more attractive...sometimes its not the situation you put yourself in unfortunately you may just up and find yourself in a situation one day and you have to try to find your way out and because you have never been in the situation you cannot say how you would handle it...its simple to say what you would or would not do in a situation until you find yourself in it...

Her gaining weight isn't happening, and if she did we'd talk about it, fitness is now a part of her lifestyle we can cross that off the list. Acting crazy? What rational person just starts acting crazy, if she just starts going insane then I'll have to leave her. As for not having sex, she had a C-section and we didn't have sex for more than a month after our daughter was born

I'm not going to lose half cause I can't keep my dikk out of another female, if she's going to leave me it's going to be for other reasons. I'm not ruled by my dikk.

 

[The Jewnited States]

yo brehs this is scary as fukkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

i aint getting married. and i think i just won't have kids.

 

[opulence]

Her gaining weight isn't happening, and if she did we'd talk about it, fitness is now a part of her lifestyle we can cross that off the list. Acting crazy? What rational person just starts acting crazy, if she just starts going insane then I'll have to leave her. As for not having sex, she had a C-section and we didn't have sex for more than a month after our daughter was born

I'm not going to lose half cause I can't keep my dikk out of another female, if she's going to leave me it's going to be for other reasons.

you are not answering the questions...trust me...things you never thought would happen could always happen...

she could have something happen to her that could cause her to gain weight without her choice...and she may not be able to work it all off...

by crazy I mean just not acting herself.....do you think it would be that easy to just leave her with two children?

lol at a month...what is a month?

 

[Malta]

you are not answering the questions...trust me...things you never thought would happen could always happen...

she could have something happen to her that could cause her to gain weight without her choice...and she may not be able to work it all off...

by crazy I mean just not acting herself.....do you think it would be that easy to just leave her with two children?

You're talking to someone that has never smoked a cigarette, or tried any drugs, when I say I wont do something I don't. My will and lack of bending is my biggest gift, and biggest curse. There is no situation you can come up with that will have me cheating on her, like I said, if it gets dire I will leave her. I will not break the trust we have and go behind her back to fukk someone else. I'm a man, there is no emotional cheating for me, there is only sex.

lol at a month...what is a month?

A long ass time.

720 hours, 43,200 minutes, 2,592,000 seconds

And it was around 7 weeks to be exact.

 

[Taadow]

I agree...avoid certain situations...but would if one day your girl just stops having sex with you? or she gains weight and lets herself go? or she just starts acting a damn fool for no reason? I bet slowly but surely that other chick my start looking more attractive...sometimes its not the situation you put yourself in unfortunately you may just up and find yourself in a situation one day and you have to try to find your way out and because you have never been in the situation you cannot say how you would handle it...its simple to say what you would or would not do in a situation until you find yourself in it...

1. This might sound crazy...but niccas don't need to have sex all the time.

2. Everybody gains weight...

2b. I fuccs fat ones, long as they still pretty.

3. When your loved ones start actin' a fool, you figure out what's got 'em that way and try to help - not figure out how to bail on 'em.

4. Other people are ALWAYS gonna look attractive. Awwready. But you gotta love what you got already.

5. It's halfway true that you don't know what you'll do in a particular situation until you are in it. The other half is: if you stay ready for situations, you can fortify yourself to do the right thing if these situations arise instead of being a deer in headlights.

 

[Anothergirl]

You're talking to someone that has never smoked a cigarette, or tried any drugs, when I say I wont do something I don't. My will and lack of bending is my biggest gift, and biggest curse. There is no situation you can come up with that will have me cheating on her, like I said, if it gets dire I will leave her. I will not break the trust we have and go behind her back to fukk someone else. I'm a man, there is no emotional cheating for me, there is only sex.

Lucky girl. Great Guy. +rep

*edit- when i can rep you again

 

[opulence]

1. This might sound crazy...but niccas don't need to have sex all the time.

2. Everybody gains weight...

2b. I fuccs fat ones, long as they still pretty.

3. When your loved ones start actin' a fool, you figure out what's got 'em that way and try to help - not figure out how to bail on 'em.

4. Other people are ALWAYS gonna look attractive. Awwready. But you gotta love what you got already.

5. It's halfway true that you don't know what you'll do in a particular situation until you are in it. The other half is: if you stay ready for situations, you can fortify yourself to do the right thing if these situations arise instead of being a deer in headlights.

seems like you have all the answers...but you both and Malta seem to be speaking from what ifs...instead of saying what you have done in that situation...

 

[opulence]

You're talking to someone that has never smoked a cigarette, or tried any drugs, when I say I wont do something I don't. My will and lack of bending is my biggest gift, and biggest curse. There is no situation you can come up with that will have me cheating on her, like I said, if it gets dire I will leave her. I will not break the trust we have and go behind her back to fukk someone else. I'm a man, there is no emotional cheating for me, there is only sex.


A long ass time.

720 hours, 43,200 minutes, 2,592,000 seconds

And it was around 7 weeks to be exact.

okay...congrats to her for having a great man...but all I am saying is sometimes situations can change...and sometimes they can change your views on things you once said you would not do...

 

[ThatKidBlackHippy]

My will and lack of bending is my biggest gift, and biggest curse. There is no situation you can come up with that will have me cheating on her, like I said, if it gets dire I will leave her. I will not break the trust we have and go behind her back to fukk someone else. I'm a man, there is no emotional cheating for me, there is only sex.

More or less summed up how I feel about this too. I been with my girl for 5 years and I never cheated, it is a matter of principal to me.

 

[Black]

Coping with Infidelity


at the amount of ether
i can read this forever

GOOD shyt MALC!

 

[Taadow]

seems like you have all the answers...but you both and Malta seem to be speaking from what ifs...instead of saying what you have done in that situation...

I'm speaking in what-ifs because that's what YOU are speaking in, dear...

What i'm also not doing (as it appears you are) is searching for imaginary situations where it would be okay to not honor your commitments because it's less "easy".

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

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