I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

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"This is the 3rd month that I have been browsing these forums and now it's time to get some help. We have tried and tried to fix this marriage and it is to the point that I am the only one trying. The camel's back was broken when I agreed to a 3 way with my wife and I was humiliated. Also, I wasn't sure if this was best to post this here or in the sex forum. If this is not the correct place, please move for me.

Sex has been pretty horrible for me and my wife. We have only been married 5 years and for the first 3, sex was great. My wife's sex drive all of a sudden decreased and she had little to no interest in sex. My sex drive soon followed and I never really recovered. She also stopped giving me oral sex about 2 years ago. For the past two years, our sex life has consisted of me giving her oral and me receiving a hand job in return. It wasn't my ideal arrangement but we both were able to climax with this arrangement.

My wife suggested that we try to do some new things to try to rekindle our sex life. She made it seem that I would have some say in what we should do but she had her heart set on having 3 way sex. On top of that, she wanted the 3rd person to be a man from her job. I really didn't feel right doing this but at the same time, I wanted her to be happy. I never suspected her of cheating but I asked her what she knew about the guy. She said that he was a sex guru and he could help to spice up our sex life. I agreed out of desperation.

We had the 3 way last week and it was the most awkward and uncomfortable thing that I ever did in my life. Throughout the entire session, my wife paid more attention to him than me. The only thing good about it was that I saw that she was happy. After about 30 minutes in, she began to give him oral sex. I stopped her and asked how she could do that to him when she didn't do that to me anymore. She said that she wanted to do new things and this is what she wanted. It was very awkward and he just looked at me with a smirk. I was pissed and didn't want to participate anymore.

Some part of me wanted to leave but I couldn't. I also woke up and wondered why the hell I ever agreed with this in the first place. I just laid down on the bed while they continued to have sex. They were then standing on the side of the bed having sex while I was laying there. I watched some more and then turned my head the other way. Without warning, I felt something warm across my back. I had no idea what it was but I knew it wasn't right. By the time I turned around, my wife was laughing hysterically and her co-worker was trying not to laugh. It only took a few seconds to realize that he shot his load all over my back.

This is the most humiliating thing that has ever happened to me. My wife enjoyed herself and said I shouldn't worry about it. I feel that they somehow set me up and the way that they looked at each other, I think they may have been together before. Now she is living happy and wants to do it again. I wanted to work on our sex life/marriage but now I'm not too sure. Is this some sort of phase she is going through? She is 46 and I just turned 43. I can accept that maybe I can't satisfy her sexually anymore but I can't help but to think that she told him to do that to me. Does this sound like a marriage worth fighting for or should I listen to my gut and believe that she is sleeping with him behind my back and I should pursue a divorce?"

I'm speechless!

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Betrayed by the two most important men in my life...What should I do?

I will try to keep this as short as possible if I can. I have been lurking on this forum for a few months now because I suspected my husband was being unfaithful to me. We have been married for a few years now and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. He started acting strange a couple months ago by not wanting to have sex with me and wanting to be alone a lot more. I thought he was cheating on me so I have been monitoring his email and phone and he has not called anyone out of the ordinary. I have never been that close to my parents but my husband has always been closer to them and they seemed to like him.

On Valentine's day, I got the news. When I came home from work, my husband was sitting on the couch with my father. I thought it was awkward because I wanted to be alone with my husband on Valentine's. They told me to sit down because they had something to tell me. I sat down and nothing could prepare me for what I was about to hear. MY husband told me that he has been sleeping with my father for the past 4 months and that he was in love with him. At first I thought it was a joke but they were both dead serious. Once I realized they were serious, I freaked out and started going crazy. My father calmed me down but I spit in his face. He tried to make it seem like everything was going to be ok and I should accept their relationship if I really love them. Words cannot describe how much this has hurt me. I had no idea my husband was gay and even then, I would never expect for him to sleep with my father. My father is separated right now because of the situation but my mom had no idea this was going on either.

After fighting and screaming, I finally left the house and I am staying with my girlfriend. My little girls are with that monster now but when I talked to them, they were safe and didn't know about the situation. I talked to my husband on the phone today and he says that he wants to move out and get a apartment with my father to start a new life. I swear they are both like 2 brand new people to me and I am devastated. He also said that he wants to give him custody of the girls so they can stay with him. I said hell no and he threatened to make things much harder for me if I don't comply.

What should I do? I am totally lost and the past 2 days have been a nightmare. I could have never saw this coming and I would have much prefered my husband to cheat with another woman than to violate me like this. I totally hate my father now and I have not spoken to him since that day. MY mother doesn't seem to surprised since she said that my father had a similar episode before in their marriage. I have no idea what that means because she didn't give me the whole story. Please somebody help me with some advice.


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Dealing with depressed wife's affair

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My wife and I have been married for over 17 years and have two teenagers. I have been home with the kids since they were born and she was the one working outside the home. This started out of necessity and continued because she begged me to stay home to keep things running smoothly. It's been frustrating, but I felt like the financial sacrifice was worth it for a less stressful life. She has always been flirtatious with other guys, and I have often tried to explain to her that guys will get the wrong idea and she will get in trouble one day. She always told me I was wrong and that guys didn't look at her that way.

After "chasing away" about a dozen different guys during our marriage, she started a new friendship about two years ago. I had finally had enough and decided not to chase this guy away because, due to his profession, he was about as safe a guy as you could imagine. I felt her pulling away from me during last summer, and into the fall she spent all her time with him. After Christmas I finally started to wake up and started pushing her to back away from him. After weeks of her telling me they were just friends she admitted they were having an affair. My mind started spinning and I could not have made it through without knowing I had to keep it together for me kids.

She tried to leave me for him, but then he told her that was never the plan and that he was in love with someone else. This pushed her to suicidal thoughts and she has started getting treatment and counciling for depression. She is still living at home, and 7 months later she is still fixated on how he treated her and that she feels worthless and unimportant. I have tried to keep things together at home. Our kids don't know and I am trying to support her while she deals with the depression.

I am scared because I don't know how much more I can take. All the horible things I was feeling has faded into a kind of numbness that never goes away. I feel SO isolated and like I am living a lie. I have taken steps to be able to support myself and my kids if she leaves, but the kids will be crushed if they find out.

How do I balance supporting my wife as she fights her depression with me trying to keep my own sanity?

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From Talkaboutmarriage….

"This is the 3rd month that I have been browsing these forums and now it's time to get some help. We have tried and tried to fix this marriage and it is to the point that I am the only one trying. The camel's back was broken when I agreed to a 3 way with my wife and I was humiliated. Also, I wasn't sure if this was best to post this here or in the sex forum. If this is not the correct place, please move for me.

Sex has been pretty horrible for me and my wife. We have only been married 5 years and for the first 3, sex was great. My wife's sex drive all of a sudden decreased and she had little to no interest in sex. My sex drive soon followed and I never really recovered. She also stopped giving me oral sex about 2 years ago. For the past two years, our sex life has consisted of me giving her oral and me receiving a hand job in return. It wasn't my ideal arrangement but we both were able to climax with this arrangement.

My wife suggested that we try to do some new things to try to rekindle our sex life. She made it seem that I would have some say in what we should do but she had her heart set on having 3 way sex. On top of that, she wanted the 3rd person to be a man from her job. I really didn't feel right doing this but at the same time, I wanted her to be happy. I never suspected her of cheating but I asked her what she knew about the guy. She said that he was a sex guru and he could help to spice up our sex life. I agreed out of desperation.

We had the 3 way last week and it was the most awkward and uncomfortable thing that I ever did in my life. Throughout the entire session, my wife paid more attention to him than me. The only thing good about it was that I saw that she was happy. After about 30 minutes in, she began to give him oral sex. I stopped her and asked how she could do that to him when she didn't do that to me anymore. She said that she wanted to do new things and this is what she wanted. It was very awkward and he just looked at me with a smirk. I was pissed and didn't want to participate anymore.

Some part of me wanted to leave but I couldn't. I also woke up and wondered why the hell I ever agreed with this in the first place. I just laid down on the bed while they continued to have sex. They were then standing on the side of the bed having sex while I was laying there. I watched some more and then turned my head the other way. Without warning, I felt something warm across my back. I had no idea what it was but I knew it wasn't right. By the time I turned around, my wife was laughing hysterically and her co-worker was trying not to laugh. It only took a few seconds to realize that he shot his load all over my back.

This is the most humiliating thing that has ever happened to me. My wife enjoyed herself and said I shouldn't worry about it. I feel that they somehow set me up and the way that they looked at each other, I think they may have been together before. Now she is living happy and wants to do it again. I wanted to work on our sex life/marriage but now I'm not too sure. Is this some sort of phase she is going through? She is 46 and I just turned 43. I can accept that maybe I can't satisfy her sexually anymore but I can't help but to think that she told him to do that to me. Does this sound like a marriage worth fighting for or should I listen to my gut and believe that she is sleeping with him behind my back and I should pursue a divorce?"

I'm speechless!

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She tried to leave me for him, but then he told her that was never the plan and that he was in love with someone else. This pushed her to suicidal thoughts and she has started getting treatment and counciling for depression. She is still living at home, and 7 months later she is still fixated on how he treated her and that she feels worthless and unimportant. I have tried to keep things together at home. Our kids don't know and I am trying to support her while she deals with the depression.
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You want to kill yourself, go right ahead since she'd get no support from me, none :ninjawhat:
 

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i spent about 30 minutes reading this thread and all i can say is :wow:
 

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i spent about 30 minutes reading this thread and all i can say is :wow:

Man I can't believe some of this shyt...the emasculation and straight spineless behavior exhibited by these "men" is disgusting. Dude let some other man fukk his wife in front of him then skeet on his back!?:what::wtf::mindblown:
 

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Man I can't believe some of this shyt...the emasculation and straight spineless behavior exhibited by these "men" is disgusting. Dude let some other man fukk his wife in front of him then skeet on his back!?:what::wtf::mindblown:

i had the :wtf: face it makes no sense to take a woman back, when you caught her in the act. some of these dudes need to develop there manhood and stop giving these chicks power and being a simp how your old lady fukks some random guy you hire you discovered this and take her back only for her to do it again. she wouldve gotten her pink slip quick as f*ck.
 
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The investigation forum is some of the coldest shyt I've seen

These nikkuhs had GPS tracker reviews :russ:

Even documentation on what's legal and what isn't :smugbiden:
 
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