i just realized why i truly have never desired being in a relationship

[3rdWorld]

I prefer relations..not relastionships

 

[DreamyKnights]

Yea. I'm missing out on actually giving a fukk

Well if you don’t care about it then I guess there nothing to worry about

 

[HarlemHottie]

Responsibility and duty are weapons used in emotional avoidance and detachment.

Most people, especially black people, are together out of necessity rather than true love.

But really we’re just avoiding the elephant in thr room that black people as a whole are victimized and exploited on every level.

Including our parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.

There’s no escaping it. Even the most sellout black bourgeoisie family, pillar of respectability, is toxic at its core.

There’s no escaping the reality of our situation - the root of where all of our problems are tied to.

Its a lot of depressed nikkas on here, just defeated by life.

 

[DropTopDoc]

Love is about responsibility and duty.

Like is all about feeling good in the moment.

Don’t confuse the two.

A lot of people get hardened by life and the duty and responsibility kicks in but they don’t necessarily like one another anymore.

A lot of our parents, aunts , uncles, and grandparents did not do a great job in fostering environments of “like” they just leaned into their duty and responsibility. They provided the necessities and hoped that you realized they love you without actually communicating it and providing nurture.

In turn there a lot of confused adults that don’t know how to convey themselves and express love, like, feelings appreciation, and admiration wonder the world confused.

This all this

Op you either choose to figure out love, and how it works for you or you don’t, nothing anyone says in this will change your views til you do, love is something that takes work and is not pure emotional bliss 24/7, but having someone to enjoy life with is great

 

[King]

Its a lot of depressed nikkas on here, just defeated by life.

You’re only lying to yourself.

You should know better than this.

 

[HarlemHottie]

You’re only lying to yourself.

You should know better than this.

Responsibility and duty are weapons used in emotional avoidance and detachment.

You sound like a bytch who took freshman psych.

 

[Ɀoᥱɣ]

Its a lot of depressed nikkas on here, just defeated by life.

Ever since I realized that alot of these posts make so much more sense.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

A lot of you are just weirdos and females won't touch you as a result. So you come on here blaming everybody but yourself and harboring a ton of venom for females so you can feel justified in being unhappy.

We just had a whole thread on here with folks who aren't in relationships saying anyone who is in one just has to be miserable.

 

[DreadBrown]

This is not a flex

Big weirdo energy in here

Responsibility and duty are weapons used in emotional avoidance and detachment.

Words of a lunatic

 

[Nokids]

What’s that in your picture??

A screenshot of when I smashed 3 girls in Miami.. I lost the phone that had the vid

 

[Marlow Stanfield]

This would better said to a licensed therapist

 

[Still Benefited]

My mom cheated on my pops and even brought the man home to me and my brother while she was still married

My dad was palpably depressed until his death about it

They loved each other though?

This is actually more about your mama being "for the streets" to put it gently. Many of our moms probably were,but to have to actually see it?



You have no desire to be hurt by a woman like your mother did your father. This could possibly be epigentics,and your fathers dna "speaking" to you "Dont go out like I did son".



Its time for you to overcome your generational curse and heal that part of you that is your father

 

[Dont@Me]

Well if you don’t care about it then I guess there nothing to worry about

I did care for a split second when I saw that bel-air scene though which was a weird foreign feeling to be. I think it'll take a shyt load of therapy to make me care any more.

 

[Dont@Me]

This is actually more about your mama being "for the streets" to put it gently. Many of our moms probably were,but to have to actually see it?



You have no desire to be hurt by a woman like your mother did your father. This could possibly be epigentics,and your fathers dna "speaking" to you "Dont go out like I did son".



Its time for you to overcome your generational curse and heal that part of you that is your father

Ironically, I genuinely don't care if a girl I'm seeing is seeing other guys. I'm not territorial like that and I know that's weird for a guy, but i definitely don't see myself in it for the long term anyway

 

[Still Benefited]

Ironically, I genuinely don't care if a girl I'm seeing is seeing other guys. I'm not territorial like that and I know that's weird for a guy, but i definitely don't see myself in it for the long term anyway

The ego builds walls to protect itself.

"Cognitive dissonance isn't about lying but rather being convinced of something because it suits you to be convinced of it. One part of the self has lied to another part"


You may or may not be lying to yourself. only life experience will show you which is the case. So its better to seek the experience to find the truth.