Black women are truly on their own in this country. It’s bad enough that from high school through college you look around and see few marriage prospects for you and your peers. You enter a workforce where there are even fewer black men. You have to learn to do it all on your own and do not anticipate a black man to save you. Black men are more likely to be plagued by health problems and job loss so you are going to have to take care of everything when the bottom falls out. Just like the women in older generations did.
This is why black women have to start putting themselves first and making good life decisions.
The odds are very much stacked against us in many ways. But if black women play their cards right, they could win at the game of life.
But they gotta avoid a lot of pitfalls.
They need to leave self-haters, toxic family members, black female haters, users, incels, and sorry people behind. Focus on self-love. No illegitimate babies. Fukk any negative sorry dude trying to bring you down. Only return positive energy of men who are willing to
literally prove through action that they are in your corner. Use NOPE liberally. To many blk chicks let dudes play on their emotions. They put up with a lotta shyt unnecessarily. I see too many black women with bums on their couches, taking in user family members, worrying about everybody but themselves.
They need to put those degrees to work. Start researching scholarships and grants early in high school so they can go to college without huge student loan debt. Focus more on saving and stacking money and getting established and in a good financial zone. Take care of their health, focus on homeownership, building wealth, eliminating stress, AVOID hateful anti-bw rhetoric and go to counseling to address years of gaslighting, being told they are ugly, unworthy, masculine, nasty., ect. Focus on self-care, mental health and stepping out into the sun. But right now there are a lot of toxic influences weighing heavily on black female psyche that they need to shake. And when they dare to focus on themselves, some become angry or defensive. Don’t waste energy on those types either. Just continue to work on the glow up and they will find like-minded men on their growth journey who are positive and interested in building a black family with them. Not none of these “SUBMISSION” “IM DA PRIZE!” “NON-BLK WIMMINZ IS BETTER!” “YOU DA ENEMY” incel lunatics.
The good news is that I see a LOT of black women breaking through in spite of the odds. We just gotta fine tune some stuff and then it’s up up up!
I might put a BW Life Tips thread in the Salon.
