"I Married A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To"

[Woman of god]

No, most American women are like you. Old and online putting up pics trying to attract men you are not attracted to so they can play provider after years of your youth chasing men you are attracted to.....and more men are opting out after realizing the cycle

Huh? I'm 26 and I don't online date anymore. I'm confused by your post

Anyways, the general cycle is

1) 17 - 25 create impossible mental standards regarding the type of man u want to marry

2) experience life and love and loss and recognize what makes someone a good spouse or lover is more than skin deep

3) find a man who u likely would have curved during the step 1 phase of life and accept his advances

4) try to make your marriage work

It's the circle of life for this generation. Nothing new

 

[Poitier]

I have no sympathy for people who marry people they aren't attracted to.
You have 2 working eyes, what's your excuse?

It goes both ways...

I know a few of my friends from High School who were considered "pretty boys" back then & used to pull the baddest girls... are now married to what is considered "average" women...

The writer is saying attraction shouldn't be a high priority issue....

 

[Poitier]

Huh? I'm 26

oh wow

 

[Diondon]

How insulting

 

[151_Pr00f]

My aunt told me straight up she wanted a husband that looked like Chris Webber but ended up Speedy Claxton....

They still together even though she did eventually cheat

 

[Woman of god]

only true if she is..

ugly... over 30...with childs..

Most women have princess syndrome and accordingly overestimate themselves. Most men are told to be the aggressors and that they have to earn a woman's loyalty which causes them to underestimate themselves. So even at the time of marriage the woman still likely thinks she "settled " for him

 

[MikelArteta]

most men don't marry the finest women they can get.

Becsuse thr most attractive girl doesn't always have the best qualities you need for a sustainable marriage.

Thankfully my girl is with the qualities

It goes both ways...

I know a few of my friends from High School who were considered "pretty boys" back then & used to pull the baddest girls... are now married to what is considered "average" women...

 

[Ninjaz In Paris]

The writer is saying attraction shouldn't be a high priority issue....

Oh, I see...

I wonder what kind of attraction she means. I can find someone physically attractive without being sexually attractive to them... I wonder if that's what she means. I couldn't imagine being with someone you don't think is at least "cute" at all. Just like there are some women who aren't exactly attractive in the face but are "sexier" than those much cuter than them if that makes sense?

 

[Scuti]

 

[MikelArteta]

In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, "We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!"
Isaiah 4:1

Alot of western women often go for a guys looks first instead of delving into that man... they will actively fight off going with a good decent man over some romeo looking muthafukka that they want to fukk but they know he's a scumbag.

 

[Gold]

The writer is saying attraction shouldn't be a high priority issue....

I'll admit, I didn't read a word of the article before I posted

 

[Poitier]

Oh, I see...

I wonder what kind of attraction she means. I can find someone physically attractive without being sexually attractive to them... I wonder if that's what she means. I couldn't imagine being with someone you don't think is at least "cute" at all. Just like there are some women who aren't exactly attractive in the face but are "sexier" than those much cuter than them if that makes sense?

She says that with time and being around each other 24/7 that a physical attraction develops. There is hard science to back this idea too.

 

[Poitier]

Most women have princess syndrome and accordingly overestimate themselves. Most men are told to be the aggressors and that they have to earn a woman's loyalty which causes them to underestimate themselves. So even at the time of marriage the woman still likely thinks she "settled " for him

 

[Max Power]

3) find a man who u likely would have curved during the step 1 phase of life and accept his advances

Marry Quantell's leftovers brehs.

 

[G-Zeus]

Most women have princess syndrome and accordingly overestimate themselves. Most men are told to be the aggressors and that they have to earn a woman's loyalty which causes them to underestimate themselves. So even at the time of marriage the woman still likely thinks she "settled " for him

not most,

that princess syndrom dies when reality sets in and they find themselves being "booty called" more than they are being courted

at some point (around 25 years old) they start to wonder if they will find mr right...and "settling" becomes "clinging"