I need perspective please from older brehs

[Tunez]

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Continue to try new things

The worst that you can do is wait around and hoping for an epiphany they'll let you know who you are

Doing stuff, testing, trying things out even if you're not sure will teach you a lot about yourself

As for your friends, just get new ones without getting rid of the old ones. Enlarge your social circle so as to find more like-minded people, but keep it cool with your old homies

 

[Rozay Oro]

You’re growing up.

This

• Secure Da Bag
• May 29, 2019

That's scary

 

[Rozay Oro]

Good for you trying to find your purpose. I didn't find mine until my 30s but some people never find it. My best advice would be to do all the things you always wanted to do. All the stuff that people said were impossible, you're too small, too young/old etc.... Eventually you'll find where you need to be. Good luck.

Thanks breh. What was that for you?

 

[Rozay Oro]

he who exalts himself will be humbled, he who is humble will be exalted.

cut that dangerous thinking dont make excuses for laziness and to be mad at another is to be mad at a stone, for what. claim you love them pause then never look down on anyone unless it is while helping them up.

i used to laugh at mid twenties forum heads, now look at me. its you who is the problem, tried building or you think your friends have x-ray vision and can see how you feel ? lol, you are going to be a stray fast.

end up on pof with no one else in the pictures, red flag to chicks.

I'm already a red flag then, I ain't got group pics. I'm not saying I'm abandoning them. I feel stagnant while their satisfied.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Save ya dough & find yo self an older female , drugs & alcohol will only make you miserable

I been cut those things out. Fun everytime but I just feel in regret when I'm sober these days.

 

[Rozay Oro]

What type of work/field of study are you in? You need to find some people that want to do the same stuff you want to do.

I'm having the same problems with my friends. I wanted to travel and my friends are always on bullshyt. I found a chick on twitter and she has friends that like to travel. So far I've been to Toronto, Coney Island, different eateries and attractions like go karting and shyt...I'm also going to Vegas in December and then more places next year. You just gotta make more friends, breh.

Not to sound bytch but making new friends is tough when it's not organic like workplace or whatever. I can't even find a black or mixed bars where I live. Just be filled with older cacs. So lame.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Go to a school away from home and make a life there

I can't, folks getting older and reality settles in. I was too blind and selfish to not get a scholarship. Plus I had no confidence and etc. I don't want to moan and whine nor blame anyone. I can honestly say if I was a little better looking or had the confidence I have now back then. Things would be very different. It's all good, folks around the world got real problems. I'm a spoiled brat here in the first world.

 

[BlackDiBiase]

I'm already a red flag then, I ain't got group pics. I'm not saying I'm abandoning them. I feel stagnant while their satisfied.

some people need a little, some people need a lot.

you got high standards of yourself thats good, essential to a good life.

your friends are stone so let it burden you little they are content, they are your friends so make an example with yourself an show them what moving forward is. together not left in abondment.

you'll be just fine anyway, theres comfort in solace anyway

 

[Mensch Fontana]

First I want to say I'm not depressed nor loathing, thank God almighty.

Y'all know I'm in my early 20s.
I have recently started to distance myself from friends. All my brehs want to do is get high, drink or talk about fast girls.
I can still chill with them and joke without smoking or drinking myself.

Thats getting old, I love my friends but I feel this is some second childhood area.
They're happy and satisfied where they at.
I want more, I don't mean wealth nor fame. I feel like I'm just here doing the same ol.

I need to find my purpose, I thought I knew what it was. I have tried different things. I had fun but I don't feel compelled to continue them.

I just need a natural high of a purpose/passion I guess.

Do I continue to try new things or what?

Its called growing the fukk up. Here you either find a passion and pursue it or resign the rest of your life to the extra-ordinary, not extraordinary.

 

[Rozay Oro]

I think you’re looking for a knowledge of self. And that’s a good thing to try and figure out. How you can get that, is different for everybody, and it won’t be easy.

I learned knowledge of self after almost dying, living in the worst situation ever, getting super, super sad and depressed, and constantly thinking of suicide.

But, I learned knowledge of self and a new existential perspective because of it. While those terrible 5-7 years were absolutely living hell, the gift I got at the end was 100% worth it. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I mention that to say you may need to experience some horrible things before you get the answers you want. Just try to remember that pain and suffering can bring about many important life lessons

I've tried stand up comedy several times.
I still love music but major label politics and today's barely standing music industry has turned me off.
Idk anymore, sounds like I'm making excuses. I'm just being real with me. I hope.

 

[Rozay Oro]

some people need a little, some people need a lot.

you got high standards of yourself thats good, essential to a good life.

your friends are stone so let it burden you little they are content, they are your friends so make an example with yourself an show them what moving forward is. together not left in abondment.

you'll be just fine anyway, theres comfort in solace anyway

Its called growing the fukk up. Here you either find a passion and pursue it or resign the rest of your life to the extra-ordinary, not extraordinary.

I've tried stand up comedy several times.
I still love music but major label politics and today's barely standing music industry has turned me off.
Idk anymore, sounds like I'm making excuses. I'm just being real with me. I hope.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Continue to try new things

The worst that you can do is wait around and hoping for an epiphany they'll let you know who you are

Doing stuff, testing, trying things out even if you're not sure will teach you a lot about yourself

As for your friends, just get new ones without getting rid of the old ones. Enlarge your social circle so as to find more like-minded people, but keep it cool with your old homies

Not to sound bytch but making new friends is tough when it's not organic like workplace or whatever. I can't even find a black or mixed bars where I live. Just be filled with older cacs. So lame.

 

[AllHolosEve]

First I want to say I'm not depressed nor loathing, thank God almighty.

Y'all know I'm in my early 20s.
I have recently started to distance myself from friends. All my brehs want to do is get high, drink or talk about fast girls.
I can still chill with them and joke without smoking or drinking myself.

Thats getting old, I love my friends but I feel this is some second childhood area.
They're happy and satisfied where they at.
I want more, I don't mean wealth nor fame. I feel like I'm just here doing the same ol.

I need to find my purpose, I thought I knew what it was. I have tried different things. I had fun but I don't feel compelled to continue them.

I just need a natural high of a purpose/passion I guess.

Do I continue to try new things or what?

I study philosophy & one I follow is: "You haven't lived until you find something worth dying for". It means something you love, for me it was my kids.

Find something you love to do but have a job so you ain't broke doing it. Nobody can tell you what makes you happy.

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

Listen OP everything you have said sounds exactly like what I've gone through. You are not the problem as some have falsely claimed in this thread. You are unhappy in the world, and you seek purpose. Enquire of God OP and ask him because that's the only way your going to find any real objective purpose. Anything you come up with yourself is just your own subjective idea dreamed up to the fill the void left by not having an actual objective purpose. Without God you have no purpose.

Ive noticed those who have a calling in their life from God are always unhappy in the world. Until they discover what that calling is they are unhappy and unsatisfied with everything. God told me a long time ago I had to distance myself from my friends as they were a distraction from him. If they are not for God then the enemy will use them against you. Remember when the children of isreal travelled through the wilderness for 40 years before they reach the promised land? You are in the wilderness.