I need some advice (brews only please!)
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7 years :nikkawhat:
Chile if you don't move on....
Chile if you don't move on....
well lust is well.....lustful.
Feelings and emotions aside. Men know when a woman is giving us some play, or signs and whatnot. Not everyday a chick approaches us on some "damn, I been digging you since such and such" and yeah that does sound and appear well creepy and odd and stalkerish and obsessed. Like a fan or something. Put your self in his moccasins, if he did all that what you typed. Wouldn't you be like "ugh yeah, thanks" but feel a lil uncomfortable. I would. Its one thing to have a "crush" but seeing as how "women can have any man they want" is not the exception when the one you want....doesn't want you. it happens, it sucks. Get off fantasy island, and stop day dreaming. You had your shot and blew it. Im sure there's plenty of people you are "physically" attracted to and vice versa. No reason to harp on something that's not in your control. Can't miss what you never had.
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All Star
Thanks,i'll run this in two parts
aight so when i was graduating with my bs degree
i put in an application to a major employer in my field --> no response
resume+cover letter sent, did an office interview, then.. --> had to call them to learn spot had been filled
did a long phone interview, then...nothing
point being- i have a firm limit of three attempts
this applies to everything
women, employers, whatever
(honestly 99% of the time you just make one approach
but i am talking about rare exceptions , special circumstances etc)
brehette, you have to keep it moving
there are too many options in life to get hung up anything or anyone
PaperEnterprise
It's the inner strength..
Your not suppose to figure out why someone doesnt like, especially someone you tried being friendly with...if he went out of his way to not acknowledge You, carry on. You must be young.
aXiom
Maximized Potential
I love when my queens make moves like these
Girls tend to always want what they can't have and when they do get it, it turns out to be something they don't really want. Trying to figure out why he's not into you is a fools errand.. Chalk it up as his loss and keep doing your thing
One thing though.. about the basic white girl bit, are you just jumping to conclusions or have you actually seen the brother with a white woman
live it to the limit
All Star
No. I shouldn't assume. But he's got the whole vineyard vines wardrobe, hangs with mostly white guys, thing going.I love when my queens make moves like these
Girls tend to always want what they can't have and when they do get it, it turns out to be something they don't really want. Trying to figure out why he's not into you is a fools errand.. Chalk it up as his loss and keep doing your thing
One thing though.. about the basic white girl bit, are you just jumping to conclusions or have you actually seen the brother with a white woman
live it to the limit
All Star
Lol. I don't know where his apartment is exactly. But I would never do that. Now that's stalkerish
I usually hear this from guys pursuing women & not the other way around. You said he's "your type", a job with no kids. There are plenty of educated brothas that fit that description. It just something about HIM in particular?So, there's this guy that I've been digging since undergrad. I never told him then but after graduation I hit him up on Facebook and was like "hey I don't usually do this (cause I really don't), but I think that you're a cool guy and I've always found you interesting. Can we chat?" We exchanged numbers but nothing really came of it. Fast forward a few years to now - We literally live around to corner from each other. I just saw him when I was walking my dog, we passed each other while crossing the street and dude went out of his way to not acknowledge me. shyt had me feeling kinda
He's usually the type of guy that I go for : has a job, no kids, seems cool, a la Harrison from Scandal type of dude. But I do get the feeling that he's into white women. He's just got that " i'll take a basic white girl over a sista vibe."
I'm not saying that i'm all that but, dang. I can honestly say that this is the only dude that I tried to get at that bothers me because he rejected me. But, hey I guess its true that women handle rejection way worse than guys.
So, brehs do I just forget about my 7 yr crush? And give him the
whenever I see him? Real talk as a female I can admit that the shyt kinda hurt my feelings.
You really didnt talk to him in undergrad & what if you had hooked up with him & found out he is isnt what you thought. Sounds like your attraction is more lustful/physical than anything else. Not saying your feelings aren't genuine but if you guys exchanged numbers and nothing came out of that then chances are he doesn't view you as girlfriend material...
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The game is way too cold to be trying to push up on somebody who is not interested. And with everything going on in the world today, last thing I would do is underestimate someone's feelings or attitudes.