I need some advice.

[Sauce Dab]

shyt is we usually have good connection but lately I'm just like, I don't care. I busted out the synopsis for my novel and it silenced the talk.

IMO you should probably talk it out with her so y'all can get on the same page. Hopefully she takes it the right way

 

[TEH]

Obviously you are incompatible break up now before marriage and kids and thoughts of murder come ...

 

[Rawtid]

IMO you should probably talk it out with her so y'all can get on the same page. Hopefully she takes it the right way

Eh, she'll probably cry. But who cares? Better than lying to her.

 

[SheWantTheD]

LMAOOO my sister and mom used to do this shyt to me, but now I said FUKK NO. Literally want to talk about the most trivial shyt or complain about the most trivial shyt you ain't gon change but are just complaining for the sake of complaining.

I forgot what that felt like

 

[KinksandCoils]

She's comfortable with you that's why. It's a good thing.

Recently when out with my gf, she's been talking to me about things I don't care about like why she has so many shoes or other shyt I just tune out. I usually don't talk unless I have something meaningful to say. Sometimes it seems like she talks just to fill the space during our travels where I've always enjoye silence and my own thoughts. Should I tell her I don't care about what she has to say or just let her talk?

 

[JerkPork]

There's only one thing to do...

 

[Neuromancer]

She's comfortable with you that's why. It's a good thing.

This isn't advice at all.

 

[KinksandCoils]

So what

This isn't advice at all.

 

[Tunez]

Pass her to me

 

[prettiij_me]

I know it seems as though everything your gf talks about is boring or irrelevant, and while that might be true to an extent, keep in mind that you probably talk about ish she doesn't care about/can't relate to but she still listens bc she cares about you and pays attention anyways...it's a pain in the ass at times; and I definitely can feel you bc my bf is a real chatty patty while I'm not,(I'm a writer so Im more apt to writting things not to mention it's easier for me to put my thoughts on paper rather than verbalize them)I suck it up and listen to him prattle on (and on ) bc it makes him happy, and I don't want him to feel like he can't be himself with me...it's a part of his personality so I just listen...do I tune some of it out? Hell yea lol especially when I'm fresh off work and aint in the mood but it's what you do when your in a relationship...you compromise.

When I find myself getting irritated with him because of all the talking, I listen anyway and imo you should too, and if you actually listen to what she's saying it might not be so bad, but the more you try and tune her out the more annoying it will be to you


Just let her talk and really make an effort to pay attention so you can give her good feedback, trust me on this, actively participating in even what you might think is a pointless conversation with her can spark a really good dialogue, and if it doesn't at the very least she'll be able to get it all out at once rather than her repeating the samethings in different ways over and over all night lol

So to answer your question NO. Don't tell her she's annoying bc it'll most definitely hurt her feelings, and make her feel self conscious about talking to you bc in the back of her mind she'll be worrying about weather or not you're really listening and if you're making the face in your mind...it's just one of those things you do to make her happy just like the things she does for you

 

[Neuromancer]

So what

If you're not giving me advice then head to another thread.

 

[Neuromancer]

I know it seems as though everything your gf talks about is boring or irrelevant, and while that might be true to an extent, keep in mind that you probably talk about ish she doesn't care about/can't relate to but she still listens bc she cares about you and pays attention anyways...it's a pain in the ass at times; and I definitely can feel you bc my bf is a real chatty patty while I'm not,(I'm a writer so Im more apt to writting things not to mention it's easier for me to put my thoughts on paper rather than verbalize them)I suck it up and listen to him prattle on (and on ) bc it makes him happy, and I don't want him to feel like he can't be himself with me...it's a part of his personality so I just listen...do I tune some of it out? Hell yea lol especially when I'm fresh off work and aint in the mood but it's what you do when your in a relationship...you compromise.

When I find myself getting irritated with him because of all the talking, I listen anyway and imo you should too, and if you actually listen to what she's saying it might not be so bad, but the more you try and tune her out the more annoying it will be to you


Just let her talk and really make an effort to pay attention so you can give her good feedback, trust me on this, actively participating in even what you might think is a pointless conversation with her can spark a really good dialogue, and if it doesn't at the very least she'll be able to get it all out at once rather than her repeating the samethings in different ways over and over all night lol

So to answer your question NO. Don't tell her she's annoying bc it'll most definitely hurt her feelings, and make her feel self conscious about talking to you bc in the back of her mind she'll be worrying about weather or not you're really listening and if you're making the face in your mind...it's just one of those things you do to make her happy just like the things she does for you

Thanks for the advice. I'm a writer too so most of my internal workings are focused on my inner worlds. Apparently my writing turns her on. But I try not to talk to fill dead space. I'll try this way and tell you what happens.