I need some family advice...

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So this is going to be long...

I grew up with my cousin, so I would venture to say we're pretty close, well I think we are. The thing is, I feel like she doesn't communicate or hit me up EVER and it feels like she doesn't like me. Now normally I would say oh well, but this isn't the type of mentality she displays. I don't have a Facebook but awhile ago my friend hit me up like tater you're coming home?! :gladbron: I said yeah, how did you know? She said I saw it on your cousin's Facebook. She said she posted all excited like tater's coming home! I get to hang out with my little cuz!

My friends (who she doesn't like and has stated this many times) were planning me a coming home party and one of them hit me up and told me and said my cousin was helping, yet still I get no phone call, email, text, FaceTime, Skype, nada from her even saying anything. I didn't even tell her I was coming home, a friend of mine did.

I get here and she doesn't hit me up not once. I did contact her and when I do that is the ONLY time I talk to her or we see each other. Now I understand people are busy but she makes time to do all kind of other frivolous shyt but I can't even get a fukk you text.

Now the only time she has contacted me was to gossip. She has the BIGGEST mouth of anyone I have ever encountered. I'm talking, I know all her friends business, stuff that you wouldn't want anyone to know except the person you told. The only time she ever initiated contact with me in the entire two years I lived in a foreign country was to ask about some gossipy shyt she heard about me from somebody.

So now I am moving out of the state on Friday. I've been here for two months and again, the only time I talk to her is when I talk first. I want to bring this up along with the fact she acts phony and self important, but my friend said don't. She knows her and just says she's a phony ass person who's jealous and that's why she acts like that. I just feel like I should talk to her about it because it actually hurts my feelings :mjcry:. I love her but I don't think she really likes me. Do you all think I should talk to her about it or just leave the situation as is? I would hate for our relationship to end up like the rest of our families' but it seems that's where it's going.

There's much more shyt, but this is a long ass post already...
 

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Talk to her about her behavior, if that doesn't work then treat her how you would treat any other shytty person in your life. :yeshrug: Just because it's fam doesn't mean they should be exempted from being called out.
 

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Talk to her about her behavior, if that doesn't work then treat her how you would treat any other shytty person in your life. :yeshrug: Just because it's fam doesn't mean they should be exempted from being called out.

That's what my friend told me, but I always try and put family first. I guess that same mindset is not shared though.
 

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So this is going to be long...

I grew up with my cousin, so I would venture to say we're pretty close, well I think we are. The thing is, I feel like she doesn't communicate or hit me up EVER and it feels like she doesn't like me. Now normally I would say oh well, but this isn't the type of mentality she displays. I don't have a Facebook but awhile ago my friend hit me up like tater you're coming home?! :gladbron: I said yeah, how did you know? She said I saw it on your cousin's Facebook. She said she posted all excited like tater's coming home! I get to hang out with my little cuz!

My friends (who she doesn't like and has stated this many times) were planning me a coming home party and one of them hit me up and told me and said my cousin was helping, yet still I get no phone call, email, text, FaceTime, Skype, nada from her even saying anything. I didn't even tell her I was coming home, a friend of mine did.

I get here and she doesn't hit me up not once. I did contact her and when I do that is the ONLY time I talk to her or we see each other. Now I understand people are busy but she makes time to do all kind of other frivolous shyt but I can't even get a fukk you text.

Now the only time she has contacted me was to gossip. She has the BIGGEST mouth of anyone I have ever encountered. I'm talking, I know all her friends business, stuff that you wouldn't want anyone to know except the person you told. The only time she ever initiated contact with me in the entire two years I lived in a foreign country was to ask about some gossipy shyt she heard about me from somebody.

So now I am moving out of the state on Friday. I've been here for two months and again, the only time I talk to her is when I talk first. I want to bring this up along with the fact she acts phony and self important, but my friend said don't. She knows her and just says she's a phony ass person who's jealous and that's why she acts like that. I just feel like I should talk to her about it because it actually hurts my feelings :mjcry:. I love her but I don't think she really likes me. Do you all think I should talk to her about it or just leave the situation as is? I would hate for our relationship to end up like the rest of our families' but it seems that's where it's going.

There's much more shyt, but this is a long ass post already...
I don't understand why this is a difficult decision :patrice:
 

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I don't understand why this is a difficult decision :patrice:

It's difficult because I enjoy when we do spend time together and I would hate if we don't speak anymore. If it wasn't my family I would have cut her off, but we have a lot of history and I don't want to throw it away. I just think maybe the relationship can be salvaged. I do agree with @Emperor_ReinScarf though. If she cared she would make time. So I guess even though it's difficult she is most likely going to get the :camby:. She has too much pride to take into account what I say and then change her behavior. I think she would think she's "bowing" to my requests.
 

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It's difficult because I enjoy when we do spend time together and I would hate if we don't speak anymore. If it wasn't my family I would have cut her off, but we have a lot of history and I don't want to throw it away. I just think maybe the relationship can be salvaged. I do agree with @Emperor_ReinScarf though. If she cared she would make time. So I guess even though it's difficult she is most likely going to get the :camby:. She has too much pride to take into account what I say and then change her behavior. I think she would think she's "bowing" to my requests.
From the op hasn't your friend kinda done this already:ld:
 

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From the op hasn't your friend kinda done this already:ld:

:to: I haven't thrown it away...

She just acts so weird! Like I hit her up and she acts like she's super cool with me. Either she's just keeping this up for appearances sake or...well I don't know what else.

I guess typing this all out has really helped. Now that I reread it, if someone else asked I would have just said :camby:. But it's easier said than done.
 
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