I never understand why people who get dumped remain friends

[Alec Baldwin]

Long story, and it will make me look bad, but I'm in a sharing mood. This chick broke things off with me last year but said she still wanted to be friends. She was moving to a different part of the state and I wanted her in my life so bad that I agreed, hoping that if we stay in contact then we would get back together. That was a mistake on my part.

After she moved I was looking desperate as fukk, calling and/or texting everyday, etc, but she would just brush me off. Then one day I found out she was having sex with another dude, and I should have seen it coming. That hurt deep and we didn't talk for a while, but I didn't learn. I knew she was dating other dudes but she hit me up a few months later and actually blamed me for us not keeping in touch. Even though she was the one who shytted on me, I apologized and tried to explain (but even though it was her fault, I didn't blame her because I was afraid of losing her). Soon after that, I was in her city visiting another friend so me and her met up.

We had what I thought was a meaningful conversation and we agreed to keep in touch more often. I still wasn't over her and I was hoping we would get back together if I moved to her state for a job. Well, I tried to text/call her regularly after the visit but, of course, she started brushing me off again and it hurt just as much as before.

We went another few months without talking but she would randomly text me sometimes. Then a few weeks ago she hit me up and again blamed me for us not keeping in contact. I should have used this as a chance to express myself and get a lot of things off my chest, but I bytched up again and tried to avoid blaming her.

I'm kinda disappointed in myself after reading what I just wrote, but she was my first long-term relationship and I learned from it. She wasn't a bad person or anything, and I can admit that I made a lot of mistakes. Trying to remain friends with her was one that I'll never make again.

At least you man up and admit you were actin like a lil bytch. I did this too when I was like 16 and ever since then I'll write a broad off with the quickness if I feel she disrespecting me. All the nikkas in here on their rah rah "you actin like a scorned bytch" shyt, it ain't like that at all, it aint like a nikka sittin there like "MAN I CANT BELIEVE THIS bytch " We just write em off and keep it moving

 

[Fillerguy]

you dudes are bytches. how does a woman have power over you if yall broke up. unless was cheatin, keep it movin

 

[Kilgore Trout]

i told my ex "fukk you and your family, die slow

lol that makes you look kind of emotional.


I used to delete exes all the time but i realize they dont really care. Now I just keep them on and when I post pics of me and my new chick, that ether burns slow.

 

[BruhMayne]

Long story, and it will make me look bad, but I'm in a sharing mood. This chick broke things off with me last year but said she still wanted to be friends. She was moving to a different part of the state and I wanted her in my life so bad that I agreed, hoping that if we stay in contact then we would get back together. That was a mistake on my part.

After she moved I was looking desperate as fukk, calling and/or texting everyday, etc, but she would just brush me off. Then one day I found out she was having sex with another dude, and I should have seen it coming. That hurt deep and we didn't talk for a while, but I didn't learn. I knew she was dating other dudes but she hit me up a few months later and actually blamed me for us not keeping in touch. Even though she was the one who shytted on me, I apologized and tried to explain (but even though it was her fault, I didn't blame her because I was afraid of losing her). Soon after that, I was in her city visiting another friend so me and her met up.

We had what I thought was a meaningful conversation and we agreed to keep in touch more often. I still wasn't over her and I was hoping we would get back together if I moved to her state for a job. Well, I tried to text/call her regularly after the visit but, of course, she started brushing me off again and it hurt just as much as before.

We went another few months without talking but she would randomly text me sometimes. Then a few weeks ago she hit me up and again blamed me for us not keeping in contact. I should have used this as a chance to express myself and get a lot of things off my chest, but I bytched up again and tried to avoid blaming her.

I'm kinda disappointed in myself after reading what I just wrote, but she was my first long-term relationship and I learned from it. She wasn't a bad person or anything, and I can admit that I made a lot of mistakes. Trying to remain friends with her was one that I'll never make again.

Predatory instincts. All women got em. If you wouldnt have showed your weakness you would have been rearranging them insides again.

Sound like you learned ya lesson though

 

[kevm3]

On everything man, if a chick break up with me. And comes back on sum heeey type shyt. Im fukking her once, busting in her face, and never calling back


Ya cats need to accept reality. If a girl breaks up with you and comes back. What happened is that shorty ran off with a dude who she felt was better then you, and eventually got dogged out or the new dude wasnt as fly as she thought he was. So now she wants to go back to her safe-haven.


Ive seen it time and time again out here.


Shiiit it even happened to the gawd himself


It was freshmen year in college. Some chick who was feeling the kid hard body. Wanted to be my wifey. She even made a Facebook dedication video to me. But then the campus "Tyrone" holla'd at her. Ya kno the super cool older cat who all the girls wanted

Her friends convinced her to bounce with him, cause at the time I was a lil freshie and still small time on campus


Well you kno what happens next. Tyrone smuts her out for her whole freshmen year. Dumps her. And is on to the new hot thang on campus next semester. Shorty all fukked up emotionally and tries to run back to me


By then I was a junior and was already a boss in my own right on campus. I even had a way hotter girl than her at the time. So I was straight when she ran back to me. I didnt even let it get that close


Even to this day, every time I bump into her I get a 2 hour long pity fest from her on how she "made a mistake" when she was younger. And how "me & her where meant to be" , the last time that happened was like 2 weeks ago.



Man fukk all that bullshyt , these hoes know exactly what they are doing when they are doing it. Let these bytches drown out here brehs. Cause in reality they dont give a flying fukk about you. If they did, they would of never left you in the first place

That's real mane. These women either will chop on you with another guy or will string you along in the relationship but will be 'busy' all the time... or in other words she's chopping it with the other dude but keeping you around as her man for emotional comfort until she can get verification the other guy will take her on.

Some of these fellas think I be lying when I tell them that once a female loses her feelings for you, you are less important than a piece of gum stuck on the sidewalk to her. She will walk all over you and keep it pushing. Never come from a soft position with a female. If she ain't feeling you, you can't ever try to relive the past. You got to keep it pushing. And this is why I keep telling fellas that you always got to prepare yourself mentally for the moment your woman peels bad. It ain't easy to do but will pay off in dividends later because you NEVER know what a woman will do next.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's real mane. These women either will chop on you with another guy or will string you along in the relationship but will be 'busy' all the time... or in other words she's chopping it with the other dude but keeping you around as her man for emotional comfort until she can get verification the other guy will take her on.

Some of these fellas think I be lying when I tell them that once a female loses her feelings for you, you are less important than a piece of gum stuck on the sidewalk to her. She will walk all over you and keep it pushing. Never come from a soft position with a female. If she ain't feeling you, you can't ever try to relive the past. You got to keep it pushing. And this is why I keep telling fellas that you always got to prepare yourself mentally for the moment your woman peels bad. It ain't easy to do but will pay off in dividends later because you NEVER know what a woman will do next.

this si true, and guys don't realize that's why when there chick leaves them after like a 4 year relationship and doesn't even pick up the phone to call while their checking their phone every few minutes for a text that won't come, once a chick is gone she's gone

move on didn't want to be backup to aaron rodgers he left

 

[kevm3]

Yup the only time the female mysteriously becomes unbusy is when the other dude stops messing with her or she finds out he really wasn't an upgrade or ya'll separate and she sees you talking to another girl and becomes jealous or you just stepped out the house looking so fly she starts salivating again. None of those involve her truly feeling sorry for her actions and wanting to work it out with you again. It's more that she is feeling an emotional void and thinks that messing with you again is going to fill it. It is hardly ever her coming back desiring true friendship. She just needs you as emotional stability, because ya'll can be 'buds' after a break-up, but I guarantee you as soon as she finds a new dude to talk to, your bud can't be reached. When a woman has no categorical use for you, she will cut you off and not think twice about it.

 

[Gus Money]

At least you man up and admit you were actin like a lil bytch. I did this too when I was like 16 and ever since then I'll write a broad off with the quickness if I feel she disrespecting me. All the nikkas in here on their rah rah "you actin like a scorned bytch" shyt, it ain't like that at all, it aint like a nikka sittin there like "MAN I CANT BELIEVE THIS bytch " We just write em off and keep it moving

I used to struggle with writing people off and just keeping it moving. I'm better with it now though.

Predatory instincts. All women got em. If you wouldnt have showed your weakness you would have been rearranging them insides again.

Sound like you learned ya lesson though

Yeah I learned my lesson for sure.