I No Longer Blame My Father For My Anger Issues

[moorfeus]

If you don’t understand pathology and the overall contradictions we have as people of course your smart aleck ass would think its funny.

Smh

All that resentment you have of him might lead to an early death. In other words he will win again! He's laughing, smiling and happy so he's probably going to outlive you.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

All that resentment you have of him might lead to an early death. In other words he will win again! He's laughing, smiling and happy so he's probably going to outlive you.

You’re not wrong breh

Sounds like u the jealous one bruh…what’s your siblings relationship w your pops?

My sister is his favourite, my brother is next even through all he does is work at Chase as a bank teller at almost 30. They go to games together and all that. They’re more like friends as oppose to father and son

My sister brings all the nieces and nephews over for him to play with. She went to a 4 year so his stupid ass probably think shes einstein and not someone who got lucky and found a husband. She gets to play mommy while her man travels for work. I love my sister obviously. But she can talk to him about books and shyt and he’ll be all ears, yet if I do that he’ll change the subject on a dime.

 

[Phitz]

I'm not gonna look for a punchline like everybody else, because men on here like to tear each ohter down, but OP you still seem angry and it's seen in your posts. I'm not gonna be cliche, but I think you have the answer for yourself. and changing is like lifting weights, day by day.

 

[Hoodoo Child]

@darryl

 

[Phitz]

You’re not wrong breh


My sister is his favourite, my brother is next even through all he does is work at Chase as a bank teller at almost 30. They go to games together and all that. They’re more like friends as oppose to father and son

My sister brings all the nieces and nephews over for him to play with. She went to a 4 year so his stupid ass probably think shes einstein and not someone who got lucky and found a husband. She gets to play mommy while her man travels for work. I love my sister obviously. But she can talk to him about books and shyt and he’ll be all ears, yet if I do that he’ll change the subject on a dime.

this is another thread, but it seems like Americans make their job a MAJOR part of their identity. I dont think that is a good thing. It's your vocation but it's not YOU. People need to develop a way to separate that.

 

[number21]

Op is mentally ill.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

you are not him

Let that hurt slowly fleet away as you are your own man, leading his own family

 

[Turbulent]

Thread spin is going to be hilarious.

I swear i thought THIS thread might be some reverse thread spin

 

[moorfeus]

You’re not wrong breh


My sister is his favourite, my brother is next even through all he does is work at Chase as a bank teller at almost 30. They go to games together and all that. They’re more like friends as oppose to father and son

My sister brings all the nieces and nephews over for him to play with. She went to a 4 year so his stupid ass probably think shes einstein and not someone who got lucky and found a husband. She gets to play mommy while her man travels for work. I love my sister obviously. But she can talk to him about books and shyt and he’ll be all ears, yet if I do that he’ll change the subject on a dime.

You have to let it go. Your pain is only hurting you.
Get counseling. Don't let this be your downfall.

 

[Depreciating Asset]

Underrated thread

 

[null]

Ive always felt ...

pathological child abuse leads to a smaller pre-frontal cortex, which leads to indecision and flip-flopping in adulthood.

so yeah, you will change your mind (a lot) about how you feel about that

it also leads to lower executive control ...

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

Ive always felt my old man was an unserious, jealous b*stard Unserious because he talked a big game but failed to be a disciplinarian when it called for it (my brother breaking my sister finger on purpose for example) or just doing too much clowning around, borderline c00ning. Jealous because I went into the military, got out, and started my own business, meanwhile his ass blew his bread on bullshyt and still working for the man. It seemed no matter what I did he just would go “well good for you” but be all smiles and daps for my bro and sis. He texted me asking how his grandson doing is the only time he ever seemed to reach out to me, but in reality it was Through me But that jealously and indifference has led me to live a life of consistent paranoia that made me hostile towards everyone else. Its ruined relationships of all strides. Its why coming up I punched holes in the wall or was always getting into fights and why Im insecure enough to disrespect other me by calling them “fakkit” and other bull….a father is suppoused to be a beacon of guiding light for his son, but i feel my mama did all that rearing. He was just there. But even as I say this with a full bank account, a happy wife that I can’t trust to stimulate me emotionally, he still won at the end of the day. People like him more. He’s funnier than me. Ya’ll would get a kick out of him My son will probably respect him more than I. Even through him and mom seperated and he’s cheated on most of the hoes he dated, bytches still wanna kick it with him, whereas I maintained a sense of decorum that I felt was benefical to my being but it has left me unhappy. It’s why O choose to break that cycle when it comes to raising my son. I need to be there for someone who was at the end of the day a hindrance to sharpening my outlook on this cruel world. I can’t even say I love the man. But I realize its unreasonable to hold any ill will towards him. He will always just be Darryl to me

Happy for you

 

[Uncouth Savage]

Op is mentally ill.

I watched this and it was very educational. When she said she tries so hard to be normal.
One person wrote in the comments how her husband said "you do not love me". And I am like oh shyt that is what my wife said.
Be gentle with people if you can.

 

[Mowgli]

People blame their dad for cheating on their mother.

Then they cheat on their baby mother and become friends with their dad

 

[maxamusa]

People blame their dad for cheating on their mother.

Then they cheat on their baby mother and become friends with their dad

finding common ground


its still fukk em for lyfe...no new friends