A woman can identify a “lame” by looking at him such is not the case for abusers that are practically invisible until they reveal themselves.
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A woman can identify a “lame” by looking at him such is not the case for abusers that are practically invisible until they reveal themselves.
Kenny West
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Willfully missing the point as usual
It doesnt matter how long it can take to screen out a trait (replace lame with broke or soft or whatever), fact is it doesnt get screened out aggressively as superficial shyt. People can show abusive tendencies before they hit you. This information is frequently disseminated in women's publications
How to spot an abusive relationship — and help a friend who's in one - ABC Life
How To Spot An Abuser Before They Abuse You: The 5 Warning Signs of an Abuser – Dr Georgiana
Abuser tricks and warning signs of domestic abuse. - New Hope for Women
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It can be screen out, problem is that dominance and the aggressive tendencies that accompany many abusers are also things that genuinely attract women.
But I cant accept the pathetic spins when I know women who screen that type of behavior irl
Dap and repI think when you mature or get up in age you stop trying to figure out why women make the choices they make. My grandmother would say it useless I'm debating not arguing with a women. I agree these days . A lot of this shyt I've been hearing since I was just a boy. The shut and make a sandwich crowd or we are equal with men or I'm never going to be submissive. I love when they say well yeah I chose him but he lied .... Women have have no idea how much it wears on man when a women isn't accountable and responsible. Then turn it around and it's always a man's fault. Yeah there is shyt that women that go threw and you be like damn
. I remember one time I was about 12 yr old and I tried to do something a girl had done ...Mann my uncle punched me in the chest and gave me one of the great lessons. "You can do what women do you will grow to be a man. Women and men aren't the same . Women can bend reality but men cant. When men try it looks bad as a man and it shows a lack maturity."
Well it's true no one feels empathy for men who make bad decisions or get into bad situationsHe's not aware of the psychological explanations, just as others aren't who can't be bothered to spend 5 minutes reading about any of this because it's so much easier to use "common sense" to navigate these discussions.
Someone last night mentioned the fact that Tina left Ike, glossing over the fact that she suffered abuse from Ike for 16 years and didn't leave until AFTER she tried to take her own life. It'd be so much easier if these nikkas would just say how they really felt instead of dancing around it. There's a shadow framing of, "no one feels bad for men who make bad decisions so keep that same energy" a house of cards if you will.
The better way to look at this is: "it's easy to spend money but hard to get to out of debt"
11 Reasons Why People in Abusive Relationships Can't 'Just Leave'
Hungerpain
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nikkas still in here wit the bullshyt articles and excuses.
This is exactly how society treats the issue too.Meanwhile more kids gotta watch,hear and be a victim of abuse themselves all because they moms is a weak freak strung out on dirtbag dikk and validation that should stop being soo pathetic. Unfortunately nobody will tell them the truth about themselves because nobody really cares about the kids only about hurting the bytch feelings.
Cant count the number of homies and family members that had abusive pops/step pops ALL because that's the type of nikka the moms liked and didnt wanna leave.NOT because of some immaculate phenomenon that just happened with no possible prevention or solution.
But but victim blaming.
But but abusers are Jedi's,black magic Sorcerer's and Navy SEALS.
But but *insert psychobabble*
Society treat women like kids and the kids suffer.
Now that's irony.
This is exactly how society treats the issue too.Meanwhile more kids gotta watch,hear and be a victim of abuse themselves all because they moms is a weak freak strung out on dirtbag dikk and validation that should stop being soo pathetic. Unfortunately nobody will tell them the truth about themselves because nobody really cares about the kids only about hurting the bytch feelings.
Cant count the number of homies and family members that had abusive pops/step pops ALL because that's the type of nikka the moms liked and didnt wanna leave.NOT because of some immaculate phenomenon that just happened with no possible prevention or solution.
But but victim blaming.
But but abusers are Jedi's,black magic Sorcerer's and Navy SEALS.
But but *insert psychobabble*
Society treat women like kids and the kids suffer.
Now that's irony.
Exactly, they aren't raised to accept responsibility and shoulder burdens as society mostly treats them with kid gloves and protecting them from the fallout of their actions...
The only person that can take action in DV is the victim by leaving, not enabling the abuser....
This isn't prison or lockdown where you can't yell for the CO....
This isn't Zero Dark Thirty where you are in a torture chamber...
You aren't in the Middle East where they have real DV issues....
Call the cops, get his ass or her ass arrested, or leave....
Pretty simple...
They can bring up all the psychotherapy studies they want, me , you & any other man with a backbone that wants a productive society will NEVER feel bad for these dumb broads....they are so selfish they not only ruin their lives but their kids lives. I stay far away from people like this (men & women...but in this case women).
They can use female intuition to tell if a dude has it going on or not but can’t tell if he’s abusive
yet everyone else can see it comingNever felt bad for these idiots.
nikkas in here posting articles and citing peer reviewed studies by people that have spent more than 5 seconds thinking about these topics like they don't have common sense to center themselves and know what they would do in a given situation.