"I told him im not ready for a relationship and he just....BLOCKED me. No pressure applied"

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Only thing he possibly did wrong was block her. On some level that let her know he was hurt.

He should've just ghosted. Don't answer her calls or texts.

But maybe he also didn't want her bothering by calling/texting

I disagree with this.

I block every ex that I had a bad break with.

Not cuz i'm hurt, but because its just easier to move on. No "lets talk" text, no "hey i'm sorry wyd?"

Blocking someone doesn't always mean they hurt you. It often means you are just done with that part of your life and you moving on. :yeshrug:



Even now that i'm married, none of my exes can contact me. Doesn't mean i'm mad lol :mjlol:
 

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Nah, you're trying to stretch it into an L when it really isn't.

Doesn't matter how the block is interpreted. What matters is moving on without further consideration.

It's not an L. Especially if you cease contact. But if you're blocking it means that it's still bothering you, otherwise you could just leave it alone without needing to block. Her knowing you're getting emotional about it is the L.

Yeah, because her ass is blocked ..

Me? way too petty

I like the bullshyt pile extra high before I break down their little world

I consider pettiness a feminine trait that women like to describe themselves as. Petty usually comes from an emotional place. It's just more effective for me to KIM without the block.

The logic of this sounds so dumb

:mjlol:

Blocking someone is emotional :mjlol:

It sounds more like u have an emotional attachment to keep them in your circle

How am I keeping them in my circle if I literally never communicate with them? Blocking them represents emotion because thats when men most often block people.

You blocking your homie when yall fall out?
You blocking an employer after you quit or get fired?
You blocking telemarketers when they call?
You blocking a recruiter from a job you're no longer interested in?

If the answer to any of those is no, then examine why this person needs to be blocked. Show me a non emotional reason to do it.

A disciplined man can literally move on with having to do anything extra. A number in your phone is just that UNLESS you communicate with that person.


Why not? I’m pretty sure he don’t want the bytch to keep aggravating him and hitting him up.

How could she be aggravating him if he's moved on? Why would he care, what would it matter? It's not different than a telemarketer.



But do what ever yall need to get through your process of getting over someone. Emotions aren't a bad thing, just acknowledge them when they're there.

You can't tell me the dude in that twitter scenario didn't say "Man fuk that bxtch" when he blocked her. That's emotional. He put two months into something he thought was going somewhere it's okay for him to be hurt. But a man can settle that within himself without showing emotional/petty actions like blocking someone. If he really was okay with her not wanting him he would've just kept it moving and just detached emotionally himself rather than relying on technology (blocking) to help him with that.

People often use that block because they are shook to have the real conversation. That's why ghosting is a thing, people are nervous to have a difficult conversation and they'd rather let technology do the work.

Yall blocking people instead of just ignoring them. That's like hitting ignore on a coli poster because you don't have the discipline to ignore them yourself.
 

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It's not an L. Especially if you cease contact. But if you're blocking it means that it's still bothering you, otherwise you could just leave it alone without needing to block. Her knowing you're getting emotional about it is the L.

Nah.

This is the weird flex people used to try and do at school to get out of an ass whooping. If you hit me, that means you're offender and I win.

What matters is sticking by the decision. Doesn't matter if you're heated or if you just don't give a fukk.
 

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I was raised to not chase anything that doesn't chase you back when it comes to women. 2 months of talking? That would have been 2 weeks for me. If it takes 2 months of talking for you to get to a place were you know what you want,you can go contemplate somewhere else and leave me theee fukk alone and don't bother meee(Tupac voice)
 

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Every fukking thread a coli moron wil come in and brag about something nobody cares about.

It could be a thread about saving money to purchase something and a coli moron will come in like “ Yall really saving money out here? :scust: I’ve never saved money in my life to purchase something since my job pays so much I always have something. Six figures gang, we ouchea :wow:


:deadmanny::dead::deadrose: The accuracy
 

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Kind of reminds me of this, Women these days don't know what they want. Then they turn to women and try to shade men. They create this barrier to dudes and they wonder why men feel like they are walking on eggshells dealing with them. If her behavior is always shifty then she has a serious problem.



 

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Ive literally NEVER asked a chick to be in a relationship :picard:


Never




Women pushed relationship on me like a crack dealer
I did once and learned a valuable lesson. If you have to ask a woman to be in a relationship, she ain't yours. Every other woman I've dated pushed it on me. Some women love the attention. They want all the perks of being in a relationship without the responsibility so they can get those same perks from other men. So if one says she isn't sure it usually means she's entertaining others or just using you to waste time until she finds the one she does want.
 

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Men have begun to realize that it's not worth the effort to get something out a woman that she doesn't want. Women out number men, if the man has anything going for himself there will be women that will be glad to be in a relationship with him. Women deserve to be treated with dignity and respect but that doesn't mean that men have to cotton to their bullshyt either. What I think women especially Black women need to realize is that Black men want relationships with them not situationships and not friendship.
 

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Homie was 1 month shy of steve harveys 3 month no sex rule:troll:

On a serious note,He did the right thing

And to no ones surprise most of the women in the comment section are defending her:unimpressed:
 

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Grown men shouldn't be blocking people, that's some basic ish.


But he stopped dealing with her, which is the right thing to do

Blocking someone is an emotional move. If she really doesn't matter and you've moved on, anything she says won't have an effect.

Imagine that nasty message she sent showing "read" with no response ever.

:win:
This is the way to move. I left so many low-interest chicks on read and watched the missed calls pile up with a big grin on my face.:mjgrin:
 
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