I understand why men in Longterm/marriage relationships cheat

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

GMB

 

[phcitywarrior]

Men don’t want to hear that it’s not good. That conversation never ends well. I remember there was a thread on here with a woman that was saying her husband never lasted long enough so she wanted to use a vibrator and he got mad at her and said absolutely not. What should she do? Just keep having trash sex? Or just not do it at all?

As I’ve gotten older I've come to realize that whole "mess around" without regard till you want to settle down isn't quite sound advice for men or women.

You build up a sexual appetite that may or may not be satiable when you get married (a good partner is more than just good sex).

Ex. Alicia was used to well endowed men in her single years but her current husband isn't up to par even though he's a good partner in other areas. Likewise Jason was used to freaky, kinky sex when he was single but his current wife doesn't compare even though she's loyal, motherly etc. Now both Alicia and Jason feel their sex life is in adequate.

I think Chris Rock had a bit on this....women can't go back financially, men can't go back sexually. Something like that.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Breh those dudes are bytches, most straight woman don't wanna fukk another woman with a penis. As a wife they need to fukk and suck whenever he feels like barring them being physically or mentally unable. I mean shyt, my girl don't be wanting it sometimes but because she finds me attractive all I got to do is touch and kiss on her she'll be in the mood, actually that might be all they need to do. fukk they asking and waiting on it for, go woo the bytch.

ive been in this situation before with my ex wife.....the relationship had gotten so toxic i barely wanted to talk to the broad.....

the dichotomoy was i was STILL attracted to her

....physically

 

[Snoopy Loops]

I feel vindicated reading this thread. One of my main motivations for breaking up with ex last year was her not giving up buns despite deep conversations and all that patient shyt .

Some women stop giving buns for a mixture of reasons, some physical, some emotional. However some things are just out of a man's control, and its best to find your own way if she's not trying to meet you halfway.

Spoiler: My Experience

shyt was all good at first. Then 5/6 months i noticed the drop. Frequency became 3/4 times a month. I confronted her and we had an open conversation. shyt didnt really change, so i brought up it after my birthday(who doesnt give their man buns on his birthday )

I gave her 6 month ultimatum. We broke up after the 5 month.

In her defense, I'll offer 3 points: (1) She had a traumatic experience sexually earlier in the year (not rape) (2) she was open to negotiation and recognized no sex didnt bode well for the relationship, which inspired her to offer a hall pass to get buns elsewhere which I exercised occasionally, but it was difficult managing a main girl and chasing other women. (3) she was on birth control and an antidepressant, which couldve explained her low sex drive.

But main her excuse was that she just couldn’t turn herself on and shyt. Like she needed buildup over the course of the day. Lowkey saying I wasn't dropping game over the course of the day, despite us vibing the whole day via text or lunch calls.

The excuse rings a lil hollow to me now, cuz all the women I’m currently messing with usually just require a touch. They're also dedicated to satisfying a nikka. Usually, if she got hers first, and she would just keel over and go to bed, which I never did when the tables were turned. shyt just felt selfish to me sometimes, felt like my nut wasn't her business. Bare in mind, we're both in our late 20s/early 30s.

After being single for a bit and playing the field, meeting women with different sexual appetites, the realization I've come to - which really is self-evident - is that women are just wired different. Some want to please, while some dont prioritize their partner's pleasure. Some require elaborate game to turn them on while some just need a touch to ignite the flame.

One of my homeboys recently broke up with his ex of 3 yrs for the same reason. He and I discussed this issue when I was planning to bush mine. Breh was tryna play the angel on my shoulder, talmbout being patient, and making sacrifices. Low and behold, he breaks up with his girl for the same shyt a year later.

Moral of the story: if you find yourself in that situation, demand change, if she's not compliant, cut her loose, cuz trust me, it will make you put in less effort, which in turn will make her less likely to give up buns. It becomes a cycle, you have remove yourself from.

shyt will hurt to cut her loose, you'll probably feel guilty especially if y'all are actually friends, but a relationship is an audition for marriage, and if one party isn't willing to sacrifice for greater good (which in this case, is for both of y'alls pleasure), then its pointless to move forward.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I’m 35 my new chick 25 she talking about she wanna suck and fukk everyday. I said Everyday?

Breh... she’s 25... fukk do you expect?

Im fukking three times per day.. MINIMUM. I’ll settle for two times and a blowjob if it has been a long day. If you’re my woman, that’s non-negotiable.

Get some zinc in your diet.

 

[Youseenmywork]

....but if the brothas on the coli said it they would drag nikkas

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

Once a woman stops wanting to have sex with you she's on her way to having sex with someone else. I can damn near guarantee it.

Once your woman stops wanting to fukk, check her phone 2 weeks to a month later and you'll see why.

 

[Thegospel]

Once a woman stops wanting to have sex with you she's on her way to having sex with someone else. I can damn near guarantee it.

Once your woman stops wanting to fukk, check her phone 2 weeks to a month later and you'll see why.

Shut yo lame ass up. Only goofy nikkas like you go in phones

 

[broller]

Wifey wants to BS on givin up the yams, or decides to weaponize sex, as a reward...then I accept that as giving me the greenlight to get cheeks elsewhere....

We're not doin the mental gymnastics for ass, or the

I aint got the time, nor the energy to be thinkin up intricate schemes, to get cheeks from my lady. Especially when another female will handle it, with pleasure for less. Cats be tryin to put it on the dude, like its all their fault shyt goes left...

Word. It takes two. Women thinking they're entitled to be swept off their feet...but why ain't the man entitled to some freaky lapdance every once in awhile?

 

[Yo Mama]

Men in Long term relationships with kids should be The Title..It’s hard Having Sex With babies constantly needing attention..a lot women sex drive tend to decrease that first year of having a kid with their partner..but men and Wombmen just need to accept their differences and be at peace

Lol. True.

*Warning Too Much info below*

Our kids sleep in bed with us more often than not.

When we had the first we had a one bed apartment. Had a cot but refused to sleep in it.

Baby number 2 moved into a two bed apartment, still slept with us. Only played in their room but never slept there.

Moved to a house, burbs for kids to have more room. They still sleep in bed with with us 90% of the time. Use their room for basically storing their clothes.

We do not have sex in our actual bedroom, we use one of the guest bedrooms for that. If the kids are at school there is work so not much daytime sex.

Kids can be such c**kblockers. I'm waiting for the day that they are happy without needing to be around us so much.

Coz if you even attempt to do it during the day they will without fail somehow find you and ask what are you doing here alone.

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To be painfully honest with myself, when I looked back with a mindset to see if I honestly had any fault in how things turned out... when i caught my husband cheating it was after our 2nd baby and I had zero interest in sex.

He said we would go months without sex. I'm thinking are you sure? It seems we had sex just the other day? But he said I always refused.

Also I became really really really fat after baby #2 and that i look back I was obese, depressed probably and not into sex which he initiated even in my fat state, and I refused. My sisters told me later that I was super bytchy to my husband during and after the second pregnancy, i was like no way, but my best friend says yes I was... I dont remember being bit hy or mean to him though???

I will never admit any of this to my husband though. I will continue to be "completely outraged" by his betrayal.


So folks its not easy being married.

 

[Coli Bot]

Everyone gets bored of fukking the same person after a while. Men and women.

If you are a loyal person you will ignore and suppress those feelings. Your options will also decrease as you get older and uglier. Men and women.

Everybody selfish these days though and social media extends options for everybody.

 

[Carlton Banks]

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