If a fathers child won’t speak to them should the father keep trying no matter what?

[DEAD7]

Yes.

 

[Xcenai]

then that little kunt will grow up and be angry at his father for not trying more

fukk dem kids

 

[Cat piss martini]

If I had a son he'd have enough
respect for me to at least reply.


















If not fukk that lil nikka.
me blessing him with the
goat genetics and good looks
is a blessing in itself.

 

[Colicat]

Not necessarily. Without going into too much detail they were pretty close


Uncle used to send him money every month a few hundred dollars directly to him

Ain’t ends up putting him on child support that is almost 2k a month

Cousin asked for money after. Unc tells him he has no extra money to ask his mom

Cousin stops talcn to him

Maybe that was the final straw. Maybe it was disappointing to the cousin that the father wouldn’t come through for him.

If it was a surface issue then the cousin will eventually reach out to the father once he has matured enough to understand that he was upset over nothing. Hopefully the father will be receptive of the son.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

You never stop trying as a father
And being this is an op thread
I know it’s some more information missing than just the father not throwing a couple of dollars
But you coming to a message board filled with emotionally damaged men/women
Who can’t even have honest conversations about the topics posted on here daily
Without somebody calling somebody a cac because of an opposing opinion
You honestly think they are going to give you good faith arguments and analysis

 

[Top Left]

Not necessarily. Without going into too much detail they were pretty close


Uncle used to send him money every month a few hundred dollars directly to him

Ain’t ends up putting him on child support that is almost 2k a month

Cousin asked for money after. Unc tells him he has no extra money to ask his mom

Cousin stops talcn to him

yeah your cousin is a piece of shyt

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

Unless his father did something that was traumatic to your cousin, he has no reason to be the way he is towards his father.

 

[jwall123]

I hope cuzzo can forgive his dad for what happened at some point. As time passes, usually the dmaaged party is the one holding on to pain that forgiveness can remedy. Quick story...

My pop moved about 1400 miles away when I was about 8 or 9 y/o. His relationship with my mom was pretty toxic. They argued every night for hours on end; sometimes putting their hands on one another. Pops always talked to my brother and me about what was going on and how it could not work with ma dukes. He saw that it would end in jail or death and he didnt want that for the us kids. So he moved.

After he left, we spoke on the phone, we would spend summers with him, etc. Though it was not the ideal scenario for rearing kids (the long distance and summer visits), it allowed me to see his side (to go with what my mother would say all other times of the year when we were with her).

Long story less long, I decided to forgive them both. I decided to maximize my time with them on this earth because I have something to learn from them. I decided to recognize they are humans, and as humans we fukk up. It has given me ultimate peace.

Though I dont know the story of OP's cuzzo, I would advise he sort out what has him in a place where he cannot forgive. No matter what happened, try to consider the cirumstances that lead his pop to whatever happened (just because you do this, it does not mean what pops did was wron or give him a pass for the damage it caused). Try to understand its genesis and the contributing factors to the actions that pops did and decide how you want to proceed. For me, forgiveness was it. Not forgiving is an option too. But cousin has to have peace with the decision. No matter what he decides remember you can be right and still lose.

 

[Sterling Archer]

At a certain point I’d just be like doors always open, you know where to find me.

This is all. I’m not chasing nobody down.

 

[High Art]

It depends on why that rift exists in the first place. If the father is to blame, then healing that rift is on him, not anyone else.

 

[3rdWorld]

Life is hard, real hard..
I guess when he finds himself homeless or locked up somehow it'll be his dad's fault.
You can't ignore a man, you face him..your cousins hoe made. Result of being raised by what I now think is a bitter woman

 

[Maruchan]

This is most likely the result of years of his mother in his ear telling him his father ain't shyt. The first opportunity for his father to live up to that and now it's cemented. Until he has a kid himself then he'll know

 

[BaRRyG]

Not necessarily. Without going into too much detail they were pretty close


Uncle used to send him money every month a few hundred dollars directly to him

Ain’t ends up putting him on child support that is almost 2k a month

Cousin asked for money after. Unc tells him he has no extra money to ask his mom

Cousin stops talcn to him

This is the same shyt my homie going through. This is tough to watch. Some women are pos.

 

[doublejump]

Just leave the door open.

Honestly the op sounds like my situation.

Edit: Father did nothing to (or for) me and my mother never bad mouthed him. Kinda saw he wasn't shyt with my own eyes at a young age and kept it moving.