Most women can't "orgasm". It does not mean they are having pleasure tho.
The problem is they artificially equated man's orgasm to female's orgasm. But people will have to admit again that men's sexuality is different from female sexuality.
Problem is also pron who created a fake vision of female sexuality.
The proper question will be whether the woman is enjoying herself or not. It can be her fault or the man's fault. Sex is not mechanics.
It's a trait of postmodern societies. I learned that there is a international female orgasme day.

Fun story : a long time ago, european monks used to tell people to not give their woman to much pleasure because it will turn them into whores.