If you are man with no male friends...

[Blankthawtz]

It says that you are blessed to be born and raised in Harlem!....

 

[10bandz]

< said it best, dudes just want to compete and one up with each other which ultimately leads to aggression and nothing productive

Which is why I distanced myself from a lot of dudes. Can’t be rolling around deep as hell as a grown as men shyt will cause problems. But it’s good to have a handful of trusted nikkas

 

[Barlow]

OP know damn well these nikkas don’t have friends

 

[Neuromancer]

Wow dudes really have shytty friends.

 

[TNC]

It depends what you consider "friends"

If you talking about people I can call up, have a beer with, watch the game/fights with or just shoot the shyt, its literal hundreds....

if you talking about people I trust, could built personally or professionally with or i know I can rely on, I might need only 1 hand to count them...

 

[JackRoss]

Friends

Associates and people that know of me and/ maybe know of them is cool with me. I'm not in my teens or early 20's.

If you wasn't with me coming out the birth canal, you better be special for me to fukk with you like that

 

[TNC]

exactly. Its always a competition. Money, woman, car, travel, sports acumen, etc.

ill befriend a dude who is talking to me about business. But even then we wont be much friend just two people tryna make money.

other than that nah

A lot of this is true, but what usually makes friendships like this thrive is if all parties offer something the other's can't or won't.

Like you ever had a swaggy dude who got women all the time, but he's broke and doesn't have his own place, he might make friends with a regular or lame dude but who has their shyt together and its a mutually beneficial relationship. If they forge their friendship well, they can both help each other level up in their weak areas if the hate and jealousy doesn't consume them....

 

[newarkhiphop]

This unfortunately is true. I’ve seen strong bonds break down as soon as a female started coming around.

Yea I didn't even bring up the effects of a female being introduced to the group all that friendship shyt go right out of the window

 

[010101]

men connect based on purpose

once i came of age the only dudes i was around on a non hustle related basis were family for real

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[Consigliere]

Depends how old you are.

School aged? No male friends? You should be on a watch list.

Over 25? You better be knee deep in coochie or in a committed relationship.

 

[Ineedmoney504]

Idk what it says tbh. I have really only 2 male friends now. Like brothers and I trust them with anything.

I have no real female friends I hang out with.

 

[threattonature]

I'll say it's hard as hell meeting male friends. Most people's male friends came from either their job, childhood, or college. I moved to a new city where I'm working from home. I still talk to my male friends back where I used to live but in the new city ain't made any tight male friends. Most dudes I've met were either white and we didn't have enough in common, too broke, or borderline c00ns. I'm a hood dude with a great paying job so hard to find somebody that relates on both levels. Female friends were easy to meet during dating.

Plus I'm big into sports and it seems hardly any men in my city are into NBA like that from those I've happened to meet.

 

[Bossino]

Wow dudes really have shytty friends.

It's a transactional society and fundamentally as a man most people don't give af about you, therefore 90%+ of people can't be true friends. Actual friends are usually determined earlier or in the formative/building stages of life I'm 22 and I can't see myself making more than 10-15 more friends for the remainder of my life and that's a higher estimate. I got buku acquaintances, and people are drawn to me when I feel like socializing so if I desire people it won't be an issue to get them, but if I can share real life issues, muse about theories/current events, have deeper conversations, etc I don't see the point of just having people around I don't get lonely like that. There's always something I could/should be doing for self improvement or leisure solo. A friend has to be a net positive, and helping them/showing reciprocity should be effortless. Just like with a woman too much friction is never worth the headache from my perspective, but again I don't get lonely/bored like that if a person is more reliant on company I wouldn't recommend this lifestyle.

On a another note we did a thread with personality tests and most people who responded where introverts (INTJ), disproportionate to like the 1-3% of population that falls into that category IRL. So yeah forums are for people that either can't make, or don't care to make friends like that, because they value community but don't like the obligation/responsibility of friendship when you don't really like the person/are on the same page like that. It's also why there's a large proliferation of GMB.

In general I'm picky on both dating (seeing a woman romantically outside of sex), and friendships because I understand both are important responsibilities and I don't want to exert my energy/give the best of myself/be vulnerable with or for just anybody I can always just half ass with acquaintances which come a dime a dozen

 

[Breh the HitMang]

Im too focused on getting money and investing in myself for new friends, my childhood friends, and family is all i need

you a lame if you think otherwise

 

[serial]

Can you imagine how hard it is to make NEW male friends as an adult? Not to mention if you are a man of any means you would have moved around frequently in your formative years. How are you going to honestly keep up with these people? I don't count Facebook friends as friends. Can you hang out with this person for hours on end and it not be awkward? Dry? Men are kind of funny when it comes to that. I speak with a lot more women simply because of the sexual nature of it. I approach women, it's acceptable. You can't approach a man and be like hey let's grab some beers, let's be friends. So what can you do.

Now don't get me wrong, I have a lot of male associates. I can text someone / call someone up and bullshyt about new movies / games etc but nothing deep. I can't get 'deep' or 'real' with any man tbh. I shoulder my own burdens. Such is the nature of being a man. One of the greatest lesson a man can learn is...no one really cares about your plight, they only care if you're winning.

This - your definitely living up to your name my guy