That's the thing if you truly love the kid it won't matter what stages they go through or what financial burdens they carry they are your life they don't negatively impact your life. Being a parent isn't a sacrifice in the eyes of parents who make their children their it's a life transition.
Well I'm not trying to deal with it. Unless I can make sure that child acts exactly as I did as a kid and adult then it's just not worth the risk, lol.