In this day and age women are encouraged to think and move like us while still having the social and legal support of yesteryear. So like
@Doobie Doo said there is a need to protect ourselves. They can lie, cheat, etc with dimished consequences or shame while we're always asked what we did wrong.
Also (I'ma get some

for this), when talking about the black man+woman dynamic specifically, our culture in this country comes from not coming from much, whether you're in that state or are 3 generations removed. So the idea of giving isn't encouraged, and a culture of "finessing" or getting the most in return for giving the least is prevalent. Showing love just to show love gets you hurt. Sharing a resource just to share a resource gets you hurt. Being sincere to just avoid confusion let's people see your cards while theirs are glued to their chest...because of the predominant mentality.
For me personally, I just have become very focused on dealing with reality, and realistically every man is not and may not ever be equipped to enjoy consistent feminine energy/company without a consequence.
I get anecdotes of being considered handsome but handsome isn't sexy...so I don't tap into the typical woman's primitive drive to cooperate that way.
I'm not a man of impressive stature so I don't command respect that way and/or tap into a woman's primal instinct of feeling protected/submitting to physical strength. This combined with an easygoing temperament I wouldn't be surprised if I start dating and women feel like they can challenge me and start hitting me.
The necessity for resources and "having it together" are stressed by both sees on here, as well as the appearance of resources in being well-dressed. I don't "have it together" and don't spend money on fashionable trends or designer clothes to give that presentation. So I know that women aren't looking me because I'm not projecting money. If I were to find my way into the industry I'd like, or buckle down and choose a trade instead of that, I'd still have to project my resources to get the same looks that I or any man naturally give women. I've accepted that all women are, at varying degrees, gold diggers. Maybe it's at a 2, maybe it's at 9. But that meter is in there.
When you know those type of things, how do I sit and say a woman/women will naturally respect, cherish, and love me without going against logic and sound judgment, which is a part of being a man? I and other men with their own shortcomings or poor experiences would be buying into Disney fairytale just as much as we say women do.
And applying fairytales to real life gets you burned.