I remember watching youtube a decade ago, and this superthug goon said that he was a poindexter nerd until he was 13 and the light skinned broad he was crushing on, rejected him and played him in front of the entire class, and he felt that the only way he can ever recover, was to damn near catch a body. He said that he flunked almost all his class and dropped outta the 9th grade that following school year, to roll in the streets and build a rep.
It worked for him (sadly) and he, at that time, finished a 15 year jail sentence, and he still gets play from broads. So yeah, a lot of the problems in the black community is commidify basic male/female relations into caricatures and absolutes of being one extreme or another, for sex. Been out of control since the Crack Era.