No it's not 50/50 the Dynamics of relationships are never ever positive if a woman leads or has 50/50 say in a relationship . The woman will never be happy.. It's engrained within a woman to be with a mate she can fully trust to lead the family. So if you are always second guessing your man not listening and following his lead just leave him you're wasting each other's time.
I'd rather be single if a nikka expects me to "Follow his lead". I don't expect any man to do anything for me, ever.
My parents taught me to be independent, not that I needed much help with that anyway. My mom always told friends and family alike that I would give a man trouble because I am strong willed like a mother fukker.
A relationship should always be 50/50. If one person only has an input, the other person will always feel left out of everything.
I know everything won't be fair over the course of the relationship but at least give your other half a chance to do their part as well.
I've met dudes who are on this wave and we clashed immediately because he feels like he's entitled to tell me what I can and can't do.
So no, I don't agree with this statement at all. No one should put that much faith in another person unless they are sure that their partner is really going to lead them in the right direction.
This. fukk we as BW look like following ninjas that ain't paying what they weigh in the household?
if you following a man outside your shared domicile then you already lost.
I'd rather be single if a nikka expects me to "Follow his lead". I don't expect any man to do anything for me, ever.
My parents taught me to be independent, not that I needed much help with that anyway. My mom always told friends and family alike that I would give a man trouble because I am strong willed like a mother fukker.
A relationship should always be 50/50. If one person only has an input, the other person will always feel left out of everything.
I know everything won't be fair over the course of the relationship but at least give your other half a chance to do their part as well.
I've met dudes who are on this wave and we clashed immediately because he feels like he's entitled to tell me what I can and can't do.
So no, I don't agree with this statement at all. No one should put that much faith in another person unless they are sure that their partner is really going to lead them in the right direction.
Perhaps OP meant differently, but my interpretation of it was that if a woman doesn't have the level of trust and confidence in her man to be willing to follow his lead and allow him to drive the thing, then she's not for him. And I think that's true in the sense of you have to believe in him and believe that he won't steer you and him wrong in moments of truth. Granted I'm mostly just speaking for me, as I value someone who believes in me.
And it goes both ways. Because I believe a man of value wouldn't make big decisions or whatever without the input of his lady. Much like she should trust him to make the right call, he should be able to trust her that she will either back him up or -- if needed -- show him a new perspective that would keep him from making a bad decision that could crash the ship.
Simply put, if you don't believe in your heart of hearts that your S/O will make decisions with the best interests of yourself and your union in mind ... you're in the wrong union. Because either there is no trust, or your S/O has not shown you anything worth trusting them for in that scenario.
That doesn't mean that all important decisions should be made by one side. You're spot on with that. It just means you believe in his ability to make the right decision for the both of you. It should be mutual.
Just read what OP said and this is exactly the type of posturing that I'm talking about. Whether ur ego will allow you to wcknowledge it EVERY relationship is 50/50 at some point. You not leader or relationship material if you can't compromise.
I'm good with this. But his true test of leadership is whether he is able to acknowledge when he is wrong. I hate people who don't listen. I see shyt sometimes before it happens.
Trust is a two way street. If he isn't intelligent enough to listen and trust me when I'm right b/c he is on some immature "Iz da man!" shyt, then I don't need him. I'm uninterested in insecurity and power struggles. If I'm with you, I'm rarely going to give a man a reason to have to flex on me.
Even kings have advisors and lose their divine Mandate of Heaven to rule when they don't listen to their court.
Too many wackos wanna be acknowledged as leaders and get the benefits of leadership without any of the responsibilities.
Otherwise, I have no problem with authority, male or otherwise.
Just read what OP said and this is exactly the type of posturing that I'm talking about. Whether ur ego will allow you to wcknowledge it EVERY relationship is 50/50 at some point. You not leader or relationship material if you can't compromise.
I'm good with this. But his true test of leadership is whether he is able to acknowledge when he is wrong. I hate people who don't listen. I see shyt sometimes before it happens.
Trust is a two way street. If he isn't intelligent enough to listen and trust me when I'm right b/c he is on some immature "Iz da man!" shyt, then I don't need him. I'm uninterested in insecurity and power struggles. If I'm with you, I'm rarely going to give a man a reason to have to flex on me.
Even kings have advisors and lose their divine Mandate of Heaven to rule when they don't listen to their court.
Too many wackos wanna be acknowledged as leaders and get the benefits of leadership without any of the responsibilities.
Otherwise, I have no problem with authority, male or otherwise.
I'd rather be single if a nikka expects me to "Follow his lead". I don't expect any man to do anything for me, ever.
My parents taught me to be independent, not that I needed much help with that anyway. My mom always told friends and family alike that I would give a man trouble because I am strong willed like a mother fukker.
A relationship should always be 50/50. If one person only has an input, the other person will always feel left out of everything.
I know everything won't be fair over the course of the relationship but at least give your other half a chance to do their part as well.
I've met dudes who are on this wave and we clashed immediately because he feels like he's entitled to tell me what I can and can't do.
So no, I don't agree with this statement at all. No one should put that much faith in another person unless they are sure that their partner is really going to lead them in the right direction.
Me too, but I found a leader good enough to follow. I give my input, he makes the final decision. It took a while to get it right, but we stuck it out.
Imo yes, but that's only if it's not destructive, but that leaves the door open for what some people would consider destructive and why a biblical view is inserted as a standard.
Following another humans lead 100 isnt realistic nor should it be done.
I do think the man should lead and the woman should follow, but it's not that cut and dry in application.
I also think the man should go out his way to treat his wife as well or even Better than he would treat his self.
If both people are doing that it going to make for a strong relationship.
However being in submission or following a man's lead is a dirty word these days.
I'd rather be single if a nikka expects me to "Follow his lead". I don't expect any man to do anything for me, ever.
My parents taught me to be independent, not that I needed much help with that anyway. My mom always told friends and family alike that I would give a man trouble because I am strong willed like a mother fukker.
A relationship should always be 50/50. If one person only has an input, the other person will always feel left out of everything.
I know everything won't be fair over the course of the relationship but at least give your other half a chance to do their part as well.
I've met dudes who are on this wave and we clashed immediately because he feels like he's entitled to tell me what I can and can't do.
So no, I don't agree with this statement at all. No one should put that much faith in another person unless they are sure that their partner is really going to lead them in the right direction.
I'd rather be single if a nikka expects me to "Follow his lead". I don't expect any man to do anything for me, ever.
My parents taught me to be independent, not that I needed much help with that anyway. My mom always told friends and family alike that I would give a man trouble because I am strong willed like a mother fukker.
A relationship should always be 50/50. If one person only has an input, the other person will always feel left out of everything.
I know everything won't be fair over the course of the relationship but at least give your other half a chance to do their part as well.
I've met dudes who are on this wave and we clashed immediately because he feels like he's entitled to tell me what I can and can't do.
So no, I don't agree with this statement at all. No one should put that much faith in another person unless they are sure that their partner is really going to lead them in the right direction.
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