I would flip my shyt if my dude mentioned that he talked to his ex. I just know I would. Like the fact that she would allow enough conversation between them for him to dedicate a song and tell him how much he misses her would raise all types of suspicion and then she has a nerve to tell you about it? bytch, bye. Why was the conversation that long? "I'm in a relationship now and I can't talk to you". Then I would have blocked him LMAO!! I don't need any temptations(Hey, I'm not perfect).
Exactly, women that are seriously in relationships and RESPECT it simply cut off old dudes and ice them. They say what you said. Sorry, let's keep the past the past. They don't go back and forth with them or dilly dally with them. They just cut them off. Now, women that want to play games or play the field again do stuff like what she did.
Her actions show that she really has her ex on her mind. What probably happened is her ex hit her up out the blue and they just started kicking it over text or phone conversations... she was 'bored' so she entertained the conversations and started getting that whole the grass is greener back with my old man vibe. Women never bring up men that weren't on their mind in a serious capacity. For her to bring him up, she is seriously thinking about jumping ship if she hasn't already done something with him. The twitter responses attests to that. The fact that she could show you texts from that guy in return to you showing her texts of your ex hitting you up shows that she's likely been talking to him for a while and going back and forth with him.
In her mind, she is gone, but what she is doing is bringing it up to try to give you a chance to convince her that her ex ain't what it is. But screw that, you can't let these women play these games with you. She shouldn't be talking to her ex or any other dude in the first place. Let's say that you DO manage to 'step it up' and get her to drop her ex or whoever she was talking to. Cool right? Nah, not really, because if she did it once, she'll do it again. It'll be another man who sang to her, wrote her poetry or some other nonsense that she will bring to your door in order to manipulate you in some fashion. If you let a woman utilize out of pocket behavior in order to manipulate her behavior, she's going to CONTINUALLY do that and either drive you crazy with her nonsense or she's going to dump you because she doesn't respect you.
What REALLY trips me out is she brought that stuff up to you like she was being a decent woman... Like she was doing the right thing LOL. "Babe, we talk about these things in relationships and I just wanted to be honest with you." If you wait for her to make the move, most likely she will escalate the games to make you give her the boot so she can date this new cat or ex without any guilt or she'll hit you up with that 'we need to talk' stuff... or she'll just disappear for a week or two.
Let babygirl go and let her explore with her ex, but WITHOUT using you as a rest haven. What' really happened is she probably been talking to this dude for a while and she's finally getting the green light that he wants to see what it is. She's a little hesitant on dumping you right now because you provide 'the security of a relationship', aka you are her comfort zone that she doesn't want to yet dismiss until she's locked in her new solid thing... but it looks like it is happening since she is ready to do something she regrets... which is just either sleep with that dude or dump you right now so she can move on. Don't play these games with her. Dump her and keep it pushing. But be forewarned... when you do dump her, she's going to play this whole victim routine of how you are this bad guy and how could you do this to her, etc., because it's a strike to her ego and you are pulling the comfort rug right from under her. She'll do the whole crying thing, but don't let that phase you. You want to deal with another guy? Bye and don't think you can use me as a rest haven until you get comfortable enough to make that move.
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