I’m an alcoholic I need help!!

[Dynamite James]

I go days without drinking but when I do I feel shame when my wife catches me. I have a baby on the way. I need help Brehs. (I have been having anxiety issues since a teen. It’s stays with you.alcohol gives you a false since if calmness. Threatened to kick me out

 

[Wildin]

I go days without drinking but when I do I feel shame when my wife catches me. I have a baby on the way. I need help Brehs.

Whats the reason or triggers that drive you to drink at this point?

 

[Geek Nasty]

Go to an AA or AA-like group. Lots of people going through what you are. They're going to be the best assets for dealing with addiction.

The pandemic economy and isolation is fukking with a lot of us.

 

[Paper Boi]

gottta find something else to do that you enjoy to do at times that you would be drinking (not another substance lol). i think it's really the only way.

 

[southpawstyle]

I go days without drinking but when I do I feel shame when my wife catches me. I have a baby on the way. I need help Brehs. (I have been having anxiety issues since a teen. It’s stays with you.alcohol gives you a false since if calmness

 

[Dynamite James]

Whats the reason or triggers that drive you to drink at this point?

Negative thoughts breh. I can go some days without but my brain tricks me to believe it’ll make me feel better

 

[Buckeye Fever]

If you go days without drinkin, you not an alcoholic. Nothin wrong wit a taste every now and then

 

[Cyrus' Wife]

Go to an AA or AA-like group. Lots of people going through what you are. They're going to be the best assets for dealing with addiction.

The pandemic economy and isolation is fukking with a lot of us.

This. And you're a strong breh for realizing you need help op. Many of us need to develop better coping mechanisms especially with all that's going on now. Salute to you for real.

 

[Wildin]

If you go days without drinkin, you not an alcoholic. Nothin wrong wit a taste every now and then

That's not true at all.

You don't know how much alcohol he consumes during an instance of drinking.

A person that drinks 18 beers in one day is just as bad as someone who drinks 3 a day 6 days a week.

 

[Dynamite James]

If you go days without drinkin, you not an alcoholic. Nothin wrong wit a taste every now and then

2 days no alcohol. Had a stressful day after work and bought alcohol. Why do I keep doing this to myself?

 

[Buckeye Fever]

That's not true at all.

You don't know how much alcohol he consumes during an instance of drinking.

A person that drinks 18 beers in one day is just as bad as someone who drinks 3 a day 6 days a week.

Ah, great point

 

[Fade Runner 2049]

I know someone thats in his late 30’s that can’t even drink water, only boose

anything else besides alcohol makes him feel sick


. Wanna be that guy?

 

[Cyrus' Wife]

If you go days without drinkin, you not an alcoholic. Nothin wrong wit a taste every now and then

Not necessarily. I've watched "functioning alcoholics" who were initially using it as a coping mechanism every now and then gradually increase their intake and slowly kill themselves. One I saw bleed out from accumulated liver damage which was horrific. I'm glad op is strong enough to realize and recognize the warning signs at this point.

 

[Buckeye Fever]

2 days no alcohol. Had a stressful day after work and bought alcohol. Why do I keep doing this to myself?

Good question. I ask myself the same thang. I skipped last night, but tonight when i get off work, i'm goin to puck me up a lil half pint. Most of the time, I dont finish it in one night.

Working 2nd shyt doesnt help me either

 

[Wildin]

Negative thoughts breh. I can go some days without but my brain tricks me to believe it’ll make me feel better

Since you know the source, negative thoughts, and you know your brain tricks you to believe you'll feel better and the end result is either that it doesn't, or it doesn't in a sustainable way and the fact that there is additional hurt when your wife finds out and the guilt of becoming a father,

First you need to find a coping skill/outlet other than the drinking...cause that's not working.

Then eventually you'll have to work with the negative thoughts.

Relapse is a part of the cycle of change.

I'm ladc (licensed alcohol and drug counselor) and have been for just over decade.

I would suggest going somewhere and having an alcohol/substance use evaluation done. Then you can have a proper diagnosis on how severe the issue is and what level of treatment is necessary.

If you have good insurance and even benefits from a job a lot of them will help with outpatient treatment or intensive outpatient treatment. I'd recommend it but I'm definitely biased.