I'm attracted to my co-worker and i have a fiance((UPDATE IN ORIGINAL))

[O.G.B]

this thread right here is why I lay massive pipe to my fiancé, stay in the gym plus bjj, flip on her for no damn reason sometimes(just to remind her a nikka aint soft),
and make do random things to spoil her(so she feel appreciated but also so other broads will tell her how good she got it), cause it don't take much for a female to lose intrest in a man then start letting another dude grab hold of it.

Nothing wrong with improving ones lot in life while putting in the extra effort to keep your relationship healthy & strong, but having a false sense of security with any woman is dangerous because even with all your positive personal attributes & good deeds, it still won't completely prevent your fiancé or prospective wife from contemplating a affair or actually cheating on you in the future if she chooses to do so.

 

[Mr. Negative]

So there is this guy, we work in an office setting together, we flirt.....hell we flirt alot sometimes with a sexual innuendo, he's fine as fucck, muscular build..younger than me & he turns me on just by the way he looks at me. I try to avoid him cause temptation is a bytch...... I think he's single but i am not sure.. He asked me to sit and have coffee with him on this saturday morning and i said yes.... But i have a Fiance............a live in Fiance at that, we have a child together... & my co-worker knows this.Jesus help me.... He looks like he can pick me up.... I have impure thoughts of him.......Am i a trollop?? We haven't fukked other than the thoughts in my mind.....i'm sure if i "keep getting coffee" with him things could get nasty but i feel like a cheater already....... Am i wrong to have these impure thoughts?? I need to back out on getting coffee with him but his fineness is stopping me. Go ahead call me out....call me tramp and a whore... This may help me....


What would you do if you were in this situation???

You think a certain thing, you feel a certain way,

it really doesn't mean you gotta do shyt. It's what separates us from animals.

But you've already accepted his lil play date offer and are prolly rationalizing it as a "friendly" thing, so you're already over the line. And your post was made DAYS ago.



Best thing you can do, if you loooooooooove your man so much, is to think about how YOU'D feel if you caught your man doing any of the stuff you're considering doing.

If it doesn't hurt or you're rationalizing it away, then you really don't care about that nikka.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

It's a lust vs. love thing at the moment. Right now everything you're saying is based on his looks. I'm not saying to NOT get coffee with the guy but more-so to acknowledge that you're lusting for the guy right now. You don't know him or know shyt about him, and the fact that he knows you're married and still is trying to get at you should say something.


BUT if you think the coffee, lust, flirting is worth the risk of your future fiancé and your child then go for it.

My sister had a similar issue once. I told her whatever glitters isn't gold, and basically she found out before she did anything stupid.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

You are right.

I keep saying temptation is a real fukk it situation. If a woman cheats she is a THOT, if a man cheats he's the nikka. Not saying this is an excusable instance but damn i am weak and feel like i'm going to give in. I can't take it anymore .... The intensity & curiosity i have is insatiable... He can't work without interacting with me and i can't work.....We too focused on each other & the unknown... I know i'm a stupid bytch......... I know....

I bet you be on FB and IG talking about how much you love your man and posting quotes and memes from Black Marriage groups and shyt.

 

[etrofllenrod504]

Nothing wrong with improving ones lot in life while putting in the extra effort to keep your relationship healthy & strong, but having a false sense of security with any woman is dangerous because even with all your positive personal attributes & good deeds, it still won't completely prevent your fiancé or prospective wife from contemplating a affair or actually cheating on you in the future if she chooses to do so.

my reply was ONLY a small piece of the puzzle....of coarse if he chooses to cheat i have no control over that i wouldnt say its security but more like i dont worry bout *shrugs* but you have to do your role in the relationship and thats all i can do.

 

[HookersandIceCream]

Yall some cornball
If a guy was going to cheat on his girl this thread would be different

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Juve was right

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Delete

 

[Dr. Narcisse]

So there is this guy, we work in an office setting together, we flirt.....hell we flirt alot sometimes with a sexual innuendo, he's fine as fucck, muscular build..younger than me & he turns me on just by the way he looks at me. I try to avoid him cause temptation is a bytch...... I think he's single but i am not sure.. He asked me to sit and have coffee with him on this saturday morning and i said yes.... But i have a Fiance............a live in Fiance at that, we have a child together... & my co-worker knows this.Jesus help me.... He looks like he can pick me up.... I have impure thoughts of him.......Am i a trollop?? We haven't fukked other than the thoughts in my mind.....i'm sure if i "keep getting coffee" with him things could get nasty but i feel like a cheater already....... Am i wrong to have these impure thoughts?? I need to back out on getting coffee with him but his fineness is stopping me. Go ahead call me out....call me tramp and a whore... This may help me....


What would you do if you were in this situation???

 

[Dr. Narcisse]

this thread right here is why I lay massive pipe to my fiancé, stay in the gym plus bjj, flip on her for no damn reason sometimes(just to remind her a nikka aint soft),
and make do random things to spoil her(so she feel appreciated but also so other broads will tell her how good she got it), cause it don't take much for a female to lose intrest in a man then start letting another dude grab hold of it.

One of my favorite sayings about girls who are the "wifey"...

"If you become a bore, she'll become a whore"

I've seen some of the real "good women" get flipped with no bad feelings about it.

You be surprised how many married/long term relationship women out here looking to fukk cause they "bored" at home.

Its rough out here now days.

 

[Liu Kang]

Good to have women trolling on this board. You're welcome ladies.

 

[Axum Ezana]

LOL


if you aint lying then you should not get married. someone is going to find out eventually and your master plan is not going to work out as good as you think.


don't make the mistake of staying with someone just because you have a child with them...you will not be happy and will continue to cheat with the next man and so on.

DONT GET MARRIED.

 

[Thegospel]

You see, this is real playa sh#t right here.....cheating for no tangible reason or come up is simply being thirsty....at least cheat to get something out the deal.

And when I say something out the deal I don't mean a STD, a pregnancy, embarrassment, loss of job or loss of fiance.

Peace

She's either just a female with no game or she's fat like someone else said and the dudes attention is foreign to her and she's turned on by the new attention. It took me awhile to over stand the game so I can't put her down much.

 

[nalej]

I say go for it, don't get caught, nobody gets hurt.

 

[Momentum]

Troll thread but read the Commandments if you're a believer... cheating in the mind counts too