Really?
Im just saying... I'm not raising another man's child and thats it.
- Thread starter Robo Squirrel
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I was raised by a single mother but I used to call a mf dad who really wasnt my dad.I got older and realized your just fukking my mom .
The Lyon King
Pro
I was raised by a single mother as well... I'm a step father to two... They father basically ghosted his children..me, having going through that myself..took up the role..I just can't do it. I might have to kick some ass n thats not my kid. F that. Im 34 n when a chick says she doesn't have any kids Im more attracted to them. I was raised by a single mother but I used to call a mf dad who really wasnt my dad.
I suppose im not "man enough."
Idc im not taking care of someone else's kids.
How do you people get down?
yeah.....what he said
I'M GOING TO BE ONE. MY GIRL HAS A DAUGHTER. SHE MINDS ME SO THAT AIN'T A PROBLEM.
HER DAD DIED WHEN SHE WAS PRETTY YOUNG. IT'S DEFINITELY A CASE BY CASE THING. I DON'T KNOCK PEOPLE WHO CAN'T OR WON'T DO IT. I DO HATE WHEN THEY DISCOURAGE OTHER GUYS FROM DOING IT THOUGH.
HER DAD DIED WHEN SHE WAS PRETTY YOUNG. IT'S DEFINITELY A CASE BY CASE THING. I DON'T KNOCK PEOPLE WHO CAN'T OR WON'T DO IT. I DO HATE WHEN THEY DISCOURAGE OTHER GUYS FROM DOING IT THOUGH.
Contrefaire
Superstar
At my age, I wouldn't want to play that part either.
On the flipside, understand that the "stepdad" role has been integral in shaping the minds of impressionable young people - across all cultures - for centuries.
Back in the day some dudes had no CHOICE BUT to "raise another man's child". Famine, war and disease made sure of that. And there was little stigma about it. And this goes across racial lines. There were, and always have been men who understood every child needs a father (figure).
Now while I fully understand the issues regarding doing this type of thing currently- especially since women routinely become single mothers despite circumstances being wholly within their control - make no mistake, for as much as you might hear disgruntled white men complain, they still do it regardless. Whether it be marrying a "single mom", or mentoring or occasionally stepping in for their dead(beat) brothers, sons or nephews.
Meanwhile there seems to be this idea among many in the BC that the children of single moms also need to be punished for the "poor decisions" made by their mothers no matter what; to the point where you'll even have some who believe that simply stepping in as a mentor for a fatherless child is a way of "caping" for an "irresponsible" single mother thereby "saving" her and thus should NOT be done.
Threads like these serve no purpose other than to ensure more black children remain without a father figure. And before anyone wants to angry-quote me for saying this, really think about it.
On the flipside, understand that the "stepdad" role has been integral in shaping the minds of impressionable young people - across all cultures - for centuries.
Back in the day some dudes had no CHOICE BUT to "raise another man's child". Famine, war and disease made sure of that. And there was little stigma about it. And this goes across racial lines. There were, and always have been men who understood every child needs a father (figure).
Now while I fully understand the issues regarding doing this type of thing currently- especially since women routinely become single mothers despite circumstances being wholly within their control - make no mistake, for as much as you might hear disgruntled white men complain, they still do it regardless. Whether it be marrying a "single mom", or mentoring or occasionally stepping in for their dead(beat) brothers, sons or nephews.
Meanwhile there seems to be this idea among many in the BC that the children of single moms also need to be punished for the "poor decisions" made by their mothers no matter what; to the point where you'll even have some who believe that simply stepping in as a mentor for a fatherless child is a way of "caping" for an "irresponsible" single mother thereby "saving" her and thus should NOT be done.
Threads like these serve no purpose other than to ensure more black children remain without a father figure. And before anyone wants to angry-quote me for saying this, really think about it.
No thanks.
This another reason why I pawg. You can always find more single white women without kids more than any black or Latina.
richaveli83
Veteran
At my age the chances of finding a solid woman with her stuff together without children is extremely hard. 
To y'all against stepfather's.... In the event that you die, you wouldn't want someone looking after your kids or helping your bm with your kids?
I was raised by a single mother as well... I'm a step father to two... They father basically ghosted his children..me, having going through that myself..took up the role..
Good for u Homie...a lot of guys on here claim they won't do it online, but in reality they do.
Just like they all deal with 9s and 10s, but in reality struggling to get a 4
At my age the chances of finding a solid woman with her stuff together without children is extremely hard.
Being a step parent is an emotionally taxing role to be in and I can't fault/shame anyone, man or woman, who doesn't want to be a step parent. Being a step parent means that you are the second adult in the household that is tasked with educating, disciplining, and being a role model to a child. Its hard enough doing this for your own children but, it's even harder if you are having to also, at the same time, deal with an adult outside of your household trying to accomplish the same goal due to being the biological parent. This is not an ideal situation for anyone but, its really not ideal for the childess step parent.
I just can't do it. I might have to kick some ass n thats not my kid. F that. Im 34 n when a chick says she doesn't have any kids Im more attracted to them. I was raised by a single mother but I used to call a mf dad who really wasnt my dad.
I suppose im not "man enough."
Idc im not taking care of someone else's kids.
How do you people get down?
You sound like you gotta work your own life out before you even think about starting a family
No disrespect, but it seems you got some unresolved shyt with your mom and her choices
BTW, i have two stepdaughters, love them to death, theyre a blessing and i always just refer to the fact i have 3 girls
Raise em every day, couldnt be happier