"I'm making him wait because he's SPECIAL!"

[Zapp Brannigan]

Whether you feel that way or not, other people may feel it cheapens a potential relationship if they have sex too soon. Just because you don't feel that way, doesn't mean that it doesn't make perfect sense in someone else's world. ​

Even if she was banging other dudes upon first meeting? I mean, if that were an applicable rule to all guys that might be one thing but if she's making the "special" guy wait, that's insulting to the allegedly special guy.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

That's an entirely different situation than just making him wait. She doesn't like him sexually. She's not sexing because he's special, she's waiting because she's trying to see if her desire towards him will increase if she gets to know him better

That's what I was also possibly thinking, but that kind of chemistry is something that just can't be forced. I would tell the guy to just dump her. She's been lying to him about banging other guys and telling him that she's making him wait because of the whole "special" excuse.

 

[Vandelay]

What's funny is...long term she really wasn't worth it...LOL!

So I can take solace in what I did.

 

[Turbulent]

i say let her cook. life will eventually teach her. and if this dude still falls for the okey-doke, then she and the simp both deserve one another.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

When you say it like that it does sound boring for someone in their 20s. At that age life want to live life on the edge.

Not denying that. But when you spend your 20s "finding yourself" and "having fun" you can't start whining about how there are no good men out there once you hit your 30s.

 

[DaddyTime]

I stopped at "she's still having one night stands while trying to figure this dude out"

A lot of people in society have became so dense that they believe talking to someone and not having a "title" is a free pass to fukk whoever and not inform the person they're "getting to know."

fukk all that.

 

[StickStickly]

That's what I was also possibly thinking, but that kind of chemistry is something that just can't be forced. I would tell the guy to just dump her. She's been lying to him about banging other guys and telling him that she's making him wait because of the whole "special" excuse.

Damn she's mean.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

I stopped at "she's still having one night stands while trying to figure this dude out"

A lot of people in society have became so dense that they believe talking to someone and not having a "title" is a free pass to fukk whoever and not inform the person they're "getting to know."

fukk all that.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

What logical reply? I didn't say that women should hold out on sex that they wanted to have. In fact, I did quite the opposite. You just assume that the entirety of the Coli thinks the same and act like you're the only brave voice that speaks out against it. I promise you that's not the case. I'm just saying that it's insulting to the men that are supposedly "special" in these women's eyes and it's insulting to them when you give it up really easily to guys that treat her badly and act all alpha in comparison.

Oh wait, that's the only thing you could think of because you really had no arguments against the rest of the post.

Im not sure you understand what a strawman is. You completely invented this supposition based on a stupid stereotype, and now you are using it as support as if its a fact.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Damn she's mean.

She is, but this behavior is pretty common.

 

[StickStickly]

Even if she was banging other dudes upon first meeting? I mean, if that were an applicable rule to all guys that might be one thing but if she's making the "special" guy wait, that's insulting to the allegedly special guy.

Yeah it is insulting to him. She has no interest in him, which is different than say women who make guys they want to have a long term relationship with wait, but obviously that's not who your coworker is. She sounds selfish and like a user

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Im not sure you understand what a strawman is. You completely invented this supposition based on a stupid stereotype, and now you are using it as support as if its a fact.

The strawman argument was that I was arguing in the OP that women should be ultra-selective in who they fukk but get mad when they don't fukk these other guys. I didn't make that argument here. I just said that it's a stupid mentality to take toward a new relationship and is insulting to the guy she's holding out on. If a girl wants to bang these other guys who treat her however, go right ahead as long as you're safe about it. I'm just saying that it's really dumb if you think it'll pan out well if you're applying this shytty logic to a relationship you see long-term potential in.

 

[Don Dada F Poppa]

I've had this issue before, and I was the fool who waited. Yea, I had thotties on the side and was up in other women's legs, but the one I wanted never gave it up actually had me feel a type of way about her (still do).

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

I've had this issue before, and I was the fool who waited. Yea, I had thotties on the side and was up in other women's legs, but the one I wanted never gave it up actually had me feel a type of way about her (still do).

Well, at least you had that consolation prize. Trust me, it's just a matter of "conquering" her at that point, it's not because she's particularly special.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Getting to know a person and building chemistry is only going to make the sex better anyway. I don't understand the issue with waiting it out.

It's not as if you can't keep building chemistry after having sex.