“I’m not worried about 50/50 convos because…”

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

You have no idea if he’s a passport bro or not. Most black men aren’t passport bros. So convos like that, that try to denigrate black American culture isn’t called for. Clearly she made that Twitter post highlighting that 50/50 is a shame. Look at the comments below it. It’s nothing but non-AAs saying “thank god my culture believes in 100/0 unlike AA culture”, even got AA women under there piling on AA men. shyt is ridiculous. Of course a 50/50 breh should be offended, because the connotation is that 50/50 is a negative and tries to tie AA males to laziness.

this is not "black american" culture. plenty of black men are willing to pay the bills and more.... in my experience
the phrase "50/50" has been actually called "going dutch" for the remainder of time B.T. (before twitter) for an actual reason

but you right, i have no idea if he is a passport bro.... just like he has no idea if she lives in a hut. i guess that's the danger of clapback clout

 

[Biscayne]

Just a quick question. Why was the brother offended by her comment?

If an non-black person said we don’t do 50/50 in our culture he most likely would have no smoke.

If this brother believes in 50/50 relationships than he wasted his time getting mad. Now if he is a dude who pays all the bills then I can see why he’s mad at the African girl cause then she would be generalizing

If he believes in 50/50 he has every right to voice his opinion. Because the connotation is that 50/50 is a negative and that AA men can’t handle a home. Even got Haitian men under there on some “Me too, we pay all our womens bills too”.

this is not "black american" culture. plenty of black men are willing to pay the bills and more.... in my experience

The tweet was made to tie it into AA culture. And it was made to denigrate couples that do 50/50.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Being a feminist and wanting to be financially independent Wanting to be in a transactional relationship, he'll treat you how he wants to because he buys you by funding your life style.
Wanting a man who is empathetic, collaborative, and even tempered Wanting a man who will be dominant and make all the decisions but then he'll tell you to shut the fukk up or put hands on you if you upset him.
Wanting a good man who is self sufficient and committed to a long relationship a good looking man who only brings toxicity and unpredictability to the table, but he looks good on all your pictures and all your friends compliment you on how good of a choice you made. They don't know him.

Until a woman can resolve these contradictions in her desires, every relationship she tries to get into is destined to fail.

 

[Peachstate]

Damn. I don't believe in 50/50 either but I ain't here for them slandering AA men. What do I do?

 

[O³ (O cubed)]

I was going to type out a long nuanced response to the tweet.

But then I thought nah, this is TLR and the convo will devolve into diaspora wars.

 

[69 others]

This whole looking down on 50/50 or shared income within a household is just stupid, especially coming from the poorest group of people in the world.

Two or more people contributing to a household is the quickest way to build up savings and investments and potentially wealth. The people who grow the most wealth that were not born rich are households with two professionals both contributing to the household.

It's sad seeing black people grab onto another trend that will only have us lagging behind other groups.

 

[69 others]

Damn. I don't believe in 50/50 either but I ain't here for them slandering AA men. What do I do?

Why? I know it's the latest trend for black women on social media but what's so bad about two working people contributing to a household? it does not have to be exact 50/50 but money earned within a marriage should be shared.

 

[Buddy]

 

[Koapa]

How about she explain what comes with the 100/0 relationship.

Me personally, I want it to be 70/30. We should both benefit, if we're both working individuals. But to each its own.

 

[Peachstate]

Why? I know it's the latest trend for black women on social media but what's so bad about two working people contributing to a household? it does not have to be exact 50/50 but money earned within a marriage should be shared.

I don't like the rigidity of it. 50/50 is for roommates who need everything to be equal. Tallying is petty and has no place in a loving, traditional marriage. Both people contributing is fine, but you pop out a calculator and a spreadsheet on me and it's over.

 

[Elim Garak]

If you worry about having to compromise in relationships about anything you don’t need to be in one.

Facts these women want a daddy not a relationship lol.

 

[69 others]

I don't like the rigidity of it. 50/50 is for roommates who need everything to be equal. Tallying is petty and has no place in a loving, traditional marriage. Both people contributing is fine, but you pop out a calculator and a spreadsheet on me and it's over.

I don't think most people mean it in that way, except maybe for dates. In terms of marriage or long-term relationships, it means both people are contributing to the household equally. meaning as money comes in from both people it goes into shared accounts for bills, investments, savings for vacations, cars, etc

 

[Peachstate]

I don't think most people mean it in that way, except maybe for dates. In terms of marriage or long-term relationships, it means both people are contributing to the household equally. meaning as money comes in from both people it goes into shared accounts for bills, investments, savings for vacations, cars, etc

They literally mean 50/50 when they say it, otherwise it's not 50/50 lol. And I also don't like the term equally when it comes to money, because it's never equal in terms of household chores, pregnancy, childbirth, or childrearing. Provider men understand this, in my experience, which is why they don't have these petty discussions. And plenty of AA men are providers.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

It’s 2023. Most families need two incomes to keep their household going. Doesn’t matter the race or religion.

Some of these women have dreams about working and keeping all of the money they make for themselves. Very few will actually have that luxury.

 

[Cool Dr. Money]

Too many single people trying to tell couples how they should manage their financial situations