Most of the time bm and bw are on their best behavior when they date/marry out.
A lot of us save the scraps within ourselves for our own people. Also, many men have allowed their hearts to be ruined by women who they should've never given it to the first place. A failure to properly vet and heed red flags, turns into a blame game towards bw as a whole.
When a man marries a woman who shares the same skin color as the woman who disappointed him, it can cause more vitriol, from what I have seen. It seems to be a common misconception among many black people, that life is happier and smoother with a white person. Fairy tales.
Yes, I don’t certain type of black ppl allow a “case by case” scenarios to be applied to each black person. It often becomes a one & done.
I do believe there are higher standards held for BM in relationships tho.
Meanwhile other groups can get multiple chances.
Breh does seem happy tho.