I’m thankful I dated a racist — here’s why

[SheWantTheD]

I read the whole thing, here's a shortened version:

She grew up in a black family that was very proud of their heritage, but she grew up in a predominately white town/school. White parents would ask her shyt like "Why don't you straighten your hair?, do you celebrate kwanzaa? And many times parents wouldn't want her over for play dates.

She saw "acting white" as a source of empowerment, and was ostracized (willing or not i don't know) from her black peers. She liked that non black people told her she was "different", "not like other black people" etc. Her mom asked her why she didn't date black men, she said she wasn't attracted to them and her mom in shock said "where did I go wrong?".

When she got to college, she still had an inferiority complex about being black and she got a white boyfriend. As she was starting to liken her blackness, her white boyfriend didn't like that. He was racist, didn't care for black lives matter, couldn't see the racial profiling, stereotyping, and struggles black people face. She realized her boyfriend's racism and dumped him, and now loves black men.

She fine tho!

 

[Guile]

I read the whole thing, here's a shortened version:

She grew up in a black family that was very proud of their heritage, but she grew up in a predominately white town/school. White parents would ask her shyt like "Why don't you straighten your hair?, do you celebrate kwanzaa? And many times parents wouldn't want her over for play dates.

She saw "acting white" as a source of empowerment, and was ostracized (willing or not i don't know) from her black peers. She liked that non black people told her she was "different", "not like other black people" etc. Her mom asked her why she didn't date black men, she said she wasn't attracted to them and her mom in shock said "where did I go wrong?".

When she got to college, she still had an inferiority complex about being black and she got a white boyfriend. As she was starting to liken her blackness, her white boyfriend didn't like that. He was racist, didn't care for black lives matter, couldn't see the racial profiling, stereotyping, and struggles black people face. She realized her boyfriend's racism and dumped him, and now loves black men.

She fine tho!

Most black people in mostly white settings have to go through this yet don't have a "phase".

 

[A1aaa]

"Society’s plan for me backfired. All my life, I was taught by Amerikkka that black men would never love me or give me the things that I needed. I was taught that black men grow up to be criminals and that they can’t be trusted. All of these lies I accepted as truth. I did what society wanted — I dated a white man because I thought black men weren’t good enough. And instead, I found out the exact opposite was true. Now I see why they want us to be apart so badly. Because our love, when true, is revolutionary. Being in love with a black man now… it’s incredible. At the end of the day, there’s nothing like having his brown skin next to mine, our histories, people and hearts intertwined together at the root."

seeing how deceitful and corny this sounds is what distinguishes those who will give her a pass versus those who can only laugh at this.

 

[yates]

How did she get smutted out? She was in a long-term, committed relationship that she chose to leave once she got her eyes opened and realized the race game in America and that her boyfriend was a racist. A lot of y'alls self-esteem is so low is and feelings of inferiority are so high, that you simply cannot believe that a black woman would choose black men over white men. "Nah, she lying. She only came back because he didn't want her no more but she'll go back to white boys 'cause don't nobody really want us." Is the self-hatred so intense that it blinded your eyes to the immense praise she gave black men? Did it blind your eyes to the fact that she clearly preferred black men and had no desire to date another white man? A lot of posters here are in genuine need of psychiatric help.

I don't know about these other nikkas, but what type of self-respecting black man would be with a black chick that was fukking a racist ?

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

I don't know about these other nikkas, but what type of self-respecting black man would be with a black chick that was fukking a racist ?

I would If she's a good woman, no need to throw her away. I don't require an impossibly perfect woman, just a good enough woman.

 

[Serious]

using black men as a last resort to come back to

fukk that hoe....

 

[yates]

I would If she's a good woman, no need to throw her away. I don't require an impossibly perfect woman, just a good enough woman.

do you breh.

When I look at my woman, I need to be able to respect her as a black woman. I cant respect a black woman that was fukking and sucking a racist breh.

I'm not mad at any black woman who shares her experience nor do I think they should be extricated from the black community, but I damn sure wouldn't make any of them my wife

 

[Mook]

What's a head bonnet for while sleeping?

 

[Serious]

I would If she's a good woman, no need to throw her away. I don't require an impossibly perfect woman, just a good enough woman.

fukk out of here

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

do you breh.

When I look at my woman, I need to be able to respect her as a black woman. I cant respect a black woman that was fukking and sucking a racist breh.

I'm not mad at any black woman who shares her experience nor do I think they should be extricated from the black community, but I damn sure wouldn't make any of them my wife

We all got some shyt in our past that would disqualify us in one way or another, as long as we move beyond that and be the best people we can be, I see no problem with accepting people despite their past. I mean the chick was in her 20s, she came around, what more do you expect?

 

[KingTut]

Story doesn't even surprise me. What does surprise me is that this is the umpteenth time I've read an article like this from a black woman this year alone. I can't believe people wanna be that black grandparent that no one ever talks about.

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

fukk out of here

I forgot, this is the coli, where all brehs here are perfect Malcolm X's/Tupacs/6 figure scientists/Bruce waynes who never make mistakes with clean histories. Meanwhile, a chick dates one racist white boy and she's eternal garbage. You dudes take yourselves too seriously.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

This is a ugly woman to you nikkas ??? are you serious ???.... I know most yall don't get p*ssy but damn. you must really hate women to be mad at this sista like at all

nikka that broad average as fukk. Where do you live because that's a 5 in Atlanta.

 

[godliness]

nikka that broad average as fukk. Where do you live because that's a 5 in Atlanta.

lmao I disagree hard af but yeah aint no talent where I am currently.


I'm moving to ATL or Cali next year tho

 

[↓R↑LYB]

lmao I disagree hard af but yeah aint no talent where I am currently.


I'm moving to ATL or Cali next year tho

Have you been to Atlanta before?