I’m too nice/boring a person

[Boris Reznikov]

I’ve come to the conclusion that personality wise, I’m not a very interesting person and even worse I’m a quite and at times timid person and I hate it. I’m the guy who responds to tour text seconds after getting it, is very polite, mild mannered etc and I hate it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I want to be some bad ass thug but I want to have some kid of edge to my personality; some grittiness, danger without at the same time not completely becoming someone else and I’m not sure how to go about it. Any tips, coli?

 

[Silkk]

Quit being a bytch


When you’re genuinely doing what YOU want to do and living how YOU want to live you won’t have to worry about that.

 

[Fat Fred Jones]

Can you answer this; why do you want that extra edge? Why isn't being your naturally, nice self enough for you?

Trying to put on a persona that isn't natural may work via text, but it's not going to fly very well in real life.

 

[alpo]

Man be yourself

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

@yezhovschina do you oet people walk over you?

 

[old pig]

join a gang

 

[FreedMind]

How about you do something cool on your spare time. Are you good at anything?

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

Man be yourself

For the folks in the back. Stop trying to change what you truly are. fukk em if they can't accept you for you. Ronamania made me realize that I love me and accept me. I love the following:

• Having a different view on life
• My smile
• My ability to be introverted but extroverted when the time is right
• Being the black sheep
• Holding down my family
• Being a dedicated husband in the mist of the finest jawns
• Being a wonderful dad despite being a fatherless child

Love yourself and embrace yourself. Look in the mirror and label the things that make you amazing. fukk this looking down on yourself, its 2020...have 20/20 vision for yourself.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Be yourself. The fukk?

As long as you have drive/values being nice, polite or quiet is not a flaw.

Realizing your dreams is what matters.

 

[ThaRealness]

I feel that. I mean I was supposed to be this mild mannered nerd/simp. The part of me that rejected that personality was so strong I chose 10 years of depression instead

OP you should find a new hobby and practice being assertive in everyday situations.

Don't be too hard on yourself, otherwise you'll become 2 different people like me. And that's no fun.

 

[Hoodoo Child]

If you got a garage, you can turn that shyt into a home gym. Get that testosterone pumping, boi.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Let the change come naturally.

Nice guys trying to force themselves to have an edge comes off as lame. There's too many lames playing a character in society already.

 

[Freedman]

Grow some dreadlocks

 

[Diondon]

Are people screwing you over in real life? I mean if that aint putting your defense up I don't know what will.
Just go to the gym

 

[ColdSlither]

Change that shyt then. Start working on you. You can't hit the gym right now, do some pushups, squats, lunges, whatever. Go get yourself an audiobook about conversation, and read more in general. Get some nonfiction audiobooks/e-books to expand your horizons. Right now you can't do much about going out, but do whatever you can with all this down time to improve yourself. Do some online dating and just video chat with women. The whole pretense of meeting up is off the table. So you can really just focus on your conversation skills. Hell, with people cooped up, I'm sure there are plenty of online groups out there with people who just want to talk.