Impossible situation...

[BruhMayne]

wants me to meet his ex-wife and baby mama

Unless

 

[iBrowse]

Before I answer I just read that you play Dead Space lemme read the rest of this shyt :totheeastside:

@MarsPunka needs to stop playing

Edit:

Two things.

1. Stop putting sex on a pedestal. What I mean is, giving him the box shouldn't equate to "giving him your all". Sex is just one aspect of any relationship. If that's "your all" then you need to work on yourself. I know that's not what you meant, but I feel like your mind is sort of indoctrinated to hold out the ass because that's the greatest part of you. If he's a quality dude who's feeling you, there should be give and take.

2. I'm not sure what you mean when you say that you love yourself too much to be someone's fukk buddy. I think this is actually part of the first point. Would you not be getting something out of it as well?

The only real thing here is I can see you being unwilling to fukk him cause you know your emotions will swell to a hundred trillion once he penetrates you. And if you're afraid he'd hit and quit, then my advice would be to stay away. The rest of that nonsense is nonsense.

What he said but dude has an ex-wife and a bm? Good luck with that

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Two things.

1. Stop putting sex on a pedestal. What I mean is, giving him the box shouldn't equate to "giving him your all". Sex is just one aspect of any relationship. If that's "your all" then you need to work on yourself. I know that's not what you meant, but I feel like your mind is sort of indoctrinated to hold out the ass because that's the greatest part of you. If he's a quality dude who's feeling you, there should be give and take.

2. I'm not sure what you mean when you say that you love yourself too much to be someone's fukk buddy. I think this is actually part of the first point. Would you not be getting something out of it as well?

The only real thing here is I can see you being unwilling to fukk him cause you know your emotions will swell to a hundred trillion once he penetrates you. And if you're afraid he'd hit and quit, then my advice would be to stay away. The rest of that nonsense is nonsense.

I don't think sex should be placed on a pedestal but as a woman I don't front, it comes with a lot of emotions. So like u said, sex doesn't equal my all, but it's a huge expression of love and I would be taking all the risk emotionally putting myself out there for somebody whose not ready, physically having to get on bc, ect. So yeah I think ur definitely on point. Good lookin out!!!

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

And there it is. Put the car in park. Pull up the brakes. Turn the ignition off. Get out. We've arrived at our fukking destination. Thanks for letting me know I ain't crazy here.

If you think holding out will mean anything youre mistaken.

If you think fukking him will help things youre mistaken.

If you think staying around and not fukking him he will stay celibate, youre sorely mistaken.

If you think the baggage of 2 women + a child is not THREE red flags, youre mistaken.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Then when they switch to these tactics you'll call them whores and sluts. @Booksnrain don't let these dudes guilt you into changing your views about sex. The way you feel about it is fine, and so is their way. You just need to find the one you can live with. Listen to Maya Angelou. When people show you who they are believe them. He will never commit to you. He already told you that. You're good enough to fukk, but not good enough to commit to?

Indeed. They don't get that we're not putting p*ssy on a pedestal, but emotionally shyt gets real for us. They also don't get the risk is higher for us in proportion to the yield or what we get in return. It's never just separate. There is no disconnect between the puss and the heart. Unless some shyt happened to damage you as a woman.
That's why I need all or nothing. Something real with one person. I wouldn't even be able to fully enjoy sex b/c we'd have to use condoms all the time b/c I'm not about health risks. I need that exclusivity and there is nothing worse than givin 100% to somebody who can't return that.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Unless

lmao. Nah. Not even possible. He said he wanted them to know I was in his life. I think he just wants the perks of being in a relationship without any risk or responsibility. He is real jaded and I think these women did a number on him. But regardless I can be punished for his past mistakes in who he chose to wife up and date. I gotta keep it movin.

 

[Arishok]

Before I answer I just read that you play Dead Space lemme read the rest of this shyt :totheeastside:

@MarsPunka needs to stop playing

Edit:


What he said but dude has an ex-wife and a bm? Good luck with that

What I do

 

[Luck]

I thought I was in the salon

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Before I answer I just read that you play Dead Space lemme read the rest of this shyt :totheeastside:

@MarsPunka needs to stop playing

Edit:


What he said but dude has an ex-wife and a bm? Good luck with that

Lmao!
Dead Space made fully acknowledge my inner punk. I like scary movies b/c I'm never really scared, but maaaaannnn, when I gotta memo about them coming through the vents. I stopped. Never been so shook in my life...lol! And I'm in here playing with the blinds closed at night in the dark. Hell naw.

 

[1stPick]

I kinda already know the answer but wanted to get perspective...contrary to popular belief men have many nuggets of knowledge to share when it comes to relationships.

Currently talking to a great guy. Have been hanging out for about 3 months. Dude has really wormed his way into my heart and we've literally spent nearly everyday together either chilling at my place watching anime and him helping me not to panic when playing Dead Space or chilling at his place.

He acts like a boyfriend. Texts me everyday, let's me cook for him, takes me out, took me to meet his mother, wants me to meet his ex-wife and baby mama, checks on me when I'm sick.

Just one problem.
He's been hurt by past relationships so he has told me upfront that he isn't ready for anything serious.
I told him that I could respect that and give him a chance to get settled b4 he jumped into something else. He actually needs that time to chill and be a bachelor.

Problem is, I don't have sex outside of relationships and I think resentment is building up. Only been intimate with one other and we were pretty serious.

My problem is I love myself too much to be anyone's fukk buddy. Besides which I would be entering into a situation where I would be giving my all to someone who is unwilling to do the same for me.

I don't see this working out...but it's gonna suck losing him...
Ole fine azz...

Thoughts?

What's wrong with being someone's fukk buddy?

 

[iBrowse]

Lmao!
Dead Space made fully acknowledge my inner punk. I like scary movies b/c I'm never really scared, but maaaaannnn, when I gotta memo about them coming through the vents. I stopped. Never been so shook in my life...lol! And I'm in here playing with the blinds closed at night in the dark. Hell naw.

Play Alien: Isolation

 

[Jesus]

Don't listen to these nikkas trying to rationalize you being that bum nikka's fukk buddy....

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

What's wrong with being someone's fukk buddy?

Everything. Especially, when you want more and the other person can't give it.
Why would a woman want to be a fuk buddy when she could be in a stable loving relationship with somebody who loves and protects her and is willing to give just as much as she is willing to give?

What episode of "This Gay Earth" did I fall into where it's better to fuk with nikkas who ultimately don't give a damn about u enuff to commit, instead of being with someone who does...?

 

[Brofato]

Everything. Especially, when you want more and the other person can't give it.
Why would a woman want to be a fuk buddy when she could be in a stable loving relationship with somebody who loves and protects her and is willing to give just as much as she is willing to give?

What episode of "This Gay Earth" did I fall into where it's better to fuk with nikkas who ultimately don't give a damn about u enuff to commit, instead of being with someone who does...?

That's pretty much what the other dudes were saying. You want to be in a relationship but if he doesn't, then do both of you a favor and dip. You won't have to worry yourself to death thinking about shyt like this and you can find someone who has the same vibe.

Just bring it up to him. The only harm will be losing someone you enjoy being with but can't mesh with on every level. Your emotions are already deep into it. Losing a good friend is tough but not the end of the world if you power through it. In pre-relationship mode you take care of your own needs and adhere to your values. If they differ from the person you want to be in a relationship with, someone will probably compromise or you just don't get into it.

 

[Flychologist]

A guy who would introduce you to his mother but says he isn't serious about you is either full of shyt or doesn't respect his mother. Either way keep it moving. Men don't let their mom meet fukk buddies unless they plan on them being around for a while which sounds like he does but he wants it on his terms.

In conclusion, he wants to keep the possibility of being able to mess with other girls alive. He doesn't have to close off that door if you don't have an official title. He's not ready for anything serious but he is dealing with 7 days a week. Red Flag. You are a safety net incase his real plan doesn't work out.