In your dating/relationship history, what valuable lessons have you learned?

[Top Flight Security]

Don't get too comfortable in your relationship that you let yourself go.

Don't ignore the signs.

99% of the time, the past should be left in the past.

Don't put up with mistreatment from someone just to remain friends/lovers.

all of this.

also...if you 2 are going through a lil "rough/tough time" or whatever you wanna call it. where y'all are still together but not getting along...think back to when, how, and why the relationship began in the first place.

ain't gon lie, i was when me and my baby mama split up...but once i finally started thinking about how we started out and lemme tell ya, i dodged a bullet with that one...last six months have been straight up

 

[Crakface]

- you don't owe each other ANYTHING except mutual courtesy/respect.

You can't advance without that respect. If the person does not treat you with the common decency they afford the average person, you might as well have 'em kick them rocks.

Outside of that, a nicca/broad doesn't owe you marriage. They don't owe you sex every day. They don't owe you free dinner. They don't owe you all their free time. They don't owe you to cut all their friends/family off. If these are things they wish to do as you become exclusive, great. But you have to earn these from them, and they have to want to give them to you.


- women want what men want.

- don't tell the homies all yo' bidness.

- you have to be able to actually sit down and have a conversation for a good relationship with somebody. If you can't stand the sound of their voice, can't talk to them without having an argument, etc., it ain't gonna work no matter what other benefits the union may come with.

You must keep a sidepiece at all times with this attitude. I wish she would tel me she dont owe me all the above.

 

[Rich Spirit]

if she never talks about her ex, she's over her ex

if she constantly complains about how much she hates him and how you're so much better, she still loves him and will leave you for him as soon as she gets a phone call

So much truth

Also if she wants a "break" or some "space", pretty much means she wants to break up with you.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Be very leery of getting seriously involved with women who approach you first. Humans are humans, so there are always exceptions and nothing is absolute, but its a bad sign when a woman does that, even tho its an ego boost 'cause it makes one feel desirable. It generally means that she is desperate, lacks discipline, and is very needy.

Cats are quick to lose interest in a woman if she doesnt let you beat off top, or even comes across as standoffish when you first meet her, but the girl that plays hard to get is more likely to be stable. Its easier and more natural to build with a female who wants you, but doesnt need you. The patterns in my personal relationships have bore this out. Just my perspective.

 

[-DMP-]

Never start anything in at the beginning of a relation ship you can't keep up.

Always let a potential partner know what you will and won't tolerate when it occurs.

-DMP-

 

[Just like bruddas]

Never wife a woman that let you hit on the first date, seriously something is wrong up there in her brain. Now if she just looking for sex then but if she wants to be ya gf afterwards then

Also women with a bunch of male friends are a no no, dont believe that shyt about her not trusting other chicks, she's usually wants the attention for herself to try and will cont to do even in a relationship.

Go to a local spot to chill and every dude knows her, its usually for a reason. Regardless no dice, the bushes she goes.

If her ex is locked up in jail, keep it moving especially if she still accepting calls from him.

any grown ass woman that plays are to get is a woman that will be hard to love, the bushes she goes

Strong Independent I dont need a man for anything type of woman are usually just putting on a front but if its not a front then she's mostly likely gay.


Be careful around women with a lot of gay male friends, her perception maybe compromised especially if she dont have a strong male figure in her life.

 

[Tom Foolery]

In 2012, you have to go hard in the paint. Be a man and let your fukking nuts hang. I'd rather be feared than loved.

 

[Ohene]

chill out breh, im thing im saying is if i was to type everything i learned, it would be a least 10 paragraphs, might make a voice message or something idk

Dont know how i misread that. Been up since 6am my bad breh

 

[Doobie Doo]

I've learned not to date SINGLE MOTHERS under any circumstance. Unless her baby daddy died there is a reason he didn't stay. Plus most chicks lie when dating so they can be they real selves after they get married.

 

[Top Flight Security]

In 2012, you have to go hard in the paint. Be a man and let your fukking nuts hang. I'd rather be feared than loved.

This is my favorite post of the thread.

 

[Just like bruddas]

Dont know how i misread that. Been up since 6am my bad breh

its all right

 

[Ohene]

This relates to people getting too comfortable in relationships.

It's important to view past events and expenditures in relationships as sunk costs. That gift you bought her, that rent you covered for her etc etc. It's in the past, it isnt recoverable so just charge it to the game and get out while you still can.

Most people after a long time in a relationship let some of the worst shyt slide because they've invested so much time, money and effort into the relationship that they dont want to have to start over. Even worse, some people will use these nice deeds or gestures as rationale for why the other party is a snake or why they dont deserve to be dumped. Theres a fine line between working through adversity and being a doormat though.

The investment goes both ways so even though you may have had some great years in the past learn to recognize when you should cut your losses and jump ship.

The earnings report falls way below expectations. The growth has greatly declined and competitors have shot way ahead...it be a gang of analysts recommending you sell/the stock will underperform yet people still feel the need to stay in the relationship. It baffles me sometimes.

 

[RandomRN86]

You may never know the full truth, but you can observe....






I make it a point to know my man, ladies you should too...

 

[Nintendough]

Anybody can be pushed into doing something crazy.


Being alone is the ultimate peace.


When outsiders get involved the relationship is tainted, let it go.

 

[rapdonttweet]

So much truth

Also if she wants a "break" or some "space", pretty much means she wants to break up with you.

Or she has the hots for someone else. I've had a few female friends who pull this with their bf just to go hang out with some other dude for a week and then they go back. Its not cheating if they're "on break"